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Original poster

To refuse to take 3 points on my licence for speeding when I wasn't the driver

253 replies

hmc · 16/01/2013 20:14

....because that's called perverting the course of justice and if found out it attracts a custodial sentence

I have a clean licence. They have a lot of points and need to drive for their job

OP posts:
merrymouse · 16/01/2013 22:44

As hmc's husband will know from his speeding course.

Meglet · 16/01/2013 22:47

yanbu. It's tough shit on him, if he can't drive properly he has to face the consequences.

I never understand people going over the speed limit, IME it's easy-peasy to stick to 30/40/60/70 etc. I don't go over the limit.

Pourquoimoi · 16/01/2013 22:50

He won't get caught again if he doesn't break the law again will he??
Simple. (Can't pretend I never do it though Blush)

YANBU.

merrymouse · 16/01/2013 22:52

Am I right in thinking that the op's DH would currently be facing 12 points if he hadn't gone on the speeding course?

EuroShagmore · 16/01/2013 22:57

I wouldn't take the points, ever (I work in a profession where a dishonesty offence could see me struck off, in any event).

Most satnavs tell you the speed limit on the road and show you your speed. many also show the position of fixed speed cameras (but not the radar traps of course). With mileage your husband is doing, I'd be surprised if he were not already using a satnav. If not, get him a TomTom.

AKissIsNotAContract · 16/01/2013 22:59

Points stay on your license for 4 years minimum you only get banned if you accumulate 12 points in any 3 year period.

bureni · 16/01/2013 23:00

Get him a pair of glasses as well, he might be able to see the traffic signs and the speedo at the same time.

FudgeyCookie · 16/01/2013 23:04

I wouldn't even contemplate it to be quite honest. Why would you if you have a clean license?! It's your H fault that he has those points on his license, his fault he was speeding, his fault he got caught speeding AGAIN. No one is forcing him to speed ffs.

Wrt raising the speed limit on motorways - we use the M5 quite often and already see loads of drivers speeding, the limit is there for a reason. I'd be worried that raising it would make those idiots think they are still too big for the law, and again going over the limit. Say, raised to 80mph = some driving at 90-100mph.

SoftKittyWarmKitty · 16/01/2013 23:13

Oh no, I've missed a now-deleted response aimed at me. Clearly I'm not as fast as the OP's DH.

It seems you don't agree with me wanting him off the road, OP. Well if he doesn't speed, he won't get banned, will he? Speeding drivers, drunk drivers and their ilk are a risk to us all - including you and your DC/family. Read the horrific stories on the other thread I linked to, then try telling me that it's acceptable for drivers to speed.

Sallyingforth · 16/01/2013 23:42

hmc's DH
You're a bloody coward aren't you.
You hide behind your wife when you've broken the law and expect her to perjure herself for you.
And then use her name to insult people giving her advice.
You have no respect for her at all.
What a weak, feeble excuse for a man.

flow4 · 16/01/2013 23:58

Get him to swap his car for a Suzuki Carry!Grin

ComposHat · 17/01/2013 00:04

nine points so he has been caught driving like a knob on three occasions. if he job was that important he wouldn't be drivingl
likeeley a grade a twonk.

It isn't inevitable he will get caught again if he isn't so arrogant to treat the roads and DIDN'T SPEED. he won't get anymore points.

ABreakFromTheNorm · 17/01/2013 00:07

I would. Not for this example as he's not learnt his lesson and no job at risk etc however if getting points meant dp would lose his job I'd do it.

StuntGirl · 17/01/2013 00:23

I wouldn't dream of it, and I'd be appalled that my partner would think he could ask.

I too hope your partner gets banned from driving tbh, he is clearly not safe to be on the roads.

sashh · 17/01/2013 01:32

I'm actually suprised he is still employed with a record like that. Or has he not informed his employer? If so he is also driving without insurance.

OP your dh is knob.

OP's dh you are knob. You need to learn to drive within the law.

There will be a photo. There will also be a record of your 4 offences and your wife's 0, and I know the police can be a bit thick at times but not that thick.

You are risking both your liberty and that of your wife. How are you going to look after your children if you are both in prison?

HeadfirstForHalos · 17/01/2013 01:39

My DH wouldn't even ask me to do this. HIBU and needs to concentrate on not speeding in the first place.

He has driven regularly for work over the last few years and has 0 points so no it's not "inevitable" he will get caught again as he claims. That kind of attitude is the reason for his points!

HeadfirstForHalos · 17/01/2013 01:40

My dh has driven regularly I mean.

Tortoiseonthehalfshell · 17/01/2013 01:50

It's not just 'inevitable' he will get caught again - he thinks he's likely to get caught again BEFORE MARCH. Because if I'm understanding this, he's not going to go to 12 points this time, and in March 3 drop off anyway - so his only risk is that he takes these three and then speeds again in the next two months. Two months!

JoanByers · 17/01/2013 03:21

While i can see some sense in taking the 3 points if he was going to go onto 12, to risk going to prison to keep him on 6, rather than 9, points, is stupid.

InLoveWithDavidTennant · 17/01/2013 03:35

what the actual fuck?? Angry

your dh is a first class twat! congratulations! you must be so proud Hmm

speeding kills... he doesnt deserve his licence... personally i hope he get caught and is either banned or sent to jail though both would be good imo

ffs does he actually have any brains in his head? or just in his trousers?

twoyearsandcounting · 17/01/2013 06:53

he argues he will be caught again

The man is totally unrepentant and hasn't learnt his lesson. He is a dangerous driver w admits he will do it again .

Good for you refusing to take the points. If he can't drive safely then he should be punished.

MumVsKids · 17/01/2013 07:05

So he knows he will be caught again?

YADNBU for refusing to take the points. I've happily paid a speeding fine for DH before now, but refused to take points for him. My licence is clean, I intend to keep it that way though I admit this is more through luck than anything else

AltinkumATEalltheTurkey · 17/01/2013 07:10

I wouldnt either, your just bailing him out, and as he says, he knows it will happen again, well if that's the case will you bail him out the next time?

He needs to take control of his actions and be a bloody man with it !!

EmmaBemma · 17/01/2013 07:14

It sounds like the sooner he is off the road, the better.

Morloth · 17/01/2013 07:55

I would have thought the point of 'points' was to allow for a couple of mistakes here and there.

Tell him to man up and stop fucking speeding, it isn't that hard.

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