To feel bad about lying to my children?

[Meggymoodle]

Father Christmas. Totally acceptable lying.

Don't get me wrong, we "do" Father Christmas but I'm not convinced about the ethics of lying to my sprogs.

What puds said (not the first time i said that today!)

Real life is plenty magical imo no need for fabrication.

I'm with those who think its lieing.children need to trust their parents to tell them the thruth IMHO,I try never lie to them,be it FC,the ice cream van etc.if they want ice cream. I just tell them I don't have change,or we'll have some home as that one is expensive and not that nice etc...

MrsD it can but insisting that FC is real seems all kinds of wrong to me.

FFS.

That is all.

Well maybe it's not lying - I have seen Santa Claus in his ordinary clothes wandering around undercover - I believe in Santa - it is true - and as to how he does it - this explains it all.

Oh I'm not daft enough to think it's harmful, it's just not something I would ever want to do. FC doesn't play that big a part in our Christmasses really.

I think this tends to be an issue for people with not much to worry about tbh

Definitey not in my case.

Thing is MrsDeVere, it did nothing for me as a child and DH feels pretty much the same so we just can't see the point in making out it's real. It doesn't have to be harmful for people not to participate in it.

It wasn't really a part of my upbringing either, partly because I was brought up outside the UK and partly because the idea of someone coming down my chimney scared me shitless!

My mother just lied and lied and lied to me about it because my older sister still believed. It drove me nuts.

I am picturing two scenes..

A group of young children excitedly wondering what FC is going to bring them..

A group of young children sat there wondering why their parents tell them it isnt true.

I know which I would rather be if I were a child, and which group I would rather witness.

Being a child is all about believing in magic, fairies, FC, and having that innocence.. it doesnt last long, and there are many more years after that of reality.

I didn't mean to upset you mrsD and I know from reading other pots that you have had an awful time BUT I don't think it's fair to imply that people who don't do the whole FC haven't got things to worry about because in my household that is definitely not true, and that's why I selectively quoted you. It wasn't my intention to be out of order.

It's ok to believe/go along with in FC but equally it's ok imo to explain why it doesn't sit right with me.

There are another two groups squeaky. The group of children for whom Santa is a nasty figure - like my friend's son who is told every day his mum will be ringing Santa to tell him how good/bad he's been (usually bad), so that the child is completely stressed out about Christmas not knowing whether he'll get presents or not. And the other group is the millions of children who don't believe in Santa and still have a wonderful time.

Or the few children like me who wondered why on earth their parents lied and lied about Santa and were actually relieved he wasn't real!

Exactly squeeky. I can remember believing.

So those of you who don't 'do' santa, do you do the tooth fairy and easter bunny?

MrsD i am at the video.

I looked at them this year but i though £30 for two was a bit pricey, i my girls would bloody love one though.

HoHo are you my twin?

Opinion twin. Kinda like a hand twin

Yes puds in this house we do but again it is always made clear that it's just fun, it's not real.

I won't be doing the tooth fairy or Easter bunny either. We never had the Easter bunny at home in Ireland - it wasn't really a thing.

It'll be interesting to see what your children do when they grow up.