I had DD1 when I was 22 and newly married to exdh who was 33
DD2 then came along when I was 25.
Im 40 now and best thing i ever did was to have them young.
But at the time i was horrified to be pregnant at what felt like my own stage of childhood still. It did set my career back. Then I got divorced and met/married DH who is 2 years younger than me at 38.
Life now is pretty good. Kids go to their dads every other weekend and school holidays and the DH and i gallivant like you wouldn't believe. When the kids are with us we are both super active parents with as much energy as our teenagers with quite similar interests. In comparison, exdh doesn't have the same energy and the kids do feel that sometimes.
My sister is in her 30s and putting off having kids as shes a Dr and wants to be a consultant before she has a family. It does worry her and we often talk about fertility rates etc.
My mother had me in her active 40s and shes in 80s now. Its heartbreaking to see her so frail and elderly but she is the worlds best mother and always has been.
However, I did always feel like I had an "old mum" when growing up. It didn't diminish the love or the fantastic parent she is, but I know she feels regret at having waited to settle down and have children.
So, two polar opposite situations.
Whose to say which is right or wrong?