To be upset and angry that my parents walked out of Christmas Dinner

[Bettyintheburbs]

So we were having Christmas Dinner, my parents, my DP, DD and me, at my place after spending Christmas Eve at my parents. It's been a tough year. My DP had a massive pulmonary embolism and nearly died in April, mum has had to have a pacemaker fitted and has been very touchy since, BIL got cancer and died six weeks later, DP's XDW took their sons abroad without discussing it for Christmas so lots of high emotion.

We were eating and mum said to DP, I really wanted to buy you a hamper from Fortnums but Betty said you couldn't have one so I didn't get one. I explained that I didn't approve of the one she suggested as t was full of Stilton etc that DP can't have, that I feel I'm the only one looking out for his health and I didn't think it was great of her to bring it up. She accused me of attacking her and asked my dad to take her home. They left mid meal, after accusing me of making dramas, with a bemused DP who thought they were totally over reacting. I was very embarrassed that they did this but am now just furious and sad.

Get these people out of your life and never let them back in.

Get the law and the police involved as soon as possible. Looking at what your father has done I would hazard a guess that he has also defrauded clients in his work - if he would steal from his own daughter I think that his wealth accumulation is likely to be illegal all down the line.

Move house and don't tell them where you are.
Then get them listed as a threat to your daughter - they are obviously capable of dreadful things and should not be around her.

Do not listen to anything they say- they are self serving liars and should be in jail.

Find a therapist who deals with abuse - they will be a support for you.

God Above, this is horrendous. I know you want to focus on moving for now but please fill your partner in, go to see a solicitor and get some legal advice about how to protect yourself and your daughter before you tell them you are moving. Then instruct a solicitor to try and sort the financial mess. You poor thing!

Enjoy your break!

This must be terrible for you, the people that you should be able to trust the most in the world have betrayed you at every turn.

Get your passports sorted out first, then your bank account. Once this is done tackle the huge issue of fraud and then you can sort out your childcare issues.

You need the support of your partner, tell him all, I suspect you wonder how he is going to react, but when this started you were very young and in a vulnerable position. The longer you leave it, the worse it will be, and once you married he will end up tangled up in this if it is left.

Remove yourself from them, your DD does not need them, and they need to become very acquainted to the fact that they have acted illegally.

Aw please, not you again!

Porto - do you know something we don't?

citizens advice asap

You could give them two options

They give you all your money back and maintain a good relationship with you and your child/future children.

Or they continue to fraudulently keep the money from you while you pursue the money through the solicitors/courts - meanwhile you refuse to allow contact with child/future children

You need to move on, get married, live with DH and be in charge of your own finances. What they are doing is financial abuse.

Any update. OP ?