to think some people resent me being a sahm?

[PurpleMacaroon]

I was recently working part time but the company went into liquidation and sadly I was made redundant - and have been a sahm since October. We can still pay the bills and have some left over to do what we want with and thankfully I had managed to save too whilst I was working. We were surprised that this has worked well for us and we're planning on having another baby soon so I won't be going back to work any time soon.

I gave my friends a lift home last night (it was literally a 2 minute drive) so I said in a jokey way - "you both owe me petrol money" and they laughed and one said back - "don't you mean we owe your husband petrol money?"

I was invited by a friend to go on a weekend trip to Berlin (I went, cheap flight, standard hotel - nothing extravagant.) Didn't even bother to mention it until my friend asked me to go out for lunch on Saturday and I said I couldn't and she asked why. When I told her, she said "how the hell can you afford that when you're unemployed?? Oh is your husband paying then?"

It just hurts because I never judge or openly comment on them for their life decisions.

Fat hag here.

(I can't do that can I?)

Everyone's jealous of me and my triple creme egg box rating.

I am sitting here eating crime eggs. I want to be totally round. I want to be a sahsphere.

If I were a SAHM I would have no discipline.

I work PT days and nights and weekends. My dream is:

3/4 days a week. Start at 9. Less than hour commute. Finish 5pm.

Limited unsocial hours. (2-3 days a month)

With consistent childcare rather than haphazard arrangement of 6 different providers. Yet, nothing.

I am Jealous of SAHMs in a way. But only bec I wish the escape of work was more easy to sort out.

I dread to think what a crime egg is

Crack a crime egg

Food for thought: How do WOHPs rationalise their claim that they 'love their kids just as much' with the evidence which shows that children with a SAHP generally fare better?

For sake of clarity, I'm aiming this question at those who choose to work, rather than those who have to.

What evidence is that, MaryJane?

Even if you can find some, it wouldn't demonstrate that the poor, poor children of working folk are less loved, would it?

Theoretically speaking, if you loved your kids, would you want them to be at a disadvantage?

Could you link to that published peer-reviewed study please, MaryJane?

You weigh up the pros and cons.

You cannot say that the children of working parents are disadvantaged without defining disadvantage, for a start.

There isn't any evidence of that is there?

In fact, the evidence shows that DC from wealthier backgrounds fare better then their poorer peers, so you might say that by having less money coming in by having a SAHP is somehting you'd only do if you didn't love your DC...

Could you Link please to that evidence please blackmaryjane

That'll be a no then blackmaryjanes ....

Children brought up by sahms turn to crime eggs. It's true.

You have to laugh at their small mindedness. I am a single SAHM and I get a lot of people assuming I must have a rich husband to be able to do this as I am not on benefits. People react very differently to me when they see I am not married or with a b.f etc. You just have to get on with it knowing that you can look after yourself and if they don't see that then it really doesn't affect you in the slightest.

Poor, poor crime egg children.

If only their mothers loved them less :(

There can be no conclusive evidence either way, can there? In our circumstances, the outcome (if you can even define it) is probably better with me working. If my son had additional needs that school couldn't meet it and we couldn't buy in, the situation might be different.

And when are we measuring these outcomes? At 11? 16? 25? Bar tragedy befalling us, our children are around for far longer than the baby and toddler years.

Oh those crime egg children. Think of the disadvantage they face...what with only being seasonal.

They fare so much worse than the year round confectionary children.

In fact the only children with worse outcomes are the selection box children .

Its a modern day tragedy.

I think pag you might find a chocolate orange a little more robust.

There's a shit, pseudo-science article in this for sure.

Crime egg children - overwhelmed by their mothers' love, drowning in maternal attention. Their only escape is a dark, Easter-themed criminal underbelly.

Non-seasonal confectionery children - well rounded sorts who can handle most eventualities.

Selection box children - looked after by childminders, nannies, relatives and day orphanages. Sometimes they have to let themselves in after school

and [weeps]

Wheezing with laughter here!

My crime egg twins are sharpening their dummies razors as I type hiding in the corner...