To be annoyed by him coming on to me around our kids?

[jenrose29]

DD1 is 5 yrs old, DD2 is 5 months old, DP is a randy bugger. At weekends we have the kids in bed for cuddles in the morning, DP is always stroking me etc and his 'excitement' is evident. I'm sure if I allowed him to he'd do stuff regardless of the kids. For me, it's irritating and spoils what should be a nice time with the kids. I'm by no means frigid but having the kids there just means I'm not in that mind-set. Yesterday I was breastfeeding a sleeping DD2 on the sofa, DP bent in to give me a kiss, was excited and later said he'd been hoping I'd give him a BJ. Am I being unreasonable to be irritated by his (in my opinion) inappropriate randiness?

Just read some of your other posts, OP.

I really think you need to get rid of this (almost literal) wanker and have some time on your own to regroup.

Is your partner called Jimmy Saville? Or no, he's dead isn't he?. I would not leave this pervert alone with your daughter. He sounds like a peadophile. Get the hell out of this relationship. Do you know much about his parents? Was he sexually abused as a child? How on earth is it ok to have 'discreet' sex in front of your 5 year old daughter. You need to wake up to him and get rid and for gods sake protect your children from this man.

I was going to ask if he had any redeeming features at all and then I too read your other threads

this man is bad news OP, despite your best efforts to make a silk purse out of him

Please could we not turn this into yet another thread about paedophilia

This is just not right OP. On any level. It's abusive to you and the children.

Oh shit. OP how dreadful for you.

OP please listen to what everyone is saying.

fucking hell, can't we have one thread where that man isn't mentioned?!

happyhalloween I think people are probably making reference to the fact that it is an offence to make a child watch sexual activity.

Which would also make you wonder exactly why he gets off on the idea of his 5 year old being there to see it, no?

I was just going to question how he has time to harrass you once the five yr old is in school but Eleanor has cleared that up!

If he had a job he would not have the time or energy to harrass you in this way(if only my DP worked less hours)!

And he's unemployed as well?

What a catch!

Jen yanbu at all, but you are being abused. And so are your DDs

Jen
I rarely say "leave the bastard" but in this case I'll make an exception...

Yuck as everyone else has said just plain wrong.

Our DC come in most mornings for cuddles and poor DH often has to jump out the bed as he has a morning erection and there is no way he'd want any of the DC to notice. I feel sorry for him as there's nothing he can do about it.

Jesus Christ.

What a vile human being he is. If my DH pestered me for sex constantly in front of the kids I would kick him in to touch and leave the bastard.

I feel a bit wrong having a steamy snog in the kitchen if the kids are in the other room.

No no no no just no. My DC1 is 5 and she would know straight away if we started doing anything frisky. DH hates her coming in unannounced in the morning just in case he has morning glory which kids do not need to see. Ever.

Is he your 5 year old dd's natural father? You are obliged to protect her and you're not.

Just looked at some of your other threads including the one where you asked when people had sex after birth and that you had been advised not to till 6 weeks. He is an abuser but sadly I don't think you will get that. I hope your dd is brave enough to tell someone at school when it reaches the point where he gets his way.

I am suffering badly from a reoccurence of pregnancy nausea.

Reading about your husband, jenrose, made me violently throw up, and my stomach is turning as I write this. Not kidding.

He sounds like such a slime ball. Utterly thoughtless, inconsiderate and pervy.

So sad you have been putting up with this. You do realise that decent men do not behave like this, don't you.

Goodness, I am about to retch again, and I blame your husband, on top of everything else!

passes bbface sickbucket with tissues.

< holds bb's hair back >

Thank you. Was needed. Ds just woken up, how the hell am I going to get through the afternoon. Especially now I have OP's partner in my mind.

jenrose are you going to come back?

Your children and you deserve so much more than this man.

Think long term, do you really want to put up with years of this abusive behaviour , what about as the dd's get older?

Is he a sulker when you say no, or do you always give in at some point to keep the peace?

This thread has made me sadder than any other I've read on mn before :(
The worst part is you actually don't seem to realise how wrong this is, he has probably skewed your boundaries so much you have lost sight of the line, he had crossed it op, please ltb

Ewww that is gross, he needs a good hose down

Well said elanor

Jenrose generally doesn't come back when she gets told how badly she is being treated and what a slimeball her DP is.

He didn't want their DD because she wasn't a boy and does not wish to contribute financially. When advised to protect herself and her children, she has previously said we were silly to suggest this as 'he loves her'.

Jenrose, i wished you luck in the last thread of yours I posted on. I wish you, and more importantly your daughter, luck once more.