To feel really very hurt by my SIL.

[Diddydollydo]

My brother and his wife have just had their first baby (yay!), a beautiful little girl. I wanted to get them something special, or what I thought was special, so I started making a basket up for them a few months ago, adding to it when I could afford to.

I put in bodysuits, babygrows, a music box, teething ring, a couple of little dresses, little soft toys, practical stuff like nappies, wipes, muslins etc. I also made some wee trinkets for DN for when she is older (I make silver jewellery). I decorated the basket with ribbons and balloons and took it round on Saturday and DB and SIL seemed very happy with it. DB rang me when I got home to say thanks again.

Today at work, DB rang and asked me to drop by on my way home from work and pick something up that I'd left there. So he opens the door and we're chatting in the hall. SIL was in the living room and clearly didn't hear me come in as I hear her say 'Yeah, Diddy was here on Saturday. Yes a basket of crap then laughs. DB was mortified and started to walk into the living room but I stopped him, said it didn't matter and left. She's just had a baby and I didn't want them fighting.

However, now I feel really hurt. I put so much thought into the basket and I know that perhaps it wasn't a fancy present but I thought she, in particular, would appreciate it. And most of all, I thought she was my friend. Am I being a twattish sensitive idiot?

[cupofteaplease]

She sounds incredibly ungrateful, you poor thing.

[needsomesunshine]

She sounds horrible. Lovely thoughtful present. My bf did this for me & I loved it.

[wannabedomesticgoddess]

When I had DD my SIL gave me a basket like that. It really was amazing. So thoughtful.

Your SIL is an ungrateful cow. Im really :( and for you.

[jerryfudd]

I agree with the others - she's an ungrateful cow!

My best friend did similar for me and I loved it!

[Corygal]

Dearie me, what an awful thing to say. Your basket sounds utter heaven - who wouldn't be really touched and grateful?

Well, inasfar as there are upsides to this:

1. You never need to spend more than a pound on her ever again.
   
2. Your lovely new neice will really appreciate the jewelry and trinkets later in life.
   
3. Oh, and your neice will LOVE YOU BECAUSE YOU ARE A LOVELY LOVELY AUNT.

[Nanny0gg]

I think that's one of the most thoughtful presents any new mum can get. My DC got one from MiL (they're not all bad!) and we used to do them for pregnant colleagues.

Do you think she was just showing off to whoever she was talking to? That's no excuse, I can really understand your hurt.

Have you heard from her or DB since?

[Katisha]

Where do you go from here?

[CalamityKate]

Your gift sounds lovely. You sound lovely. I'd have cried if someone had given it to me (in a soppy, touched way).

Sorry you were hurt xx

[LRDtheFeministDragon]

No, she's horrible.

Your gift sounds lovely and thoughtful.

[HumphreyCobbler]

that is appalling. I am sorry you heard that.

I agree with everyone else - it sounds like a lovely present. One I would have been delighted to have been given.

[LetsKateWin]

What a really thoughtful gift. She is very ungrateful.

[FizzyLaces]

sorry this has happened, you sound lovely.

[kissyfur]

What a nasty woman! I'd love a thoughtful present like that. She doesn't deserve you or your kindness by the sound of it

[EmmaNemms]

That was such a thoughtful thing to do, and how sad you must have felt to hear that. Sounds like she was just showing off, perhaps a bit hormonal still and feeling a euphoric after the birth? No excuse but can't th

[Diddydollydo]

I feel like a total idiot to be honest. She'll probably mention it next time I'm round and I won't know how to react I don't want to make even more of a twat of myself. She does like her designer gear but I wanted to get something personal. I'm more bothered by the fact that I am a bit blindsided that she would say something like that as like I said, I thought we were friends.

[HiHowAreYou]

You must feel very upset. I do hope she apologises. :(

[SomeoneThatYouUsedToKnow]

Wow, what a mean thing to say and how awful to have heard it. It sounds like a lovely gift that any normal person would have loved.

It was kind of you not to confront her but maybe it would be best to let her know, she will feel terriblev(hopefully) but will be able to apologise to you. Better to get it all out rather than let it fester. If she properly apologises you should be able to get back to some sort of OK relationship. She may not have meant it.
or she could just be a bitch

[ChickensHaveNoEyebrows]

Wow. I don't know if I could get past that, tbh

[squeakytoy]

She sounds like a nasty cow.. having a baby is no excuse for being so bloody ungrateful and rude.

[adeucalione]

Is it possible that, only hearing one side of the conversation, you may have misunderstood?

'have you now got a house full of baby crap then?'
'yep, everyone's been really kind, tons of baby crap'
'has diddy been round?'
'yes..she brought a whole basket of baby crap'

Admittedly it's not something I'd say but I prefer to think the best of people.

[TerraNotSoFirma]

That's a lovely present. She is an arse, a nasty one at that.

:( what a bitch.

[toomuchmonthatendofthemoney]

Present sounds lovely, thoughtful, practical and beautiful. Looking back, much more useful than some of the stuff I was given with new born DS. Your choices were made with care and love, which is the best part of the present.

Ungrateful selfish thoughtless silly moo.

Hope she is squirming right now. Maybe reading this, that would be fun. if she is the type of person to judge a present cos it doesn't come in a fancy designer bag, then she is not worth bothering with any more.

Hope you get a decent apology at least.

[EmmaNemms]

That was such a thoughtful thing to do, and how sad you must have felt to hear that. Sounds like she was just showing off, perhaps a bit hormonal still and feeling a euphoric after the birth? No excuse but can't think how she could have genuinely been so ungrateful and unkind.

[apostropheuse]

What a downright horrible and nasty thing to say. She's really not worth upsetting yourself over. As many have said earlier, it's a very thoughtful and kind gift to have given. The personal touch is appreciated by normal people.
I think it's so much nicer than having spent an absolute fortune on a gift without having put much thought into it.

I seriously could cry at the thought of anyone being so mean to another person.

Your brother must be furious with her. Hopefully he's seen her true colours.

Take care

[Floggingmolly]

You haven't made a twat of yourself at all. She was an absolute cow about a beautiful thoughtful gift; her response was no reflection on you at all, but says volumes about her .