to get a childminder even tho I'm a SAHM?

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I'll do my best to keep it short.

We have a DD age 4 in reception and I'm 32wks pregnant. When we were TTC our next door neighbour had a DS in the same class as DD so getting her to school each morning wasn't much of an issue as neighbour would have been happy to take her and school was just at the end of the road.

However we've recently moved, and now the walk to school is a good 10-15mins with a short cut which contains some steep steps. We leave at 8:20AM to be there before the bell at 9:40AM

DP has to leave at 7:30AM for work, and breakfast club doesn't start until 8AM.

I can't see anyway of me getting a newborn, DD and myself fed, washed and dressed and down to school on time. If I can't manage the steps with the pushchair we'll have to walk the longer route which will mean leaving closer to 8AM.

So WIBU to contact a child minder and enquire if they could pick DD up around 8AM and drop her to breakfast club each morning? I haven't looked into it yet as I'm not even sure if childminders would do this?

So you lovely nest of vipers WWYD, flame away

You wouldnt be U to try and find out but I am not sure whether you will get any CM to do it. As far as I can remember CM's are registered for the amount of children they can care for at any one time so if they give your DD a space and only have her for say an hour or so, they could be filling that space for a child they would have for the day hence getting more wages for it.

I could be wrong though :)

You wouldn't be unreasonable but it's not difficult to leave early instead of later but you would need to find a CM with space, round here there isn't much for morning drop offs.

We leave at a similar time and have managed to get to school on time each day (avoiding evil steep steps).

You will learn to adapt and change your routines. It's hard but it gets easier.

Nothing wrong with looking into a cm but its probably possible. Feed baby at 7, don't bother changing baby or feeding yourself and you can make it out by 8.

That's why there is such a fine display of nightwear at the school gates

Put the baby in a sling... YABU and a bit lazy.

I was just going to suggest that Softly. You & newborn dont need to be fully dressed & fed. A quick wash & throw on some clothes is all u need if u are just going straight home after school.

You will have 2 children so u need to adapt and change to accommodate both children.

Squeaky i was thinking that but wanted to be nice.

Don't think you'd get a childminder but have an ask at the school gates, someone might be willing to do this for you for a few quid.

I don't think you are being unreasonable- when I was pg I was so worried how we'd all be ready in time for nursery/school.

As it happened there was nothing to worry about- sometimes baby was still in his pyjamas (obviously with a clean nappy) when we went out but on tiny ones that doesn't matter, occasionally my hair was just shoved in a ponytail and I showered later but in no time at all the baby fitted into our new routine and it was easy.

Another alternative would be a sling for the morning school run so you could go the short cut way anyway.

Lots of cross posts, I need to learn to type quicker!

I'm sure you will manage it. After a while you will find a routine that works. If steps and pushchair are a problem then take baby in a sling and you can walk the shorter route. There may be things that need to be left till you get back but I think its going to be fine.

Yabu.

Get up at 7am and get yourself ready in the half an hour before dh leaves (with him seeing to the kids having already sorted himself). By 7.30 you are all dressed and fed which gives yiu and hour incase anything goes wrong (poo explosions / wanting a BF).

I repeat YABU. And lazy.

Does dd have to go to breakfast club?

I wouldn't be optimistic about the chances of getting a childminder to do this, my childminder is at home with other mindees who are dropped off at that time and it would be a bit of a faff to get them into the car to pick up your dd and drop her off. Unless you are able to find a childminder who does this already for another child? You could ask other parents at the school if anyone knows a childminder who does that.

In your situation, I would just get a sling or carrier and walk with baby and dd. it would mean being organised earlier in the morning/the night before.

YABU to be so worried about not getting out and about by 8.20am. It's not like you have to leave at 5.30am.

How has every other woman (or man) managed to get a kid and a newborn to school, since the dawn of history ?

Get up earlier, use a sling for the steps. Sorted. I don't think you are going to find a CM to come to your house and pick up your child. There are some with before and after school places but they usually require you to drop your child off, which would defeat your object.

I would get a sling of some kind and pop the baby in that-baby doesn't need to be dressed, can do drop off in a sleepsuit easily-most newborns wear sleepsuits anyway! It sounds manic now but you'll manage it, people do!

YABU - it's a bit mean to send your DD to breakfast club and start her day earlier than needed because you aren't sure you can get out of the door in time.

I doubt you would find a cm who will just do a pick up and drop off anyway, that's basically a taxi service? Not childminding.

I was in a similar situation with DS and had to drop my DD and my DSis off at school after my DH finished his paternity leave. I quickly learnt it was easier to shower and wash my hair the night before so just a wash and brush of teeth needed - or have a shower when you get back from the school run. It's hardly rocket science to just get yourself as organised as possible the night before. If you wake at 7am then 1hr20 is plenty of time IMO.

It is doable, you just need to be well planned, everything ready the night before, use a sling if you want to take the short cut. As others have said, the baby can go in it's night clothes. I think you would find it hard to get a cm to do what you are requesting. I am sure, once baby is here, you will find it easier than you think.

YANBU as such but I agree with others that you might be a bit lucky to find someone willing to do this. I would suggest feed baby and change nappy while DH gives older DC breakfast. Then help older DC to get ready if needed and pop on jogging bottoms and jumper for yourself. Sling baby and walk to school via short cut. Walk home by short cut have your own breakfast, get baby dressed, pop baby in cot with toys or in bouncy chair in bathroom and have lovely shower yourself.

Its up to you of course - If you can find and afford a childminder to do this then what business is it of anyone elses?.

Having said that (!) I think your making a bit of a mountain out of a molehill Its not that hard to get two children ready in the morning and thats a pretty short walk. I think once your baby is here etc you will feel better about the whole thing - it probably just seems a little overwhelming at the moment, but dont worry you WILL manage.

You leave at 8.20am now and you're worried about possibly having to leave 20 minutes earlier...why?

You live so close to the school that whether you use the steps or not, you've still only got a short walk.

It's natural to panic about the school run when you have your 2nd DC...but you'll cope the same as everyone else I'm sure.

Spoony don't think she is, op was saying that her DH cant drop off as bclub isn't on early enough.

And actually if dd doesn't need to be there until 8.40, it's a 15min walk, why 8am? Where does the other 25minutes go?

If you're a SAHM you have plenty time surely?
Why do you need breakfast club?
I think you're overthinking this.