To want his teacher do more than just apologise?

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Sorry long post.I have namechanged for obvious reasons!
My son is a new Yr7 at High School, he has been loving classes, and especially those with a certain teacher, he has come home raving about how good her lessons are etc.
Last Friday, I had a very worrying call from his brother (DS2) to say DS1 had been upset by a teacher at school, and was so embarrassed he hadn't got the bus home, and was going to try to walk to his dads palce of work (only 1.5mile, but DS's dont really know the town where the school is very well, and certainly would not be sure of the walking route to that workplace) I tried to ring DS1, only to find his phone was out of power, so immediatly left work and drove to the school, only to find DS2 had got the late bus home instead (couldnt find dads, so went back and caught it, thank god)
It turns out that the beloved teacher had seen him fiddling under the desk (his pen had broken, he was trying to put it back together), and said "DS1, there is only one reason for your hand to be under your desk, and you having a big smile on your face, you are obviously playing with your willy!" and the whole class laughed at him My DS gets teased quite a lot as he has a few minor physical disability issues anyway, and found this totally humiliating, so burst into tears, and the TA took him out of nclass and sat with him outside to calm him down. Teacher then came out and said "Sorry, I shouldnt have said that, but lets not make an issue of it, shall we?" all DS wanted to know was why she had done this to him, which she wouldn't (or could'nt!) answer. The bell went for end of school, and all kids came out of class, still talking about incident and laughing, adn at that point DS had made the decision not to get on the bus.
When I got home and heard this, I tried to ring school, but only got answering machine, then at 6pm, I had a phone call from the school Deputy Head Teacher, apparently the TA had gone to him and reported the incident, along with another teacher who had heard this woman talking to DS in the corridor, and DHT, was investigating, and wanted to know if an apology was enough, or did we want more, as apparently this teacher was already under warning for "inappropriate behaviour"!
DS is very upset still, he is worried that the teasing will get worse, and everybody will say he was playing with himself in class, but doesnt want teacher to get sacked, what do I say I want to happen, as, personally I want her hung out to dry for hurting my sons feelings so much, but also want to repect sons wishes?? Thanks for reading this, any opinions welcome (puts on hard hat!)

I got an email from DHT confirming what has been decided, he said he will also send out a posted reply, so that is sorted. DS1 seems now to be taking things in his stride, as no futher mention has been made of the subject since Wednesday, and I think he hopes it has now all "gone away" so to speak. DS2 doesn't come off his ban until tomorrow, so is really contrite, and I am definate he won't be mentioning the subject again!

What did they decide to do ?

Re: DHT investigating/dealing with this rather than HT.
I used to be a union steward, though not in a school.
In cases like this it is usual for 1 person/manager to investigate (ie do the interviews, take statements, compile the information etc) and if it became evident that disciplinary action needs to be taken (which this case may well have resulted in) then the disciplinary part would be passed on to another manager (in this case HT) to deal with.
The idea being that the person doing the disciplining isn't influenced by anything other than the facts as they are presented in the investigation documents and subsequent hearing.
In reality, in such a relatively small environment as a school, the HT would know all the ins and outs while the investigation was on-going.
But dotting i's and crossing t's is important in these cases as tribunals are often won and lost on the way things are handled from the outset rather than the "crime" committed.

cumfy They agreed to a full apology (which has now been given), moving her away from teaching DS1 (done) formal written warning (also done, I have had a copy) and for her to go on some kind of student interaction course (when that will be, I dont know) DS1 is happily settled with his new subject tutor, has been givn 5 'positive reaction to a situation' points on his record (he is well pleased with this, as, at the end of each term, points mean prizes!) and, hopefully, this is all behind us. Phew!!