When I was a pre teen / young teen I attended what was then called a charm school- a kind of modelling/finishing school. It was run by a older (60s ) married couple.
The man used to sit there calling us all to sit on his knee. This progressed to him putting his hand up my top or running his hands up and down my legs, up my skirt. It was all in plain sight and no one dared question it, we were all keen to please. I became his "favourite."
I suppose at the time there was some muttering about him being a dirty old man but he was in a position of power. He used to take me out for lunch and would sometimes be outside school waiting for me. He always tried to kiss me on the lips. He made my skin crawl.
One morning he rang me out of the blue and started rambling on, thanking me, for giving him a wet dream the night before. He said it hadn't happened to him for years and wanted to say thank you for making him feel like that. I was nearly sick. I was a few years older by then but even so, I felt really dirty, even though I knew I hadn't done anything, he made it sound like I had performed a sex act on him.
Even so, I never thought of it as abuse or that he was anything but a dirty old man. All this stuff with Jimmy Saville has brought it all to the fore though and I know there were rumours at the time about other, older girls, and the stuff that went on with them. It makes my skin crawl, and he's been dead almost 20 years.
I wanted to say this, because I've never really told anyone. Even my parents accepted the way he touched us. I don't know why, I think things were just different then
I would never allow anyone to touch my child in that manner and think you have done very well to equip your DD with the ability to say no, if she feels uncomfortable. I wish someone had given me the permission to do that.