DD is 15 and in the throes of teenagedom.....she is normally very placid and well behaved, not normally a prima donna.
however.....
She chose a coat on ebay, not expensive, only about £20, from China. We duly ordered it, paid for it, and yesterday it arrived. It is identical to the ebay picture. its lovely. She was not restricted to a budget, and she chose this coat out of every other on the internet.
She has seen it, thrown a hissy fit, says she hates it, wont wear it.
DH was the only one in when it arrived as i was at work, and he did not argue with her, but simply told her that if she wanted another one, she would have to pay for it out of her pocket money (she gets £35 per month cash and we pay for her mobile phone on top of that)
Today she has told me she "needs a coat"
WIBU to tell she has a coat, which she chose, and we paid for, and its up to her if she does not wear it and stick to what DH has said and tell her if she wants another she must pay for it herself?
She is upstairs crying at the moment saying its winter and she needs a coat and what is she meant to do in the snow etc etc etc
Now i know the Ebay coat was not expensive, but to send it back to china will cost as much as buying the flaming coat.....
its too small for me or i would keep it and wear it. i like it. sadly a chinese "large" is a size 8 - 10....which i am not!
help me decide MN jury....(i feel a bit of a meanie.)
AIBU?
to tell DD she wears the coat she chose or she buys her own?
ThatVikRinA22 · 11/11/2012 13:32
Oh, the poor love! Actually, I think it was good that DH took a hard line with her to start with, when she did fly off the handle. She's seen that stropping is not the way to go about things. Then she's also learned that a calm discussion with all the key stakeholders (
) can accomplish so much more.
Can I see a namechange coming on, though??
Well done, Vicar 
FWIW - Vicar's DD - I don't think you were unreasonable to be disappointed with the coat. Pictures are never the same thing as the real thing.
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Oh, and Vicar's daughter, I still like the original coat.
And i'm waaaay cool about fashion.
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thank you.
and woffling thank you.
we were talking at work last week and many of my shift have teens - i was 
at the xmas lists they were presenting their parents with! one dd of a colleague presented him with a list worth £500 and said if she didnt get everything on it it would spoil her xmas!
well monkey nuts to that i say!
DD is a lovely little person and i cant say otherwise. A mistake of a £20 coat doesnt really change that. she has only us - no grandparents and never has had so has never been spoilt in any way other than perhaps with a lot of love, but we have never been flush with money and she has never over reached in what she asks for.
she doesnt have particularly expensive tastes and doesnt have all the latest gadgets or gizmos, she has quite simple wants. she just wants a coat for winter. not this one mind....
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