To think i shouldn't have to pay HALF of the holiday, just because i have a child?

[WhistlingNun]

My two friends suggested we should go on a caravan holiday this summer with my 5yo dd (neither of my two friends have children).

We've decided on a self-catering Haven holiday and the total price is approx £450 for the week, including funworks passes etc. Only additional costs would be for food and transport, which we'd pay our own way on when we get there.

Anyway, my friends are expecting me to pay half - so £225 - rather than a third - £150.

They say it's because dd will count towards the price too.

I've just checked how much it would be for me and dd to go alone - on the exact same holiday - and it's still £450 - the same price.

The price is based on size and type of caravan, not how many people are in the group. And since the smallest caravan is 2 bedrooms, it's the same price.

(Hope this is making sense).

Anyway, i'm a bit peed off they expect me to pay £225 and they can just pay £112 each. They've reluctantly agreed to go thirds instead (£150) each, but have said it's just to shut me up, they're not happy about it.

AIBU?

I've slept in those double beds with dh. They'll be better off in singles. The doubles are about one and half single beds size.

Yes, Dizzy, i'll mention that just now to them.

I wouldn't bother OP.

It's based on the size of the caravan, not amount of people.I think your friends are using your child as an excuse not go thirds and therefore not pay as much.

As I said, I wouldn't bother. Then they'll have to pay half won't they?

Stripiest I would tend to give a passing thought to consumption. Children don't eat as much food, certainly don't drink alcohol etc but do take up the same space in a car and a bed in a house. Since I'm generous I tend to offer to pay in whatever manner is least favourable to me and usually the final result is an agreeable compromise.

Jeez that moved fast, that was directed at Where you left it not you OP, just wanted to clarify.

WhistlingNun, the reason I ask is because you are taking such an extreme stance it makes no sense otherwise. If you are aware of a reason you don't read social situations well, you can take measures to avoid messing up, e.g. asking a trusted person what they thought about it and taking their advice. I do fear that you may be messing up big time here, and lose your friends. I actually don't want you to mess up.

Yes you can be a bit of twat

I don't think you've been a twat here.
Just obviously very convinced you were right.
You've done more than some people would be able to by actually taking a step back, reflecting on the different opinions and using them to think again about what you feel is fair.

Oh calm down, calm down all of you. This really is just getting very silly and unnecessary. The original poster asked for our opinions, we gave them she didn't agree, move on! Go and have a Victoria Sandwich and a cup of tea and get over it FOOLS!

Oh. But stubborn?

HELL YEAH!!

I'm afraid I'm going to have to go back to the security of the cake and bird thread, this is all getting a bit stressful

Ha we can all be stubborn. Op you took a bit of a pasting here but well done for fixing it. Just try not to get upset over imagined scenarios!

Mutt - yep they are quite large, which is why they thought they'd be better off in the double.

I'll say to them about the double being small though.

Think i ought to de-stress now and look forward to telling dd about our holiday when she comes home later.

50/50, don't understand why you wouldn't want to pay your way, it's your child not your friends. They are probably really pissed off with you now which won't be a good start to your hiolidsy, stop being do tight!

Ok...I'm back (can't stay away from this)

in your position I would take the double simply because it is easier for an adult and child to share than it is for two adults.

I would see it as fairer on them really

I'd go with the double in your situation too Whistling. Plus then you get lovely night cuddles alongside elbows and kicks from DD.

Exactly cortana

OP, well done. You might have just saved a couple of friendships. Have a lovely break.

Evening everyone,

We've just had to delete a post, and withdraw a few other that referred to it. Peace and love, as our lovely Olivia would say.

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Thanks Kate!

Good plan OP. I hope you all have a great time.

Fair play OP. Not many folk admit that they may have been unreasonable after being so certain they were not. :o

This is the most frustrating thread I've ever read.