to ask how old you were. . .

[wtf1981]

when you became a mother for the first time/when you had your other children if you've got more than one?
More of an 'I know I am being nosy'!
Am 31,married to a lovely man and becoming keen but feel scared still,which I hope is normal,but time is ticking!
Please share your experiences (ages/fears)!
Thanks :)

[LilBlondePessimist]

Ds1 - 26

Ds2 - 28

(19mth age gap)

Ds3 - 33

Ds4 - about to be born at 34

(15mth age gap)

Didn't feel right having ds3 maybe feel 'left out' with large age gap and ds1&2 being so close both in age and bond.

[Arachnophobe]

Nb. For DC2 I ttc 'au naturel' for six months then popped the clomid - impatient.

[SomersetONeil]

DS - 35

DD - 36

Just turned 39 and I'm done. I find 2 very easy, good NT children Hard Work, so it wouldn't be fair on anyone!

[Loveweekends10]

DD1 33
DD2 38

I started trying earlier (at 30) but I had 3 miscarriages before my first and 1 between. It was not a smooth path for me by any means.

So don't delay!

[verytellytubby]

DD 28

DT's 31

[BlueyDragon]

DD - 31
DS - 35

There are just over 3 years between the two, it looks like 4 because of birthdays. I reckon there's never a perfect time to have a baby, when everything is somehow magically "in place", and Mother Nature can play some tricks - DD took a bit of encouragement, so we were a bit surprised when DS was easy.

Scared is normal, if you think about it, given the changes DC bring, but it's doable and there is always MN for advice/support/grounding when it feels like it's not. Second time around is less scary than the first IME! Good luck OP.

[EvenIfYouSeeAPoppy]

Had dc1 at 28, dc2 at 30, with 1 mc before dc1 and two more in between dc1 and 2.

Am 35 now and got pregnant accidentally last year, but had another mc. Are going to give it a last go.

You can never really know how things will go fertility-wise. You might get pg easily well into your 40s, or you might struggle in your 20s. I have always got pregnant very easily indeed - it's the staying pregnant that's the trouble (and a genetic clotting issue that hasn't manifested otherwise has turned up as the reason). At 31 I think I wouldn't want to be hanging around - but I felt like that at 27 when we first conceived. We weren't in an 'ideal situation', but we knew we could support any dcs we had and get through. If we'd waited for everything to be perfect, we'd have waited several more years, I think, and perhaps had even more trouble having our two.

[BettyStogs]

37 for DS, will be ttc 2nd this year so will probably be 39 if all goes well.

[EvenIfYouSeeAPoppy]

Oh, and every single time I got pg, even though all were wanted and even the surprise conception filled me with delight once I was over the shock, I had a point of thinking 'oh shit oh shit oh shit, what have I done?' Being scared is absolutely normal, to the point that I think it's inevitable - but not a reason not to do it! :)

[RiddoTheRedNosedReindeer]

DD - 28

DS - 8 days before 34th birthday

[Dolallytats]

DD-19
DS-34 (week before my 35th birthday!!)
Bump-am expecting No3, will be 39 when he/she is born.

They do all have the same dad, we just had to wait a long time for No2 to make an appearance. I would have loved all my children to be close in age, but it wasn't meant to be. I am grateful I got them all eventually...we thought DD was going to be an only child!!

[cutestgirls]

dd1 at 20
dd2 at 23

[ScooseIsLoose]

I was 28 when I had dd she is now 2.5

[KitCat26]

DD1 26
DD2 28 There is just under 18mths between them.

My family have a history of early menopause and DH is 18 years older than me so we thought we'd better crack on with it.

[perplexedpirate]

DS-30.
Am 35 now, no plans for any more.

[ll31]

36 ds, only child

[gimmecakeandcandy]

Get on with it! Don't wait! I had mine in my early and mid thirties but in hindsight wish I had tried a little sooner.

[JazzAnnNonMouse]

Dc1 20
Dc2 (due in 5 months) 22

[pantaloons]

dd1 22
ds 24
dd2 26

I was very lucky and got caught the first month of trying with all 3.

[VisualiseAHorse]

Just one LO at the moment - 25, but I turned 26 a week later! OH is 35.

Obsessed with having more. If OH will let me.

[ExasperatedSigh]

DS - 32
DD - 35

[MissBeehivingUnderTheMistletoe]

DS1 - 34
DS2 - 38

[cq]

DS 33

DD 35

Would have loved more but DD born with v scary heart defect and we don't like the statistics of it happening again. She's 100% fine now though.

[tumbletumble]

DS1 31
DD 33
DS2 35

[Theicingontop]

I had DS when I was 20. Going to TTC for number two when I lose a bit of weight, so hopefully we have a nice 2-3 year gap.

I'd like to say that being young doesn't mean you'll sail through it, I had the most horrific pregnancy with SPD and constant nausea. They say the younger you are the more energy you'll have to cope with it, pffft. I was exhausted.