to not want to kiss my DC full on the lips?

[lovelyladuree]

I have noticed this mother at the school before, kissing her DS(8) full on the lips, half a dozen times, with wet sloppy kisses outside the classroom door. This morning she was directly in front of me and it was 'mmmmm......mmmmmm......mmmmm.......mmmmmmm....etc' in our faces. I kiss my DS wherever I can aim and catch him (head,cheek,anorak). Am I being weird? When I was at home, wet sloppy kisses on the lips were for people you were married to/in a partnership with. Or AIBU?

[ShirleyRots]

DS2 kisses me on the lips, but I haven't sucked a willy for aaaages.

[Chubfuddler]

Why is it a good idea?

[MogTheForgetfulCat]

No, it's a good idea for YOUR Dc to realise that. Leave mine alone. And yes, vile to say that kissing my DC on the lips is "inappropriate".

[OxfordBags]

Hey, here's a though, Op: supposing you are right about the oral sex/kissing children thing (which you are 100% wrong about and need some serious counselling if you really see things that way), then surely if there is a choice to be made between sexually pleasuring your DH or showing your child physical affction then the child should win out?! Stop sucking cock and start showing your child some kissy love. And, erm, see someone about those mahusive issues, yeah?

I'm actually pretty annoyed at the OP, because I had never in my life seen or imagined any link between adult sex and a parent (or close relative) kissing their child and now she's made me realise some people actually think like that. Sick, sick, sick.

[BaffledTruly]

I'm absolutely astonished by this thread. I must be living in a parallel universe to all of you as I've never seen any parents kissing their kids on the lip. My parents never kissed us on the lips and I've never kissed my own kids on the lips.

Maybe I've just never noticed? I can't imagine kids want to be kissed on the lips by adults anyway, surely not?

Adult saliva and adult breath on a childs lips just seems wrong...When I was a child I wouldn't even accept food if an adults mouth had touched it. Nobody told me not to, I just found adult mouths disgusting......

I just couldn't impose that on my children anyway.

[Tryingtothinkofnewsnazzyname]

Lip kissing, like anything, has the meaning you want to give it. When you're kissing a sexual partner it can be (but doesn't have to be) sexual. When you're kissing a child it's about your parental love for the child. FGS people! Why can't kissing mean one thing when you do it to one person and one thing when you kiss a child? Otherwise you're applying some weird kind of reverse Pretty Woman logic.

Mind you, given that the second post from the OP noticeably stepped up the value, and there haven't been any more, I think s/he had a particular agenda with this...

[FrustratedSycamorePants]

hugo presumably you mean it's not appropriate for DCs to go kissing random strangers?
Why is kissing parents that they love, and who love them, in a non sexual, not thinking about oral sex, kind of way wrong?

[wigglybeezer]

It reminds me of the minority of women who think breast feeding is yucky because boobs are really sexy accessories not human udders.

[Chubfuddler]

Adults breath on child's lips is just wrong?

There are some odd people here today.

[FelixDaSouza]

What a bizarre thing to say!

I gave birth to both my babies out of my Vagina. Does that mean there was something dirty and sexual about their births since it is the same vagina my husband puts his penis into?

Nope didn't think so...

Each to their own but it's a bit much judging someone else because they kiss their child on the lips!

[hugoagogo]

I can understand people being upset at the implication that there is somehow an sexual element to how they show affection to their dc.

However, that is not what I meant at all.

[Gunznroses]

It's not that I think that it's wrong to do it, as such; just that I think it's a good idea for dc to understand that lip kissing is reserved for loving partners

Ive never heard such utter nonsense! Lip kissing is obvioulsy reserved for partners or their dicks in YOUR family but not mine.

[RonettePulaski]

What about fingering??? And all the places fingers go

[FrustratedSycamorePants]

baffled could your adult mouth dislike be a result of not being kissed on the lips? Genuine query not a dig btw.

My mum wasn't big on cuddles, but did give us a kiss on the lips at bedtime. I can easily kiss my children, but cuddles dont come naturally.
You weren't kissed on the lips, so don't do it,

So, is it more likely that if you aren't kissed on the lips as a child, you dot kiss your children on the lips, And vice versa?

[JamieandtheMagicTorch]

Baffled - did you read the posts that said the child initiated it?

It wasn't normal in my family either (actually, my parents, though loving weren't very tactile), so I'm a bit reserved myself. But it feels lovely to have a smacker from your DCs


Me too, trying

[JamieandtheMagicTorch]

Baffled

Fair do's, some adults' mouths are disgusting. There are some great aunts and uncles I didn't want to have much to do with, on account of the cigarette breath

[Chubfuddler]

My dd came out of a nice clean incision in my abdomen, so that's ok.

DS came out of my vagina though so that's dirty and wrong.

[BaffledTruly]

Frustrated No, defnitely not. I thought all kids were like that. My brain is actually blown. You know when an adult would take your ice cream/apple and lick it/bite it and you'd have to throw it away due to the disgustingness of adults mouths....?

Was that just me?

[Lilithmoon]

What rubbish hugoagogo. In your world lip kissing is reserved for loving partners but that is not the way it is for everyone. And as for saying lip kissing is not appropriate.... try hitching your judgy pants a little higher :(
I love kissing my daughter and she loves kissing me and sometimes the kisses sounds like 'mwah mwah mwah'!

[Gunznroses]

Baffledtruly - why on would a parent be dribbling saliva on their child whilst giving them a kiss ? There are some truly strange people on MN is all i can say.

[Chubfuddler]

Yes that was just you.

[FrustratedSycamorePants]

Now food is different baffled I can't eat and food that anyone has taken a bite/lick out of. doesn't stop my dc offering me a lick of their icecreams. Boak.