to think that a 3 year old girl shouldn't be in nappies

[missymarmite]

Quick background. I have 1 DS 9, we live with DP and his eldest DD 10, and we have his other two DD, 7 and 3, every weekend from thursday/friday to sunday.

The 3 year old had her birthday last month. I put my foot down and took the executive decision to try toilet training her. Every time before that, I mentioned it to DP he said it was up to his XW to sort it as the resident parent. So one day I just put her in some old knickers and let her run round outside in a dress. She got a bit upset when she wet herself, but over the next couple of weekends she began to get the hang of it. You can tell when she needs to go, because she kind of holds herself down there. At night and when we go out we put nappy pants on her and then she doesn't ask for the toilet, but in knickers she does.

DP told XW that she won't ask for the toilet when in nappy pants, but she has made no effort whatsoever to toilet train her, despite the fact that she only works part time and has every weekend child free, while both DP and I work full time and are exhausted most of the time, we still make the effort.

Am I BU to be frustrated and annoyed at this woman?

Sounds like a good business for you then - "I can potty train any child over 30 months in 2 weeks or your money back"

Perhaps that would also help you see how you are over simplifying things

I think the reason it took your son longer yellow was because you started taking him to the toilet screaming and crying! You leave it to them to go just clean up every accident without comment even if they have no success during the first week the penny will drop in the second

Well my method took me a week so what have you got to say to that?

generation. but earlyer you said it should start when they can first walk. and it took 5 or 6 weeks.

I think the previous threads show an individual who likes to shove square pegs into round holes.

(Not that this thread is about potty training, but I have used the Toilet Training in A Day (or was it a Week?) method of Foxx and Azrin -- it took about two to three weeks of before and after activities to get the job done. If you can devote their every waking moment to establishing the new habit it can work very well. Trick is to figure out readiness.)

Oh I give up some people know it all.

It was a 'different' poster who mentioned potty training as soon as they could walk

Rubbish - if potty training can't be done in 2 days they aren't ready, what tosh, lazy parenting! I have 2 children and 2 stepchildren. Parents just won't commit to the hard slog that is potty training g

hmmthinkingaboutit - do you really think that linking to previous threads from a different board is okay?

As much as I disagreed with the OP in her original post - I think that finding previous threads & linking to them is very rude and a little bit unkind.

My mum saw what I was doing (with DCs aged 2.5 to about 3) and mused that in the olden days maybe it was the mothers who were being trained, not so much the toddlers.

I have never found potty training to be a hard slog.
Are you sure you are doing it right?

But its only a hard slog if you force a child who isn't ready. If you wait until they are showing signs then it can be pretty simple and not stressful for the child

yellow no, I get that :)

Its just more common IMO (well not just mine) the good news is I guess modern nappies are less likely to cause a rash/discomfort.

I wasn't happy for my children (once past 2) to be walking around with a poo stuck to their butts... they started to hide and I knew that was a good start.

I do think though, that just cos its easier (these days) doesn't actually make it any better.

The staff at the pre-school would probably agree. The early years curriculum is quite full on these days,stopping to a change a pooy nappy from an over 3 year old is a distraction.

I never mentioned training when they can first walk!

Moving a child out of nappies isn't supposed to be a 'hard slog'. It's a stage which you reach when a child has developed sufficiently to have the necessary control. Delaying this till the child is ready is not 'lazy parenting'. It's parenting that is responsive to the individual child.

Did you potty train your stepchildren?

There's no need to commit to a hard slog. Wait until they're ready and it won't be a hard slog!

Call me lazy all you want, I've managed to get 3 children so far out of nappies my way with very, very few accidents.

Wasn't a hard slog for me either.

I'm also definitely not lazy.

Mine were all done, at two, in a week!

Much easier , and nicer for them.

Rubbish you cannot force a child to potty train AT ALL it's just easy to say they aren't ready when you can't be bothered

generation the whole point in making sure the child is actually ready is so its not a hard slog for the child.

you appear to be advocating forcing the issue and saying if you dont then your a shite lazy parent,that is utter bollocks.

you are still yet to say why you reckon you have PT so many kids,

But that's exactly what you have been suggesting people do, make your mind up!

All children are ready at 2 if they can sit and look at a book, talk and follow instructions. No-one who has these skills should still be pooing their pants and hav

ing it condoned by their parents