not to tell DD2 that it's her birthday today?

[Ithinkitsjustme]

She is 4 today but because my DH went to work after she got up and won't be home until she is in bed and her party is tomorrow we have told her that her birthday is tomorrow. I thought it was a good idea and my other DC's have gone along with it and not said anything, but people in work think we are awful for doing this, what do you think?

I don't see why people think a tiny lie about a date is a problem when plenty of parents lie for years about the tooth fairy and santa.

how strange!

My sweet audrina!

It's odd odd odd!

My DCs little parties were often done on a different day to the actual b'day itself but they still had their special tea and presents from us on the real date!

This sounds familiar so I am sure years ago we have done the same. Birthdays equated parties for ds so he used to get confused.

Llama, do you do Santa and the tooth fairy? Would you not encourage older children to lie to younger children about it?

I think it's odd, parties rarely fall on birthdays, they usually happen on the nearest weekend. It's quite normal for parents to work and kids to go to school on their birthdays and doesn't cause anyone else any problems so I think its a very strange thing to do OP

I mean the lie wont harm her either, but its just a weird thing to do IMO, will you do this every year unless her birthday is on a saturday?

Anyway, don't you do birthday WEEKS in your house?

She's only four. How many people on here can even remember their fourth birthday? I don't see the problem with what OP is doing. It's less complicated than explaining why her party is not actually on her birthday.

Surely the twins know - or will know soon enough - that being twins means they were born on the same day?

Or do they know that it isn't actually their birthday, but prefer having individual days?

Oh I remember my 4th birthday alright ....

I got a Sweep glove puppet as part of my present.

DS remembers his second and third birthday, I remember my 4th, I had a hedgehog cake (made with choc buttons for the spikes)

Erm, actually, I got the names mixed up there - it was a Sooty glove puppet.

(it was the 60s so I can be excused)

AND I was distracted by the BLIZZARD OUTSIDE!

I don't remember my 40th birthday, ! It's not about her having her party ON her birthday, or even about parents going to work so much as my DH wanting to see her open her presents and be there for the celebrations at some point. I will be working myself tomorrow, but I will still get to see her whereas he won't see her at all today.

well then why are you asking? Everyone thinks you're BU but you keep saying you're not.

Thats mean... So what if ur husband is not there, u and ur other children could of celebrated with u... And ur teaching ur children to lie and hide things snd they will its ok to do it

I find it incredibly bizarre but Zip , that's even more odd- why would you do that ?

Is it crazy day on MN again? :(

Not everyone Mrscant.

I REMEMBER MY 4TH BIRTHDAY!

It's the first birthday I remember. My mum made me a cake with blue icing on it and she decorated it with those jelly diamonds and I wore a blue and white gingham blouse with a ribbon round the neck. I remember eating my weight in cocktail sausages.

My first ever

I think it's really odd!

She could've had a special breakfast and her presents this morning and a nice day playing with her presents and a treat tea at home!

My DH will be away for both my children's birthdays next year, he won't be back until at least 6 weeks later. How would you deal with that?

I have friends who have December or Jan birthdays and they celebrate at another time of the year - they seem quite emotionally balanced. I did it to give them a nice day not for me - its a lot more bloody work to be honest but it gives them a nicer day . And it's not a lie because if they asked me I would tell them ,