To feel really very hurt by my SIL.

[Diddydollydo]

My brother and his wife have just had their first baby (yay!), a beautiful little girl. I wanted to get them something special, or what I thought was special, so I started making a basket up for them a few months ago, adding to it when I could afford to.

I put in bodysuits, babygrows, a music box, teething ring, a couple of little dresses, little soft toys, practical stuff like nappies, wipes, muslins etc. I also made some wee trinkets for DN for when she is older (I make silver jewellery). I decorated the basket with ribbons and balloons and took it round on Saturday and DB and SIL seemed very happy with it. DB rang me when I got home to say thanks again.

Today at work, DB rang and asked me to drop by on my way home from work and pick something up that I'd left there. So he opens the door and we're chatting in the hall. SIL was in the living room and clearly didn't hear me come in as I hear her say 'Yeah, Diddy was here on Saturday. Yes a basket of crap then laughs. DB was mortified and started to walk into the living room but I stopped him, said it didn't matter and left. She's just had a baby and I didn't want them fighting.

However, now I feel really hurt. I put so much thought into the basket and I know that perhaps it wasn't a fancy present but I thought she, in particular, would appreciate it. And most of all, I thought she was my friend. Am I being a twattish sensitive idiot?

[Ingles2]

What a cow!!!
Don't get in contact and don,t feel like a twat... You spent time and money on a lovely thoughtful gift that anyone should be thrilled with.
I hope flowers arrive for you, by way of apology, tommorrow

[allthefun]

Poor you. She is most definitely in the wrong. How horrid to actually be talking it down on the phone.

Even it had all come from 99p store i would have loved that someone put all the thought into making it into a charming gift. I got loads and loads of flowers with my baby. More pointless than your gift as they only last a week but I was beyond touched that people bothered. She is an ungrateful cow and I seriously wouldn't bother with any gifts in the future for her....DB and DN can get itall.

[milli2512]

You have not been twattish. I would be feeling extremely hurt if I was you. She'll end up regretting her comments as I have a feeling this will alter the way you feel and act towards her. Your gift sounded very thoughtful and lovely and if she wasn't touched by it then she's a complete cow.

[1sassylassy]

Op that was a lovely gift and you sound like a lovely person.

[poachedeggs]

She sounds like a treat.

I'm sorry you've been hurt and I'm sorry your faith in her as a friend has been lost.
I'm sure your DB will have had a word with her. Let's hope she's suffering excruciating embarrassment at her meanness being exposed.

If she goes for the 'pretend it didn't happen' tack I would be unable to resist buying her the shittiest charity-shop jumpers and elderly woman talc-and-soap sets forever more, gifted with a sweet and meaningful smile which says 'I'll give you crap, you cow

[SavoyCabbage]

I sounds like a lovely present. I wish you were mi SIL.

When your niece I suggest finger paint and tube of glitter as a present. And a drum kit when she's two. Or maybe a Great Dane puppy.

[BabylonPI]

YANBU I did the same for my SIL and DB when they had their son 6 weeks ago and they were both (still are) thrilled to hits with it.

Your SIL sounds very rude, spoilt and utterly thoughtless Makes me so cross as you obviously put a lot of effort into DNs gift basket.

I would suggest that in future, you put some money aside each birthday/Xmas for DN until she is old enough to express a wish for a particular toy etc - SIL will probably be mean about that too, but let her get on with it.

I'm really sorry you overheard her, you sound lovely and certainly not deserving of two facedness like that

[BabylonPI]

Thrilled to bits

Damn phone

[redwhiteandblueeyedsusan]

ouch... what a horrible thing to hear when you have put so much thought into a lovely present. and it is a lovely present. it will hurt worse because it was so personal and so much thought was put into it. (as opposed to picking some random thing in the shop on the way to sils)

[pigletmania]

Your SIL sounds like a vile and nasty ungrateful cowbag. I would drop by ask for te present back to give to somebody more worthy. The resent sounds wonderful, I was given something similar by a friend and it was so lovely

[PurplePidjin]

SavoyCabbage... Moon Sand

[HenriettaChicken]

My mum bought me paper knickers & breast pads. I was thrilled. Your gift sounds beautiful, thoughtful, personal & useful.

Did your SIL have a traumatic labour? Is she on numerous post-natal meds?

If not, she's an ungrateful wench.

[scurryfunge]

Wow, how ungrateful. I spent months putting together a basket for my sister and would be very upset if she had not appreciated the the thought. (she loved it). How insulting.

[CoolaSchmoola]

My Aunt did something similar for us when DD was born - useful presents, baby toiletries, cotton wool, wipes, cotton buds, nappy sacks etc etc. It was BRILLIANT! DD was one yesterday and we still have a load of Johnson's baby bath/lotion from her gift.

I'm thinking that as it is their first baby your SIL is being a bit of a clueless bint who still thinks that designer clothes are the thing a baby needs... She'll get the point eventually - when she realises that a £50 outfit stains as easily as a £5 one, that a £50 one fits for all of 5 mins just like a £5 one - and the things you need the most for a dinky newborn is precisely the things you bought....

And then she'll realise that actually SHE was seriously twattish - and you are fabulous. And I hope she feels ashamed.

[exoticfruits]

You sound lovely - most people would have been thrilled.

[KenDoddsDadsDog]

Nasty mean bitch. Your present is thoughtful and kind.
You have to talk to her about it somehow as its totally unacceptable.

[Happylander]

How horrible. Has she not called to apologise yet?

I would have loved something like that.

[OrangeLily]

What.a.twat!

I love gifts like that for every occasion. Thoughtful and mean a lot more than something expensive that took one trip to one shop!

[ladymariner]

Your SIL sounds utterly vlle and ungrateful whilst you sound lovely and so thoughtful......I truly hope she's squirming in shame as she damned well should be!!! I would have been over the moon with a gift like that....xx

[bumperella]

She's an ungrateful cow and yet YOU feel twattish? You gave her a lvoely kind thoughtful gift and she was rude and dissmissive.
At least you can see her true colours now, over a gift and not when you need to rely on her.

[confusedpixie]

You sound lovely OP, your SIL on the other hand is a bitch :( I hope that she apologises, definitely stop with any effort on her behalf though for occasions like Christmas and birthdays, I wouldn't bother with effort if it's received like that!

[FarrowAndBollock]

What a cow. Is there any way you could have misheard? I can't believe anyone could be so unnecessarily horrible.

Is she jealous of the relationship between you and your brother?

You do realise, from now on in, you must buy the noisiest and most annoying toys for your DN. I'm sure we can all help you choose .

[shesariver]

Dont understand why you feel so "twatish", shes the ungrateful twat, not you. You were kind and thoughtful, why has this made you feel as if you are in the wrong?

[BitOutOfPractice]

I hope your brother tells her you heard and she has the good grace to be utterly toe-curlingly embarrassed

It sounds like a lovely present. I'm not surprised you are hurt you sound lovely

[puds11]

I would have been thrilled with a present like that!

Even if it was literally a basket of crap, i would still be happy someone had gone to the effort of putting it in a basket and decorating it for me.


You sound like a lovely person, she is being a twat.