to not want to kiss my DC full on the lips?

[lovelyladuree]

I have noticed this mother at the school before, kissing her DS(8) full on the lips, half a dozen times, with wet sloppy kisses outside the classroom door. This morning she was directly in front of me and it was 'mmmmm......mmmmmm......mmmmm.......mmmmmmm....etc' in our faces. I kiss my DS wherever I can aim and catch him (head,cheek,anorak). Am I being weird? When I was at home, wet sloppy kisses on the lips were for people you were married to/in a partnership with. Or AIBU?

I haven't read the whole thread, but I have heard that before, someone not kissing their child/baby on the lips because of germs.

However, you seem to feel uncomfortable with other people kissing their DC!? Have you grown up with very little affection?

I kiss and cuddle my DC whenever and wherever I can. And, no I don't give my 7.5 year old lots of sloppy kisses on the mouth at the school gate, but that's just because he doesn't think its appropriate!

Definately not desirable. Hugs and head dry kisses, yes. I have never kissed anyone on the lips except boyfriends/husband. Can't help but cringe. how did the 8 year-old boy react? His male friends will definately have said something to him about this?

OP, if you think lips are just for sex and husbands, how on earth do you feel about nipples?

I am tempted to start an AIBU thread to ask..

AIBU to feel paranoid that I am being JUDGED at the school gates when I gave DSs a kiss goodbye?

PS Personally I think YABU but then I am a mouth kissing mummy ... Mmmwwwahhh!

I kiss my mum on the lips, my dad on the lips, my brother on the lips, my sister on the lips, lots of my friends on the lips and my DS on the lips.

My DHs penis gets bloody everywhere now I think about it

DD is only 7m and yes, I do kiss on the lips and probably will as she gets older. Despite me having major issues with touching people - DD isn't "people", oddly. AND we do the masticated food thing - some foods just aren't practical for her yet!

I think we have to be a bit careful on this thread to not give Baffled all the flack for the non-returning OP, and to respect different people's feelings as we would wish them to respect ours.

Amen

Can't believe some of the stuff on this thread, dd (11) gave me a kiss on the lips as she went to bed last night. Flipping heck it was a peck on the lips not a snog. Don't sexualise a peck on the lips off a child.

YANBU

MIL still kisses DH on the lips...and he is 38.

I can't bloody stand it.

Don't sexualise a peck on the lips off a child.

In a nutshell.

It sounds like an innocent kiss of a child is thought of as something sexual.

People need to compartmentalise their body parts.

You can use lips for talking to your mother, kissing your children, drinking tea, oral sex, snogging or drinking wine. The lines are in no way blurred, nor should they be.

In the same way you can use nipples to feed a baby and in foreplay. Breastfeeding is not sexual and foreplay is nothing to do with your baby (although it sometimes leads to babies )

Personally, I don't like seeing my MIL kiss my DH on the lips as he is 46, but a peck on the lips with your child is an innocent expression of love and affection.

The time to stop kissing your children on the mouth is when they rub their mouth and say "aw Mum, gerroff, it's embarrassing!" until then, I see no problem with it.

I kiss DS and DD on the lips, as I am sure there will come a time when they say "Oh mum! you are so embarrassing!"
So I intend to make the most of it now!

I promise to move to cheek by the time DS is 30

Ah but Fanjolina, you might be just one of many wives or partners. He'll only ever have one mum who'll love him unconditionally.

I'm not for a second suggesting there's anything sexual about kissing your children on the lips, or anything wrong with it. All I'm saying is that for me, kissing on the lips is something that only happens between romantic partners. Not because I have OCD, hang-ups or a sick mind, just because that's how it was in my family, DH's family, and tbh, pretty much every family I've ever known.

Obviously sometimes my baby's kisses land on my mouth and that's fine, it would be pretty weird to mind something so wonderful as a kiss from her, but I wouldn't aim for the mouth, with her or anyone else, other than DH.

I'm the same as you, Minty82. (Ooh that rhymed.)