To be annoyed by him coming on to me around our kids?

[jenrose29]

DD1 is 5 yrs old, DD2 is 5 months old, DP is a randy bugger. At weekends we have the kids in bed for cuddles in the morning, DP is always stroking me etc and his 'excitement' is evident. I'm sure if I allowed him to he'd do stuff regardless of the kids. For me, it's irritating and spoils what should be a nice time with the kids. I'm by no means frigid but having the kids there just means I'm not in that mind-set. Yesterday I was breastfeeding a sleeping DD2 on the sofa, DP bent in to give me a kiss, was excited and later said he'd been hoping I'd give him a BJ. Am I being unreasonable to be irritated by his (in my opinion) inappropriate randiness?

If my DH behaved like this, I would squeeze his balls V tightly whilst looking in his eyes and tell him in no uncertain terms that if he ever treated me like a sex object ever again then he would be giving himself a blow job.
How dare he treat you with such little respect!

Oh ? he sounds just horrid and completely inappropriate. If you have told him, why does he continue to do it? Because he either doesn?t understand or doesn?t care. If it?s the former, then you can make it very clear that you expect him to stop this behaviour immediately.

If it is the latter and he just doesn?t care, then you need to get to counselling if you want to work on your marriage, because it is just not on and he needs to learn some respect and boundaries.

Alternatively, leave the tosser. Nobody would blame you.

Jeez. Don't even question yourself.
You said you feel harassed. And you ARE being harassed in your own home.

I'd say you have some important decisions to make. You are not just some wank vessel.

He doesn't help at all with the children either ?

Please stop procreating with this twat

It sounds as if he wants to be "caught" by your daughter!

Honestly-"do it discreetly as she is in & out"??!!

did he spend every day after birth banging on about how hard it was for him to go without?

I can't fathom how you can put up with this continual pawing and sexual harassment all the time...has he always had this high a sex drive and are you compatible this way and generally do enjoy a lot of sex together?

I am revolted that he could even be aroused in these ways around his children and expect you to join in at all...it's very worrying I think...highly inappropriate and weird really

it all sounds quite abusive and very unhealthy

He sounds vile and abusive.
What would happen if he had no sexual contact for a couple of weeks?

Erm, 5 year olds pick up so much going on around them, and it would potentially be an offence, causing a child to watch sexual act. Would knowing that have any impact on him?
How does he react when you say no?

How does he react if you say no to sex?

Robomummy
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I have a pretty good guess what the answer is going to be!

Gross, he's disgusting. Really disgusting. Your 5 year old would certainly remember, I'd be really distressed by this.

Golly, that is absolutely revolting!

The fact that he thinks its okay to be aroused and wants to have sex with you while you dd is around is really very disturbing and not at all normal.

Above and beyond that he is sexually harassing you. I would put up with that for about 5 seconds before DH sorted it or got out. I just don't see how any one could continue to live like that.

What exactly does he have going for him ? [hconfused]

Absolutely VILE. Wrong on all levels. I'm astounded it's even being questioned.

Leave.

Where did you get all that from Eleanor just had a read back and can't see a mention of him being married, other children, debts or ignoring the baby (unless I missed it, with baby brain is possible)

Yes you're being massively unreasonable. You should absolutely have sex in front of your children and give him blowjobs when breastfeeding. What's your problem?

he sounds like a complete pig.

Isn't intentionally causing a child to watch or witness sexual behaviour / intercourse illegal & a safeguarding offence? (not 100% on this).

Yes it is.

OP, your "D"P sounds vile.

It's sexual abuse of your children.
I hope to hell you step in and protect them from this happening further by getting rid of the fucker.

What's going to happen if your DD goes into school and tells a teacher?

Wanting to have sex in front of a five year old would be a seriously creepy deal breaker for me. That's even without the other stuff he sounds utterly repellant.

This person is abusive.

OP, I am really sorry but you appear to have picked a sexual abuser for a partner