Nanny spotted reading magazine whilst child at playbarn

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AIBU to be annoyed at my nanny for reading a wedding magazine whilst 3 year old DS is at a playbarn, or do all nannies think it is reasonable to behave like this??

She was spotted by one of my friends the other week. I don't mind her having a coffee or something whilst she is there, but I expect her to keep an eye on DS, not have her nose buried in a magazine. Particularly on the money we pay her.

Hester Was Rastamouse an actual thread?!

Well, I employ a nanny because I work, and no, I don't work as a nanny .

I am quite eveeeel though .

This must be a reverse AIBU, surely? Please?

In case it's not: I don't disagree with the notion that your nanny should respect your parenting choices, but otoh if you do not trust her to look after your child using her own judgement when you are not there, then you should not have anybody look after your child.
Letting somebody else (paid childcare, family, friends) look after your child means that you have handed over the responsibility of looking after them. You sound actually quite unhappy with the whole arrangement and therefore suspicious, maybe?

Am I the only one who thinks soft play is good fun?

Soft play is good fun when you can join in
Our local one does not allow adults on the climbing frame thing.
And DS4(3) now pushes me out of the way in his haste to follow his friends/brothers.
Which leaves me free to neglect him...

How was your most marvellous friend looking after her own DC whilst keeping surveillance an eye on your Nanny?

Have you really written down somewhere that you want DS monitored and handled at all times? What will you expect when he goes to school, or will nanny be forced into a uniform and re-live advanced finger painting.

FGS unclench woman.

Or pack you job in and look after your DC yourself perhaps.

Our soft play closed recently but it did let adults in to play

They lets us go down the long wavy slide too but not the vertical drop slide for which I was eternally grateful

Ive always thought there should be ones just for adults, dh wanted to open one up for adults that would be licenced, he thought it could be become the next big thing, bless him

Dreams surely that's just a Wetherspoons with a bumpy slide in the corner, no?

I must be sadly misinformed because I thought the POINT of these places was for the DC to run around on their own. It's one of the few environments where it's actually safe for them to do so. Isn't it?

Have you sacked the lazy cow yet OP?

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I thought the point of soft play was that you could worry less about them falling and hurting themselves on hard surfaces and so be less hands-on with unsteady toddlers etc. I didn't think it absolved you of all supervisory responsibilities.

'supervisory responsibilities' is exactly what softplay gives you. You sit in head office with a magazine and a coffee and when there is a problem the DC come and report it to you.

Is this the same Nanny, or have you frightened off another few since then?
www.mumsnet.com/Talk/childminders_nannies_au_pairs_etc/1158626-Feeding-the-nanny

Oh this is a good thread. Home from work, (yes op, I was at work), tired. This has rite cheered me up. Love a good laff

Where that approach fails, Outraged, is where your DC are the protagonists. That's the real point.

You don't mind her having a coffee?
Are you really sure about this? If I were you I would ban the consumption of any food or drink and insist of a full scale fast all the time she is in charge of your DS.

Drinking and flicking through a magazine

I think that's a risk you have to take tbh. At our softplay once they're in the playframe you can't see them from outside. It's huge and packed. The only option would be to go in with them, they don't allow that. The options are; don't go to softplay or take a chance that you've brought them up well enough not to turn into violent hooligans the minute they get a but of freedom. My DC don't hurt other kids anywhere else, I don't know why they would start at softplay. I take the risk.

What do you want her to do , never take her eyes off your child. Grow up wonder how she would feel if she knew she was being watched by your friend's.Would hate to be your nanny . YABU.

Fair enough. I probably would be giving anywhere a swerve that I couldn't see and intervene if needed. Especially since I'm talking about 2 and 3 year olds, not 5, 6 or upwards.

I'm just slightly taken aback that the debate appears to be whether a warehouse full of overexcited toddlers and pre-schoolers mostly moving at speed requires adult supervision or not. Really?!?

O my! Just looked at the fridge thread. I don't think the op is very comfortable with servants.

I'm not a nanny either. Op - you're unhinged, Seriously, you need to lie down in a darkened room for a few months. All those on this thread who won't let their dcs out of their sight for more than 30 seconds in a secure SOFT PLAY location can join you too.

Ditch the friend by the way. She's only encouraging you in your complete and utter oddness.

Try respecting the caregiver you employ, try trusting her and you might just regain some of your sanity. Please don't ever, ever say 'particularly on the money we pay her' again. Your child is, I assume, your most precious possession? Therefore his happiness and safety is beyond price. You should pick a caregiver who shares your values (within reason as some of your values are clearly cocked up) and who will keep him happy and safe. You pay that person a fair wage for fair work done and that's it. You don't own her. You don't get to weigh the value of her work by the £.

Goodness me, you disgust me. But then I was on the two year old thread where you bitched about nanny eating fruit.

I think people have different degrees of what supervision is required Foshizzle, I haven`t seen anyone on here say they dont keep an eye out at all, but most people agree that you can multitask in a soft play. What do you do if you have more than one pre-schooler going in opposite directions?

Anyway, isnt soft play/playgrounds etc the gentle start to a little independence?

The nanny eats fruit??!

Whatever next?