DD is 15 and in the throes of teenagedom.....she is normally very placid and well behaved, not normally a prima donna.
however.....
She chose a coat on ebay, not expensive, only about £20, from China. We duly ordered it, paid for it, and yesterday it arrived. It is identical to the ebay picture. its lovely. She was not restricted to a budget, and she chose this coat out of every other on the internet.
She has seen it, thrown a hissy fit, says she hates it, wont wear it.
DH was the only one in when it arrived as i was at work, and he did not argue with her, but simply told her that if she wanted another one, she would have to pay for it out of her pocket money (she gets £35 per month cash and we pay for her mobile phone on top of that)
Today she has told me she "needs a coat"
WIBU to tell she has a coat, which she chose, and we paid for, and its up to her if she does not wear it and stick to what DH has said and tell her if she wants another she must pay for it herself?
She is upstairs crying at the moment saying its winter and she needs a coat and what is she meant to do in the snow etc etc etc
Now i know the Ebay coat was not expensive, but to send it back to china will cost as much as buying the flaming coat.....
its too small for me or i would keep it and wear it. i like it. sadly a chinese "large" is a size 8 - 10....which i am not!
help me decide MN jury....(i feel a bit of a meanie.)
AIBU?
to tell DD she wears the coat she chose or she buys her own?
ThatVikRinA22 · 11/11/2012 13:32
Now I'm eyeing up a Tesco parka thanks to this thread 
I love the eBay one but it only goes up to a 14 and I'm a 16 so doubtful it would fit
Wow mrsjay, do you actually like teenagers at all?
couldnt eat a whole one no
jeez i was joking it isnt the coat it is her stropping about demanding a new coat that would piss me off, I have 2 and i wouldnt tolerate huffing and puffing over a coat ,
@ woffling i do wish we could cry into each others beer occasionally....
right in the interest of squeezing every drop of humility out of DD we are going to jointly tackle the work that is house.
nothing quite decided as yet.....but morris - mmmmm. i know. the thing is that at least with asos the returns are free and not to china
will be back later. thank you folks genuinely - DH just said "what did you do before mumsnet?"
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But, but think of all the times DS pushed you to the end of your limits and DD was there being a sensible, reliable little treasure. 
Tantrums and outrageous behaviour really aren't her usual style, she's normally a reasonable person.
If she helps you clean and does a good job, I wonder if the flinty hearts of some of the others on this thread might soften up a bit...
What sort of relationships do some of you expect to have with your daughters later in life. carabos 
laugh in your daughter's face? What slippery slope? What tight grip? It's over a coat and a cheap one at that and they both made a mistake.
Looks at dd and wonders what to treat her to this week as a nice little surprise.
So, all the hardliners here, you have never made a sartorial error and then wanted to change your minds? Always put up with your poor choices in clothing and whatnot? Worn stuff that looked like crap when it arrived?
What virtue!
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I don't make ds wear clothes he hates - I give him a budget and let him chose and what he choses he has to wear BUT anything on line can be sent back if he doesn't like it. I send stuff back all the time, I'd hate to be made to wear something I didn't like.
My mum battled with me for years about clothes -it is such a non issue in my house with ds, I don't know why it was such a big issue with my mum 
OP - sell it on ebay and chalk it up to experience, don't buy anything you can't return easily.
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