to think that a 3 year old girl shouldn't be in nappies

[missymarmite]

Quick background. I have 1 DS 9, we live with DP and his eldest DD 10, and we have his other two DD, 7 and 3, every weekend from thursday/friday to sunday.

The 3 year old had her birthday last month. I put my foot down and took the executive decision to try toilet training her. Every time before that, I mentioned it to DP he said it was up to his XW to sort it as the resident parent. So one day I just put her in some old knickers and let her run round outside in a dress. She got a bit upset when she wet herself, but over the next couple of weekends she began to get the hang of it. You can tell when she needs to go, because she kind of holds herself down there. At night and when we go out we put nappy pants on her and then she doesn't ask for the toilet, but in knickers she does.

DP told XW that she won't ask for the toilet when in nappy pants, but she has made no effort whatsoever to toilet train her, despite the fact that she only works part time and has every weekend child free, while both DP and I work full time and are exhausted most of the time, we still make the effort.

Am I BU to be frustrated and annoyed at this woman?

All children aren't ready at 2. You only have to read this thread or threads on the potty training board to see that.

I really should give up with this thread, beginning to feel like I am banging my head against a brick wall!

Please tell me what makes you so much better than me and everyone else.

Your children are out of nappies, my child is out of nappies.

Are you aware of something that I'm not that is going to adversely effect him in later life because he was 3 and 3 months instead of your nice tidy 3 years?

If he goes on to become a doctor or hotshot lawyer can I come back and stick two fingers up to you. Did you read my post earlier where my health visitor told me she agreed my son wan't ready and that her son wasn't out of nappies until 4 and he's now a lawye who funnily enough isn't in nappies and doesn't wet the bed. Do you know better than the health visitor too? Oh and the nursery agreed with me too. Do you know better than all of us?

Both mine trained at 2 with lots of accidents but done and dusted within a week. Dry at night straight away too. No I did not potty train my stepchildren their mother did that long before they were 2.

yellow, who are you talking to?

my Ds wasn't ready. As the parent I knew this.

Mine trained at 2 with only a 3 accidents and in 4 days. That doesn't reflect on parenting though just on the INDIVIDUAL child and their readiness.

Perhaps if you had waited you could have avoided all the accidents.

I'm talking to generatongap of course.

I suppose you're going to start saying that yoi can make a child dry at night too with you magic techniques that everyone does. Even though it's been medically proven that nightime dryness comes from developing a certain hormone.

i was just about to tell you about my grandmother talking and looking at a book whilst sitting but nope cant be arsed

Being out of nappies a whole year or two years is better for the child because they are not susceptible to nappy rash, it's cheaper, feels nicer, they are more comfortable and it is more hygienic. Nursery staff aren't tied up changing nappies when they should be educating and children gain self esteem from lLoki g after their own personal hygiene and not suffering the indignity of someone changing their nappy!

So why mention them? To add to your parenting credentials?
So you potty trained two children.
Jolly well done you.

Lots of posters here with more experience and knowledge than you.

Blimey, the smugness on this thread is astounding.

(dd1 trained at 2, dd2 and still in nappies at 2.7)

And op, you took the "executive decision". I bet you were popular.

Ha ha.
That last post did make me chuckle.
You are funny :)

Awaits more GG wisdom

My DD1 potty trained at over 3 and my DD2 potty trained at just about 2. They are now nearly 13 and 10 and a half. Who the fuck cares when they potty trained?

"indignity of someone changing their nappy"

That is priceless

I'm having a bit of a giggle too.

Looking at ds now, nope his arse never fell off from nappy rash (never had it), his self esteem seems fine he's a confident little chap bit bloody too confident (it must have been the nappies). I've just asked him how he feels about suffering the indignity of me changing his nappy he looked at me a bit like this and burst out laughing. Surprisingly he's very clean too, likes to take a bath each day, can wash himself, wipe his own bottom, flush the loo and even wash his hands. You're not convincing me.

What a load of bollocks GenerationGap. At least half of your list of "benefits" aren't even about the child FGS.

You have toilet trained a whole two children? Wow, that obviously makes you an expert then...

Generation.... You haven't met my children

Two pathologically afraid of the potty, one of which transferred this phobia to the toilet.
None of them would sit still with a book for more than 20 seconds
All three are stubborn and argumentative, they could follow instructions but chose not to.
One cant feel when she has s full bladder even now at 7 and peed 4 times an hour at that age, another will scream 'i don't need to go toilet' at me whilst he's wetting himself and withholds poo rather than do it on the toilet.

I tried all the tricks, they only came close to working with one.

A paediatrician told me when dd was 4.7 that they wouldn't even consider it a problem til she was older and suggested I put her back in nappies as she clearly just didn't have bladder control yet.

I just asked DD why she was so late to potty train. She told me she has no idea. But she volunteered that she kept her dummies for a long time because she liked them and when I took them off her she had others hidden that she kept for a long time afterwards.

Forget bladder conrol summer it's all about the parenting. GG knows.

Ask any adult you know what age they were out of nappies and if the indignity of their mum changing their nappies has affected their self esteem.

I bet your mum got you out of nappies real young GG, it's why you're so smart and stuff.

Pissing and pooing in your knickers is sooooo much more dignified!

Ok what about their teacher changing their nappy? We'll just have to agree to disagree but if my three year old were still in nappies I would think my parent skills were lacking, likewise if they still used a dummy or drank from a bottle. There is NO need for these things beyond 3 years, they are not babies!

Well I knew I was a sub par parent so that explains it

I let them keep their dummies til they decided to give them up too

Funny though... I hadn't realised I could just tell dd to stop wetting the bed.

There's no need for a lot of the things we give our children, but you know - some of them make life easier