to think my best mate went a bit bridezilla on me

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I was planning to go abroad to a wedding party of my very good girlfriend with my family but eventually decided to go on my own because dh was less than enthusiastic and my kids were tired, it being the end of a busy summer hols.

My girlfriend was NOT HAPPY about this. She said I had left her out of pocket as they had put the final numbers through and because of me saying I would stay at her house and then not everyone else was out of pocket as they had to stay in hotels.

Clearly it is not my fault my kids are tired. It is because of the kitchen extension.

AIBU? Or, more likely, has my girlfriend turned into bridezilla?

Yabu. And rude too. The DC would have got a 2nd wind. She has put herself out by arranging accomodation for your family and meals too...and you pulled out.

YABU

It sounds as if you've messed her around a bit. You surely knew your DH wasn't up for it and it was the end of the kids summer holidays when you said you'd go.

You've also messed her around re where you were staying so sorry but she's not being a bridezilla if you can't make your mind up about anything and have put her and others out of pocket as a result.

Well, if you have promised to attend as a family, then changed your mind after accepting then I can see how she would be a little pissed off if it has affected cost.

who is having a kitchen extension??

YABU, she and other people have spent more money than they needed to because of your decision.

Kitchen extension? Did I miss part of the story?

If she has confirmed numbers and others who could have stayed with her have had to pay for hotels then yes I do think you are being unreasonable.

If your DH was less than enthusiastic you shouldn't have said yes to him from the start if he was going to pull out.

YABU. She isn't a bridezilla, she just would prefer it if her so-called friends would make their minds up and not pull out last minute leaving her with the bill.

When is the wedding? Fairly soon if she has confirmed numbers I would guess.

YANBU if she had plenty of notice, if it is next week YABU

I don't understand the OP.

If you let her down at the last minute and she is out of pocket then you should cough up.

YABU. You RSVPd yes to all and the only you went?

She asked other friends and family to stay in hotels so shecould accomodate you whole family and then at the last minute you cancelled these arrangements?

If "yes" is the answer to one, nevermind both of the above then you are being massively UR and, frankly, a shitty friend.

Yabu

I am having a kitchen extension so my family and I haven't been able to stay in our house all sumnmer as it is rather dusty and workmen everywhere. That is why the dc are tired.

How was I to know dh would have a busy time at work right about now?

I offered to pay for the extra but my girlfriend said it was the principle of it rather than the actual money (about 100 per head I think but she never even told me the exact ampounty).

Must be reverse aibu.

Well, that's one less Christmas card you'll have to read/write from now on. Yes, you are definitely BU.

Dc are tired because of that? (rolls eyes)

Yabvu. And inconsiderate. Not surprised she is upset. Not bridezilla at all.

Hi iggi777
What is reverse aibu? Sorry, not on that often.

Yes iggy, I have fallen for it(again)

Oh yes YABU

YABU up change plans at the last minute. YABVU to then call your friend bridezilla because she has made you aware of the impact this has had on her and the other guests.

Can anyone explain to me how children are always tired at the end of the school year and tired at the end of the school holidays? If they are tired, get them to bed earlier. If they are fed up, that's a different thing.

I like the term "Exact empounty"

Extension aside...you ARE STILL being unreasonable.

Of course yabu, what did you expect ?!

YABU and extremely dismissive