To be disgusted by the criteria for free childcare for 2 year olds

[LowToleranceMamma]

So because I'm not 'poor' enough, I'm not entitled to childcare for my 2 year old, even though I am really struggling with PND and a baby. We can't afford to pay for it.

Sorry wrong post

Your dd would throw tantrums if you got the funding for nursery that you want, I am sure you would find a way of getting her out of the house for that?

MrsJ they used to here but then it was widened to fit the CAF. As all LAs are expected to work to the CAF I cannot see how families can be excluded on income alone

no I dont think they can

"This is clearly ridiculous, because they are 2 and a baby, and therefore unable to judge your parenting against anything else. "

why are they frequently unhappy then?

"I'm sick of my children. No matter what I do, its never good enough in their eyes."

That sounds like my kids! That's kids, they never understand what you do for them. Plus the depression will make you take this as evidence you are failing. Everyone, icluding your kids, can drive you spare when depressed. You will get thorough this and feel differently although, I know, it feels like there is no light at the end of the tunnel now.

"Your dd would throw tantrums if you got the funding for nursery that you want"

but i wouldnt have to deal with it 24/7.

No not the wrong post after all. I wish we had free childcare here for 2 year olds even 3 year olds. My ds 1 is almost 6 and is only in school from 9 to 1.45 everyday as are all children in Northern Ireland until they are primary four, so I think you have a lot to be grateful for in England to be honest.

ive got gp appointment on 20th. soonest they had.

... 2 year olds are stroppy most of the time, and some babies are just crying babies no matter what their mums are like.

Low that isn't true.It's a marathon not a sprint.Believe me your dc won't be thinking that(I speak as somebody who thought that and who 8 years on sees it very differently.

Having a toddler/toddlers and a newborn is one of the hardest(if not the hardest)parenting times there is imvho.Belive me it gets soooo much better.Yes you have shite days(you wouldn't be normal if you didn't)but you'll have many lovely ones too.

Have you get family,friends?Get your dp to line up people to give you a break.Go to your gp.If the Hv isn't any good just get yourself to your gp.

OP are you getting help from your GP for PND?

Is that a GP appointment?

yes im on meds.

You need to try some of the suggestions on here, there is help there but you have to ask. I know that's difficult if your feeling crap already but please do, for your children.
And I'm trying very hard to not yell at you for suggesting cancer equals sitting on his arse

yes its a gp appointment

Did you used to post under another name OP, when your DD was little? Your tone, the self-loathing, are really familiar.

You need to go back to your GP, ring again and ask for an emergency slot because waiting 2 weeks isn't going to help you at all.

The reason your kids are unhappy is because you are, they are picking up on your misery, sadness, frustration.

Have you been on them long OP - perhaps you need a re juggle , have you been offered any counselling?

"The reason your kids are unhappy is because you are, they are picking up on your misery, sadness, frustration."

their shit behaviour came first actually.

i am miserable because they are brats. they havent always been brats, just over the past couple of weeks they have morphed into people i dont want to be around.

Kids are pretty hard work - perfectly normal for them to scream and throw tantrums over nothing. It's not normal to think you are a shit mother and think they would be better off adopted. Please see your GP asap.

There is always a reason for a child's behaviour. You need some help and support but referring to your kids as little brats isn't helpful at all

Your DS is 10 months old, he isn't capable of 'shit behaviour', as you describe it. And if you truly have PND, then it is unlikely that the behaviour came before your sadness.

What about your husband/partner. Can he help you out more?

If you speak to them like you are speaking to us...

OP please go back to your GP. You are clearly unwell and in need of support, and nothing we say on here is going to help you.

They are babies I hope you get the help you need.