to think it's childish to wait outside?

[forbiddenfruit85]

Friend was early meeting me today for lunch, so instead of going inside the restaurant and getting a table and maybe ordering a drink she decided to wait outside in the cold for 15 minutes by herself.

I know quite a few people that would prefer to wait outside until one of their party comes. I find this a bit silly and childish.

I'd have no problem going into a restaurant by myself and ordering a drink whilst I waited.

oh you are just LOVELY

bet friend had a crafty fag outside

You may feel confident enough to go into somewhere on your own but clearly your friend didn't. Some people don't. Why does it matter?

Why does anything on AIBU matter? Its purely to get other peoples opinions.

I didn't go up to her and say you stupid childish bitch how dare you wait outside in the cold and rain. I just thought it was silly and yes a little childish to do that. I never said a single word to her about it.

I just think in the grand scheme of things I'm an adult and I know my friends would never stand me up and would let me know if they were going to be late. I'd rather wait in the warm, get a drink.

A friend waited for you and you think it is childish no? I never said that.

Yes you did.

Quote: AIBU... to think its childish to wait outside? I know quite a few people that would prefer to wait outside until one of their party comes. I find this a bit silly and childish.

Again, you called her actions childish and silly all in your OP.

YADNBU

silly person should have gone in, grabbed a table and got the drinks in!

A friend waited for you and you think it is childish no? I never said that.

Yes you did.

Quote: AIBU... to think its childish to wait outside? I know quite a few people that would prefer to wait outside until one of their party comes. I find this a bit silly and childish.

Again, you called her actions childish and silly all in your OP.

• Yes. Silly to wait outside in rain and wind. I never said she was silly for actually waiting for me.

yabu i think you sound really mean

Not sure I would go as far as to say childish but I see your point.
ILs do this if we treat them to a meal out and they get there before us - I am pretty sure it is so they don't have to spend any money as we just start a tab and put all drinks on it when we get there (they are not short of money btw). I find that quite odd as it isn't like they haven't already got company!

Not childish, but a bit odd.

You sound like a delightful lunch partner though so I'm sure her long wait in the cold was worth it.

yabu i think you sound really mean

Why? I already said perhaps childish wasn't the right word. And I also never said to her face that I thought she was silly for waiting out in the cold and rain.

Some of you really need to know what the word mean actually means.

It would have been if I said you silly childish woman, you should grow a pair of balls and have gone inside and waited in the warm. And then tripped her up. Then I would agree that I was mean.

How rude that you were 15 minutes late and are slagging her off for being kind enough to wait for you. Maybe next time she'll go home!

What a childish bitch. I'd ditch the loser if I were you OP. Outrageous behaviour.

You sound like a delightful lunch partner though so I'm sure her long wait in the cold was worth it.

But you agreed that it was odd.

So how exactly did I warrant your snide remark?

I used to hate walking into somewhere early before my friends were there. I felt self conscious and out of sorts, and as tho people were staring at me for being a 'billy no mates'.

Strange I know, but nowt so strange as folk.

TBVH, if I turned up now early, blow being cold, I would sit in the car and read for a while. Peaceful reading....oh there is nothing like it

Thank goodness you had the manners to not say it to her face.

MrsMangelfanciedPaulRobinson seriously read my original post. Face palm.

I was NOT LATE. I was 5 minutes early actually.

I'm not slagging her off for waiting. I said its silly that she waited outside in awful weather instead of waiting in the warm. All because she didn't want to walk into a restaurant alone.

She may have grown up with family who taught her only a certain type of women goes into bars and restaurants and waits alone.

Or maybe she has had an unfortunate incident when she has done this in the passed.

YABU

What do you mean 'face palm'?

You are slagging her off because you've said her behaviour, which is perfectly normal behaviour, is childish.

You seem to care an awful lot about something that affected you not one iota OP!

Yabu you were rude not to let her know you were going to be late

Op I think you are childish to not be acceptant of others people being different from yourself. people worry about entering places alone and feel uncomfortable, hence they wait for the other person to arrive so they can go in together.

I would be happy to go in on my own but have one firend I would wait outside for as she is blind and it is more comfortable for her if I am waiting to greet her when she arrives - then we can go into the place together.

There may be a whole scenario of reasons why people do things differently from you none should be considered childish.

YABU

Forbidden, you just do not sound pleasant.

Live and let be.

I don't think that is perfectly normal behaviour TBH.
I always wonder about people who insist on waiting outside.
The fact that the weather was inclement makes it even more of a peculiar thing to do.

Yanbu. I wouldn't say it was childish exactly, but not exactly the behaviour of a grown adult. Its a bit nuts for anyone to feel nervous of going in to a restaurant or cafe on their own, especially at lunch time. I do it all the time [no mates emoticon]. Presumably, if she is a friend of yours, you would be aware of any severe anxiety that might have made her want to wait for you?

If it had been of I'd have thought how kind of them! Nothing to do with shyness.