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to ask how old you were. . .

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wtf1981 · 03/01/2013 00:37

when you became a mother for the first time/when you had your other children if you've got more than one?
More of an 'I know I am being nosy'!
Am 31,married to a lovely man and becoming keen but feel scared still,which I hope is normal,but time is ticking!
Please share your experiences (ages/fears)!
Thanks :)

OP posts:
OpenToPersuasion · 03/01/2013 02:15

DD1 28
DD2 30
DD3 32
DS 35

Am 41 now.

WishI hadn't stopped, tbh.

firawla · 03/01/2013 02:22

21, 23, 24

26 now and having a break for couple of years but hope I have one more before 30.

I didnt really have any fears but had been married few years by then and never really had a lot of 'freedom' in the first place, so less of an adjustment I think.

But if you are with the right person and you know you want kids, then personally i would go for it, as theres never a right time anyway - it all just works out

Moominlandmidwinter · 03/01/2013 02:26

DD1 21
DD2 23
DD3 27
DD4 32

I had first two with ex-H, second two with current DH. Would love one more, but only if it happened by 35. I'm 33 today. Don't think DH would agree anyway!

AlfalfaMum · 03/01/2013 02:26

dd1 24
dd2 29
dd3 31

I started quite early, but I always knew I definitely wanted kids.
I know it's different for everyone, but I don't feel comfortable with the pressure society puts on womankind to have kids. I have a lovely friend who's the same age as me, who just doesn't really want to have kids. The problem is, her mum wants her to have them, and she feels a general expectation, and she ends up doubting herself every so often. There needs to be more emphasis on individual choice, in my opinion.
I hope my confused rambling makes sense!

What aspect of having kids scares you OP?

MrRected · 03/01/2013 02:32

DS1 = 27
DS2 = 30
DD1 = 33

GoodKingWenSOLOslas · 03/01/2013 02:36

34 with Ds and almost 43 with my Dd.

It wasn't a choice to have them so late; my fertility was questionable and I was in fact, about to start IVF when I fell pg for the first time, miscarried :( and two years later had Ds. I seemed to get pg easier the older I got!

KentuckyFriedChildren · 03/01/2013 03:26

Ds- 18
Dd1- 19
Dd2- 23
And no more!!! I would love another several but dd2 was a surprise and really I am not well enough to have any more which is why we planned 2 not 3. In an ideal world where I didnt have to battle with my body everyday to do everything I would quite happily have at least 6 4 :o

Lavenderhoney · 03/01/2013 03:44

Well didn't meet dh til late so a bit older than you! I think if you want to, go for it. I know a few people who waited til the time was right and either had trouble ttc or wanted more but early menopause kicked in.

Your life does change ( how I wish I had a pound for every time someone said that) but for the better:) there's not much you can't do with dc in tow.

ItLooksLikeRainDear · 03/01/2013 03:48

DS - 36
DD - 38

My advice would be if you know you want them, go for it ASAP, you just don't know if you will encounter any problems..

Good luck

HeffalumpsAndWoozles · 03/01/2013 03:49

DD1 - 23
DD2 - 25

I'm 26 now, hoping for one more before I hit 30 but DH inwards working on.

If you want children go for it, there's never really a 'right' time but you do just adapt, and yes life changes but on the whole its definitely a change for the better.

Good luck :)

Tigerbomb · 03/01/2013 04:05

DS - 20 and a bit
DD - 24

A MC when I was 39 and 41

Wished I had continued TTC - now it's too late

FellatioNelson · 03/01/2013 04:21

26

29

33

bedhaven · 03/01/2013 04:29

DD 3 days after my 38th birthday, conceived within a month of meeting my now DH.
DS when 39 and 9 months.
This all happened just as I was resigning myself to the idea of never having children as I hadn't met the right man! I think it's more knackering now than it would have been earlier but I feel very lucky to have reached my dreams.(whilst having a pretty wild time getting there!)

TapirAroundTheChristmasTree · 03/01/2013 04:29

20

26

27

LuluMai · 03/01/2013 04:37

Ds 25

AlienRefluxThanksFuckThatsOver · 03/01/2013 05:28

DS at 34
DD at 38

No more thanks!! Am 39 now

SoWhatIfImWorkingClass · 03/01/2013 05:35

DS1: 21
DS2: 23 (currently heavily pregnant with him!)

TobyLerone · 03/01/2013 05:37

DS 22
DD 23

Planning another this year. I'm 35.

HRMumness · 03/01/2013 06:01

DD - 31

DH and I had just bought our fixer upper house and thought we would start TTC as I was worried it might take awhile. I fell pregnant within the first week or two of being in the house Shock. Am planning on TTC #2 sometime a the latter part of this year as I want to have both before I hit 35. Then, the shop is shutting!

Pilfette · 03/01/2013 06:02

DD1 18
DD2 21

Currently ttc again at the age of 35.

thekitchenfairy · 03/01/2013 06:09

DS1. A week before 29th birthday

DS2. At 32

Would have loved a third but it hasn't happened for us and eldest is soon to be 10.

BuntyCollocks · 03/01/2013 06:17

DS - 27
DD - 29

Izpie · 03/01/2013 06:25

DD1 - 35
DD2 - 38
Both conceived within a few months if trying, in fact took less time to conceive DD2 than DD1. Also was lucky enough to have easy pregnancies and problem free births.

Fishlaar · 03/01/2013 06:28

TTC 23
DD1 26
MC 28
DD2 29

Arachnophobe · 03/01/2013 06:29

DC1 = 24
DC2 = 27
DC3 = 33
First took three years from start to finish inc. a mc, second just six months (used the leftover clomid from first time) and third five years all 'clomid' babies had to beg and get a second opinion for it third time around.
My older sib had hers at 32 and 36 and conceived first cycle of trying with both :-)

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