to be shaking and so upset about this

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When my first dc was a tiny baby i met a group of mothere through an activity we did (baby sensory)

We would meet every week. Even when people went back to work after maternity leave we tried to meet up for occasional nights out etc.

Anyway, our dc all started school in september and i checked facebook recently to findout that one of these friends, who i though of as a good friendhas defriendedme :(

I had seen her probably 5 times in thelast year and thought we were all really close. When i messaged her to ask what was going on she said that it was nothing personal but that she felt we had all grow apart a bit and sne wanted to move on.

Aibu to be absolutely devastated by her splitting up our group in this way? Our dc have been friends since they were babies! I am sorry but i am just so shocked and devastated ladies :(

I think that FB and its politics are upsetting at times, and so YANBU to be upset and ask her why. However....

I think as she's sent a polite reply you need to try to see things from her point of view, and respect her decision to move on from the group. You can all meet up without her I take it?

I distanced myself from a baby group fairly recently; we started meeting up when pregnant with our DCs, who are now 3 and a half. At first we got on ok, but there were some characters in the group that just weren't my type of person; an alpha mummy, someone who preached a lot about breastfeeding, several teachers who had loads in common and talked about work all the time. I felt I wasn't getting anything from the meet ups, and so started to turn down invitations, and distance myself from the group. I didn't want a confrontation as there was no confronation to be had, no one had done anything "wrong" as such, I just didn't want to keep wasting several hours each week meeting up with people that I didn't enjoy meeting with.

In all honesty, OP, I would let it go. Send a polite message in return saying that's fine, all the best for the future, blah di blah. And just don't mention the children to your DCs again, and try to encourage them to form other friendships instead.

OP you would be very cruel to sit your children down and 'break the news' to them in the way you describe. really cruel.

I would be very upset too. I really would. I see where you are coming from.

However you can't sit your children and say that? Why would you think you should. I will be honest and tell you I didn't even sit my kids down to tell them their Dad was moving out. They were 6 and 2. There was absolutely no need, it filtered in naturally as will this.