To be annoyed by him coming on to me around our kids?

[jenrose29]

DD1 is 5 yrs old, DD2 is 5 months old, DP is a randy bugger. At weekends we have the kids in bed for cuddles in the morning, DP is always stroking me etc and his 'excitement' is evident. I'm sure if I allowed him to he'd do stuff regardless of the kids. For me, it's irritating and spoils what should be a nice time with the kids. I'm by no means frigid but having the kids there just means I'm not in that mind-set. Yesterday I was breastfeeding a sleeping DD2 on the sofa, DP bent in to give me a kiss, was excited and later said he'd been hoping I'd give him a BJ. Am I being unreasonable to be irritated by his (in my opinion) inappropriate randiness?

Bollocks is right squeaky

Are you moving locally jen?

If you're moving from homeless accommodation into permanent tenancy the council might be able to help you with moving.

That's about it squeaky...yesterday she found him trying to have sex whilst her daughter was in bed with them irritating.

Now she seems to be moving out!

Seriously, jen if SS get involved, they may well remove your DC. You have to take responsibility for keeping them safe here.

Eleanor cognitive dissonanace does not keep DC safe.

Jen, I am sorry but I don't believe you are leaving him and neither does anyone else. At least be truthful with yourself about your situation if you cannot do it with us.

Look there is no point in me keep posting on here. I say 'I do not have any family or friends or anyone who can help me move' - you all say 'but you must!' Obviously I don't or I wouldn't say it. Not everyone has other people to fall back on like you all might.

I take your point Eleanor

I don't think she does know what he is.

Or she is happy to minimise it.

Cross posted with Eleanor, sorry about that.

I believe you want to leave, but are unable to. Please explore that further with us, possibly on a different thread if this one has gone all wrong for you.

I can understand someone attempting to give out a "soundbite" of a relationship to gain some clarity about a particular aspect, to reassure yourself you are not going mad (which abusers will try to reinforce). We've seen it time and time again on here. The problem is, we all have an advanced search button and more importantly a memory so it is quite obvious what is happening.

Perhaps start a new thread for practical support ?

je, dont flounce off. where are you? Im sure there is a mner locally who can help./ or contact WA, they will be able to help arrange moving etc.

I'm not flouncing off, it is just frustrating when I am told the opposite of what I have said is fact. Look, to clear up any confusion - as far as he is concerned, he and I are together and fine. Kids and I are movingin 3 weeks, he doesn't live with us now and won't be moving with us.

He doesn't live with you now

You and kids are moving

Are you ending your relationship with him, Jen ?

Or just letting him carry on in a different location ?

If he doesn't live with you now, are you just keeping him sweet so he can help you move, then dumping him?
Sorry if you've already said, I'm getting a bit confused

He doesn't live with you?

But you said you have sex every day! So when is that?

Well, I wouldn't make any assumptions. Jen is going to continue to be obscure and we are all going to get annoyed by trying to guess what is going on in her head, upsetting her in the process.

Jen, can you try to be a bit clearer? It would help all of us (and you) immensely.

So are you moving locally and when you do move are you then going to end the relationship with him?

Yes ending it. I do not have any family!!

jen can't you hire a delivery van.

If he helps you move, he knows where you're moving to.

Are you ending your relationship with him?

When you split, raise your concerns with the right people. Tell them about his behaviour. That will help appease your fears re: his access to the baby.

I'm not in the uk but I'm sure there are people close that can help if you tell us where you live? Contact Women's Aid who can also help.

You keep saying you're alone but you're NOT.

I agree with posters who say you need to work on yourself but you MUST make sure those children are safe first and foremost.

End it. Now. If he doesn't live with you so much the better. Just don't let h in. If he starts anything, phone the police.