To think posting about your pregnancy on social networks is insensitive?

[ivanapoo]

I don't mean the odd post here and there, I mean daily or more frequent updates/photos of scans, things you've bought or made for the baby, the "delicious" glass of Appletize you're enjoying, how sick you're feeling, how big your bump is, and so on ad infinitum?

Not only is it more boring than a parking thread on AIBU for all the friends in whose newsfeeds your updates appear, but for many women of childbearing age there's a good chance your peers/friends may be TTC, or unable to conceive, or wishing they had a partner to conceive with.

Almost as bad are the parents who detail every tiny little boring thing their child has done that day. I'm still waiting for someone to Instagram a picture of their baby's shitty nappy.

[CloudsAndTrees]

YABU. Use the very useful hide function that Facebook have kindly provided you with.

[JethroTull]

YABU. We were TTC for almost 4 years. I'm now amazingly pregnant with the help of IVF. I did comment about it (once) on FB. Yes, I thought about other people that were still TTC but hoped that they also knew how hard it had been for us to have this success & hoped they would be happy for us.

FB is for 'friends' to connect. If you're not happy for your 'friends' maybe you should think about why you can see their newsfeed?

[idiuntno57]

YABU I am afraid.

Facebook provides you with the tools to manage what you see. Use them.

I am sometimes jealous of the lives I belive my friends are leading through the rose tinted specs of Facebook. Because I care for them I can overcome those feelings. End of.

HTH

[elQuintoConyo]

Don't post about your holiday, I'm jealius that I can't afford it.
Stop complaining about the snow, I'd fucking love some, sick of this Mediterranean sun, me.
Stop posting about getting drunk, dong stupid things to the dog and passing out in the big with your knickers down.
Stop posting about your pets.
Stop complaining about your job, at least you've got one.
Stop posting pictures of the fabulous things you've painted/sewed/cooked, I'm untalented and jealous.

Stop complaining about things people put on FB: hide their status updates, unfriend them or be happy for them.

[midori1999]

Congratulations Jethro!

OP, YABU. Sadly for those who are having problems concieving or who have lost a baby (I have been there) there are pregnant women bloody everywhere. At least on Facebook you can hide a newsfeed, you can't go out with your eyes covered. I like seeing about my friends' pregnancies anyway, although I do agree it's possible for people to mention it too much or get a bit boring, but that's Facebook!

[elQuintoConyo]

jealous doing bog terrible spellings, must edit better!

[exoticfruits]

I can't say more than elQuinto- it is quite incredible how FB upsets people- you don't have to be on there!

[MintyyAeroEgg]

Yanbu. Facebook is full of posts that are deeply insensitive to some of the people reading them. But asking people to moderate all their posting in view of that is bu, I'm afraid.

[Uppermid]

Yabcompletelyu.

[ReindeerBollocks]

A little sensitive Yabu.

It's not easy though, I remember having to grin and bear it when a good friend told me she was pregnant the day after I miscarried. My heart broke - despite being over the bloody moon for her.

But FB - or brag book if you will- is a place for sharing, so people will. Doesn't stop it from upsetting you but I'm sure they wouldn't intend to do so.

[Bodicea]

I am I the fence. Having had two miscarriages in 2012 I found Facebook very dufficult for a while and I stopped going on altogether. I gradually went back on and just hid the posts of the worst offending baby bores.
I can understand why they do it though as when you are pregnant you are all consumed and I imagine when you are I maternity leave your baby is your world so what else are you going to talk about, it's not like you have lots of exciting nights out to post about!
Now I am newly pregnant again I will eventually post something about being pregnant although not till very late as obviously dont want to jinx and I will try my best to have a reasonably balanced amount of baby/nonbaby related posts.
I do however intend to keep my profile picture as myself not my baby - at the very most me holding baby. On some people profiles they appear to cease being a person in their own right, once they have a child, you can't find a single pic of them which I find bizarre.

[Bodicea]

Please excuse bad grammar fat fingers on iPhone x

[HavingALittleFaithBaby]

Hope all goes smoothly this time Bodicea.

[WeAreEternal]

YABVVU

One of my closest friends has been TTC for 5 years, she has suffered 8 miscarriages inc two late stage MC.

She is as thrilled as the rest of us when another friend announces a pregnancy and happily posts on their pictures and updates.
Yes of course she is a little sad for herself but that is far overtake by the happiness for a friend.

I would also love another baby, but because of DPs job and the fact that is isn't going to be home until Christmas it is not the right time.
I do feel pangs of jealousy when I see a friend posting about their pregnancy, but I am so happy for them.

If you don't like the updates defriend them.

[DoJo]

YABU for thinking that there aren't posts of babies' shitty nappies out there doing the rounds - have you not seen www.stfuparentsblog.com/?

[yousankmybattleship]

YUBVU. I struggled for years and years with infertility and I can honestly say that other people's pregnancies never brought me anything but happiness. Good news is good news, it doesn't matter what is going on in your life. If you really can't deal with it, hide it, but also think about what kind of person that makes you.

[mameulah]

I TOTALLY agree with you! YANBU!!!!!

[Maggie111]

YANBU - you should be respectful. I'm pregnant and have written a few updates about the pregnancy on fb, I'm very aware that people on my feed will be TTC and hurt - I always consider that before I post.

For some reason I think the frequency can increase once the baby arrives - but still, not mush every day. But then I hate it when I get lots of updates about any one topic - like going on holiday or dieting. It's like "I get it already! Shut up!"

[shellbu]

i dont think its insensitive , but it is as boring as hell ,once the baby is here though they wont have time to update everyday ,its almost as boring as peoples countdowns to their holiday :)

[shesariver]

YAB completely U - so do you think everyone who is pregnant shouldn't post a thing about it for fear of upsetting someone who wants to be but is not? Life doesn't work like that. if that was the case then everything would be insensitive to someone - e.g I would take great offense and find it very insensitive to see peoples pictures with their Mums because mine is dead. Sadly life doesn't stop no matter how bad we can feel about something and it certainly doesn't mean others don't have the right to be happy - and share this happiness if that's what they want.

[DreamingOfTheMaldives]

I had a miscarriage last year and my friend's sister was also pregnant at the same time - I just hid her posts from my newsfeeds for a few months until I felt able to handle seeing them.

Should people not post any mention about their Dads because my Dad died and I miss him and sometimes seeing people with their Dads makes me sad?!!!!

Op YABU although I do agree that the relentless updates numerous times a day about their baby can get a little dull

[Alisvolatpropiis]

YABU. It's incredibly dull but that is all.

[flaminhoopsaloolah]

YABU - you can't help other people's misfortunes. Would it be reasonable for someone who was pregnant to be upset with a friend who couldn't conceive who was posting her sadness on FB because said friend was making pregnant person feel guilty for being pregnant? Or a friend who was posting about her grief about recently losing her baby? It's all give and take.

[zeeboo]

Oh for goodness sake. The reason OP that I posted every second of my pregnancy and my daughters babyhood on Facebook is because of 3 years of secondary infertility, 3 miscarriages and 2 gynaecological operations.
After that I was bloody excited and thrilled. And you think I don't understand the pain of miscarriage or infertility??
I stand by my approach to Facebook. It's my space on the Internet, I will say and post what I like as long as it isn't genuinely offensive. If you don't like it, then un-friend me. Simple as that.

[SatsukiKusukabe]

it's dull as fuck and yes insensitive. I had a few friends at how hard it was while we were going through infertile reading about everyone's every second of pregnancy.... and then when they got pregnant they did exactly the sane it felt like a knife everytime I had to read it or the suprise reveals.