AIBU to think this woman is totally bonkers and unfair on her children

[issey6cats]

saw on msn main page a 61 year old woman in brazil has given birth to twins, not a surrogate but for herself, aibu to think that at this age she will be exhausted all the time, wont live to see these children past say thier thirties and is being unfair having children when most parents are looking forward to retiring and taking life a bit easier, not plunging into new motherhood, am not slating older mothers but i had my children between the ages of 18 and 24 and that was hard enough work

Well, I expect she would have much rather had them ten years ago. And presumably she thought that it would be more unfair to the embryos if they were destroyed instead of implanted.

I think I would choose differently, were I in her position, but I cannot know.

Implanted? That's the wrong word, isn't it. Implantation is what occurs after successful IVF.

Introduced to her uterus?

The story says she has been trying to get pregnant for 20 years soo not a hasty decision.

Everlong, my dd aged 13 was badly injured in feb, we neatly lost her, her friends were also touch and go, her teacher died.

My mil dies at 40, my Dhs beast friend died at 24.

There are no certainties in this life.

Celebrate life don't carp and critisise.

I wish her and her babies well.

Everlong so very sorry, so much heartache on mumsnet threads.

I totally respect your opinion but personally I can't get too worked up about this.

Anyway lets hope the babies have a happy life.

Thinking of you Everlong.. X

everlong I hope the anniversary passes peacefully for you and your family x

My dad died of a brain hemorrage at 44 when I was 16 and my sister was 12, however in your 60s you probably have a higher chance if ill health or of dying before your dc reach adult hood.

I had ds1 at 16, he hasnt had less educational opportunities then I had. He's probably had more as his education has been very important to me. He had some extra private tuition a few years ago, which isn't something my parents ever thought of for me when I was struggling.

Its her life. She will do what she wants with it. Shes not commiting a crime.
As is the same with you. Its your life, you chose to have your children. You're not commiting a crime.

If circumstances require then of course older women can parent well. Many grandparents or older siblings raise children when family needs mean they have to. There's a big difference between that sort of scenario and one involving women choosing to have biological children at an advanced age.

AnEerie i actually had my first job at 14 and dh and i have both always been savers so both had plenty in the bank before having dcs. dh worked offshore for 6 years and has only recently given that up in favour of working close to home as i am unwell. i have worked from home for pretty much my entire adult life and so have not paid childcare. you know nothing of my circumstances but yet pretty much call me a liar. i realise that we are probably the exception rather than the rule but not every teenager is immature and not every young mum lives off handouts. it makes me sad that there are people who think that way though i am lucky to have never encountered such predjuces myself.

Can u quote me where i said i think 18 year old parents live of benefits?

Im shock any 18 year old can afford priave school for their child!

But if they can and want to fine good on them.