To not want MIL to take DS to the other side of the world for 6 weeks

[MSDP]

My DP thinks I am being unreasonable to not want his mother to take my son away to their home country for six weeks when he is two years old.

My son has a good relationship with his GM and she is capable of looking after him, however I am not comfortable with her taking my son for so long to a place more than 12 hours away. This place has is in South America and is not renowned for being the safest place in the world and my son has never been away from me for me than 2 nights so am I being unreasonable?

[LittleBairn]

YANBU I wouldn't even justify it to them just plain NO and leave it at that.

[MummyAbroad]

Good god, no way for a million different reasons, and to a country that you dont even think is safe? (I live in an unsafe Latin America country and have a good idea of what that means)

NO NO NO!

[BiteTheTopsOffIcedGems]

No. The thought of this makes me sad. Please don't let her.

[stargirl1701]

YADNBU!!!

[RaspberrysAndIcecream]

This had made me feel very unnerved, my gut reaction is one of fear to be honest. I am questioning their motives

But hell would freeze over before I would let this happen. So no, yanbu.

If they push the issue, I would be hiding the birth certificate & his passport, I'd also seek legal advice as to keeping ur dc in the country & not being able to be taken abroad by dp or his mother.

[almapudden]

This freaks me out. No.

[ZillionChocolate]

YANBU. I'd think about 2 weeks for a 6 year old, but 6 weeks for a 2 year old is out of the question as far as I'm concerned.

[pigletmania]

I can't even believe yur considering this, it would be an outright no. Yes. Echo others, leave birth certificate, passport with someone yu trust e.g parents, siblings so they are nt in the house. Sorry it does not sit well an big fat alarm bells are ringing

[OhTheConfusion]

Hell would freeze over before I would let my DC's go!

[McChristmasPants2012]

No way, if he was older then I would say ok but 6 weeks is a long time for a 2 year old

[McChristmasPants2012]

Hiding the birth certificate will not help, if he is on the birth certificate then he can always go to the registry office and get a copy

[Bigwheel]

I'm pretty relaxed about most things, I left my 2 year old with my mil for 2 weeks recently. But 6 weeks, that far away, not a chance. Yanbu.

[Devora]

I agree with everyone else: no.

[wewereherefirst]

No way YADNBU. Why 6 weeks?

[TheCraicDealer]

What's their reasoning for wanting to do this? Seems absolutely bizarre.

[LivvyPsMum]

I wouldn't let my dds go for that long and they are 11 and 8. No way on earth. YADNBU!!

[katiecubs]

It would be over my dead body that anyone would take my son for that long or that far way!

[LibrariansMakeNovelLovers]

YANBU, not at two, not for that long, not that far away. I can remember staying with friends in France, at the age twelve, and feeling dreadfully homesick - luckily my dad still occasionally worked in the town and popped in to visit. Your DS wouldn't have even that :(

[cocolepew]

Absolutely not, I would hide his passport as well.

[thebody]

No no no no no no no. You must be insane to even consider this.

Tell mil and partner to fuck the fuck right off...

[MSDP]

My relationship with OH is generally good there have been a few issues but this has been due to tiredness on both sides and his starting his own business. I do not fear that my son would be taken away by my OH to that country but equally so the fact that I would need his permission to allow my son to leave that country does not sit right with me, especially in a country where corruption is rife.

I do not want my child to be that far away from me who is his primary caret although my son is in nursery four days a week. I would miss him greatly and think that it would be too much for him to e bombarded with people he doesn't know and without one of his parents there. With regards to safety I do not trust my MIL to be the most safety conscious, for example people drive very dangerously there and I would not trust her to have him in a car seat all of the time whereas here I have a seat I know is safe and can generally trust her to use it I do not have the same confidence in her in another country. This may sound silly but is just how I feel.

Also she was very involved in my DSD early years to the point where she tried to position herself almost as the other parent and I do not want her to start trying to be like that with my DS. My DP asked me if I would let my parents do it and the answer was categorically no. I have said that as I am planning on doing my teachers training in the near future I would not mind going with her for a month in the summer holidays so my DS could spend some time with his family. I do not wish to exclude her at all from my sons life but I am his mother.

It's like whatever I say I am seen as being unreasonable and she thinks there is so much for him to do there he wouldn't really miss us, maybe at 12 or even 10 that is true but not at 2. She wouldmt want to go in summer as it is high season but yet it is ok for us to pay nursery fees for him.

[Iceaddict]

yanbu no way would mine be going, even with my own mum

[MSDP]

Sorry for spelling mistakes on phone.

[nokidshere]

No absolutely not. At all. Under any circumstances.