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...to change the bedding once a week?

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playdotcom · 10/09/2012 19:30

Do you think that's adequate? New partner says his ExDW changed it every 2-3 days. Now as far as I know they weren't bonking like mad (or so he told me!) so I don't see the need for that frequency! He's started staying over at mines on weekends, usually a Saturday but this week he stayed on Friday so the same sheets were on since the previous Sat iyswim. Also, we hadn't had sex in the bed the last time he was here (tmi?). I would normally change them on a Saturday morning as I work full time mon-fri. I'm actually feeling a bit Hmm about him comparing my cleanliness to ExDW as she didn't work. Anyway, I'm ranting. How often do you change your sheets?

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TheHouseofMirth · 10/09/2012 19:48

Maybe his EX-W's frequent sheet changing was due to her shagging someone else?!

Agree that he is deeply abnormal though.

sugarice · 10/09/2012 19:48

oh shit, once every 3 weeks but I iron everything once washed < the bedding doesn't wiff and always smells fresh>

gordyslovesheep · 10/09/2012 19:48

2/3 weeks NOT 23 weeks - damn it

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playdotcom · 10/09/2012 19:49

How can anyone change the sheets daily? Unless she was a rampant baby oil user, they definitely need changed after those shenanigans.

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LineRunner · 10/09/2012 19:49

He kept tabs on the bedding? And told you? And mentioned the ExW with whom he supposedly wasn't having much of the sex?

He must seriously have a massive ego. Or a massive something. Grin

TheWalkingDead · 10/09/2012 19:50

I try to aim anywhere between 10 and 20 days. I don't iron them either as I find that if I manage to get them out of the washing machine straight away and hang them up immediately there's no need. Also, I really hate ironing.

And your DP is a complete arse to point out where you compare unfavourably with his ex-DW, but I think you've probably got that from all the PPs.

DowagersHump · 10/09/2012 19:50

Once every two weeks here - I am a born again virgin though and haven't had a man in my bed for nearly 5 years.

Tell him to fuck right off if he's critical of OCD levels of housekeeping

DowagersHump · 10/09/2012 19:51

That last sentence didn't make sense but I'm sure you get the gist Blush

mummysmellsofsick · 10/09/2012 19:51

Every 2 weeks

Evasmum12 · 10/09/2012 19:53

I change mine twice a week! Feeling like a freak now though.. in my defense both me and my dp have jobs that mean we come home smelling like work and get straight in bed so it is necessary.

Defo do not iron it though!

Ormiriathomimus · 10/09/2012 19:55

All the beds get changed on a rolling rota - ie DH and mine. a few days later DS1.s then DDs and then DS2s. Because I don't like to have a load of sheets to wash all at oncI guess it works out about 10 days. I don't think we are all that skanky.

Chandon · 10/09/2012 19:55

It is not relevant how often I do it.

it is relevant that to him changing sheets is a job for the female.

And it is up to the male to criticise if it's not done properly.

not my kind of relationship, but maybe you like that, in which case do as he tells you, and smile

CheshireDing · 10/09/2012 19:56

Once a week on wash day.

I used to iron the duvet but then I had a baby and acquired more washing, now it gets hung over the bannister and seems ok. I just iron the pillow cases now.

The scatter cushions when I remember.

I read somewhere you sweat a pint at night so more than a week old sheets would feel a bit grim to me.

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playdotcom · 10/09/2012 19:56

I should point out, he didn't say it in a critical way (I don't think?) He was sort of ribbing me calling me a dirty bitch for not having changed my sheets all week. It was sort of jokey and then he said 'xxxx changed them 2 or 3 times a week, thought that was normal'. He wasn't being malicious, I guess I just want to find out if I'm the freak or she is...

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heather1980 · 10/09/2012 19:57

every sunday here. DH does our bed coz i hate doing the duvet cover and I do the kids beds.

TheCrackFox · 10/09/2012 19:57

Um, you know it really isn't normal for a new(ish) boyfriend to tell you about his ex-wives housework routine.

Run for the hills.

CupsofTeaAndHandfulsOfCake · 10/09/2012 19:58

If someone criticised my sheet changing frequency I would bash them over the head and use the sheets to wrap their body in.

Lueji · 10/09/2012 19:59

Was she washin them because she wanted, or because of him?

He seems controlling.

I'd take the sheets, give them to him and ask him to bring them washed and ironed next time he's there.

TheCrackFox · 10/09/2012 19:59

They always start the criticising in a jokey manner but in a couple of years the joke will have worn thin.

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playdotcom · 10/09/2012 20:00

Don't worry girls, I'm not planning on being with him in a couple of years! God no, escaped that special level of a hell a few years back, could never live with a man full time again!

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ethelb · 10/09/2012 20:01

I change twice a week in summer and once the rest of the year. I'm not bothered if I forget and they are on for two weeks though. I tried ironing them once but they crumpled in the closet so never bothered again.
He can pay you to not go to work if he wants a housewife though.

pumpkinsweetie · 10/09/2012 20:01

Run for the mountains, he sounds controlling and obsessive about cleanliness!! Once a week to once a fortnight is normal, every 2-3 days is absolutely bonkers, pointless & not to mention the waste of washing powder & energyGrin

chandellina · 10/09/2012 20:03

Once a week is definitely the norm that many people only aspire to, and I'd wonder a bit at any boyfriend who first noticed and second felt compelled to tell me about his ex's housekeeping.

SoleSource · 10/09/2012 20:05

Every 3 days as DS in nappies and he poos in his sleep sometimes.

Ephiny · 10/09/2012 20:06

Once a week is fine IMO.

Actually it's a really odd thing to say. Why not compare your sheet-changing habits with his own current ones, rather than with what his ex-wife used to do?