To think i shouldn't have to pay HALF of the holiday, just because i have a child?

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My two friends suggested we should go on a caravan holiday this summer with my 5yo dd (neither of my two friends have children).

We've decided on a self-catering Haven holiday and the total price is approx £450 for the week, including funworks passes etc. Only additional costs would be for food and transport, which we'd pay our own way on when we get there.

Anyway, my friends are expecting me to pay half - so £225 - rather than a third - £150.

They say it's because dd will count towards the price too.

I've just checked how much it would be for me and dd to go alone - on the exact same holiday - and it's still £450 - the same price.

The price is based on size and type of caravan, not how many people are in the group. And since the smallest caravan is 2 bedrooms, it's the same price.

(Hope this is making sense).

Anyway, i'm a bit peed off they expect me to pay £225 and they can just pay £112 each. They've reluctantly agreed to go thirds instead (£150) each, but have said it's just to shut me up, they're not happy about it.

AIBU?

YANBU

I would point out that as you're not booking a caravan with an extra bedroom, it's £150 each.

I'd have expected to pay more, why would you expect them to subsidise your daughters holiday? A babe in arms, then a third would have been fair but if ober that then sharing cost per person seems fair.

But the price would be the same (£450) whether or not my dd was coming.

If you don't want to pay your fair share of this (ie yourself plus your child) book separately and pay £450. I think you should pay half to be honest. Not a good start to the holiday really, if I were your friends I'd be having second thoughts.

I agree with them tbh

YABU. You should pay half.

Not a recipient for a fun holiday though is it?

It should be per room IMO.

So if it's a 2 bed, they pay for 1 room and you the other.

You shouldn't expect them to sub you and your child.

It sounds reasonable to split the cost four ways when there are four people going.

But if youa re already arguing about it, I'm not sure this holiday is a good idea in the first place.

how much is it for 3 adults?

Yanbu.
I wouldn't go.
Huffy? Maybe, but it sounds like too much stress.

Sorry recipie of course.

Are you booking a two bedroomed caravan? If so, I can see their point as you are having one room and they are having one room.

Having said that, I think it's very, very mean to do that to a friend. I wouldn't factor in the child when it comes to breaking down the costs.

Have I read this wrong?

The caravan is the same price whether the child goes or not.

So if the OP left her child at home...they'd all have to pay £150 each anyway.

But the price is fixed at £450 whether or not my dd was there. It is based on the size and type of caravan, not how many people are going on the holiday.

i.e. it's not price per person.

2 of you going, 2 of them going. It's not like the child attracts a discount - it would be the same price if it were a 4th adult going.

Don't see what the problem is with their suggestion and if I were them, I wouldn't be happy paying two thirds either.

I don't have kids though, so standing by ready to be 'set straight'...

I agree with them to. You need a room, they need a room so split 50/50.

If this was me with my friends then it would be split between the adults going, so £150 each.

YANBU. I think it is a bit tight of your friends to expect you to pay half.

I agree it's not a good start to the holiday and if it's not yet booked, I don't think I'd go.

Too.

If you pay per adult then they are subsidising your child. In effect he/she gets free accommodation. I expect this wouldn't fly if the situation was reversed?

Ther are 4 people going on this holiday. Their age is irrelevant.Therefore each pays a quarter. So obviously you should pay half!

Yabu and more than a little bit tight expecting them to part pay your way for you! Don't expect an invite next year!!

If they are already unhappy about things, I can only see this getting worse to be honest. I can already imagine the petty squabbles over food bills and so on.