to think my best mate went a bit bridezilla on me

[formallyknownasloveydarling]

I was planning to go abroad to a wedding party of my very good girlfriend with my family but eventually decided to go on my own because dh was less than enthusiastic and my kids were tired, it being the end of a busy summer hols.

My girlfriend was NOT HAPPY about this. She said I had left her out of pocket as they had put the final numbers through and because of me saying I would stay at her house and then not everyone else was out of pocket as they had to stay in hotels.

Clearly it is not my fault my kids are tired. It is because of the kitchen extension.

AIBU? Or, more likely, has my girlfriend turned into bridezilla?

Nope still don't get why YANBU. Do you never talk to your DH at all unless you are going on holiday?

Why are you asking if you you are U when clearly you are determined that you are totally reasonable?

Why could you not discuss it with your husband before the holiday? Do you go months without speaking as a rule?

Re: people 'squashing up' - there are only so many rooms & beds in her house, surely?

With each post you sound more unpleasant, OP. I would stop digging if I were you.

why are you all falling for this obv wind up?

OP, you should report this and ask for it to be moved to mn classics.

As I said, inviting someone 2 weeks before your wedding is plain rude - it would be terrible of her, it's less insulting to say "we didn't have space" or "we are just having a few close friends and family" than a 2 week notice invite which says "we were only having close friends and family, and you didn't make the cut, but I've had a drop out so just need you to fill the seating plan" - 2 weeks before the wedding, she's probably invited all the people she actually wants to have at her wedding.

so best case senario is she spends £300 feeding people she's not all that fussed about having at her wedding.

Keep going OP, your really making me laugh!
In fact shall I get you a shovel so you can dig an even deeper hole from which to spout utter crap?

i am laughing at the personal touch given by an actual phone call, in person, you know, speaking and everything. I didn't realise phone calls were such a special treat!

Hoping this is joke.

When did you receive the invite then if you only discussed it with your husband a few weeks ago (I presume) after your holiday?
Did you not get 5 minutes at all any other time to discuss it? Like when you were planning your extension?

Either this is a joke or a reverse OP. While you didn't formally RSVP you must have had a conversation with your friend in which she offered for you to stay at her house.

2 weeks notice is not enough to invite people, the caterers would have requested final numbers 6 weeks before the due date.

And as for squashing up? Words fail me.

I didn't book flights because there are millions everyb day there with space. And I thought we might have driven.

My DH works very long hours, often away and we have been busy organizing our extension and have busy lives. That is why it crept up on us very quickly without having chnace to discuss it.

Is there any point ecven telling some of you this?

Where is the mn empathy tonight?

I am very upset my girlfriend told me she was cross about it. I am crying as I type this and why won't anyone make any effort to look at the facts and respond fairly?

With every post you sound more and more like a selfish, self-absorbed cow.

We are responding fairly - what don't you understand?!? YABU!!!!!

Ok Who's that trip trapping over my bridge?

Oh I'm crying too - just with laughter. Good one OP.

Empathy?
Gor did no one tell you that if your sensitive don't post on AIBU

OP - everyone is looking at the facts and responding fairly. You just don't want to hear it.

Oh, and YABVU.

ha ha ha ha ha

The MN empathy is busy on other threads where is belongs.

There is lots of mn empathy tonight for your poor friend for goodness sake can't you see why she is upset and that you have been a rubbish friend?? really ?? Think about it.

But we are responding fairly. By seeing her side and yours.

When DH and I receive a wedding invite we discuss it when we get it, normally 6 months before the actual wedding. Could you not have discussed it as soon as you found out the date?

It was my friends wedding on Saturday, I knew the date a year ago although the invites went out 6 months ago. We've planned our summer and plans around it.

First time poster?

YABVVU. I hope you won't miss your 'friend' when she never contacts you again. You should have;
A) as soon as you were invited, told your friend your DH and DCs wouldn't be going (you knew it was the end of hols and you were getting the extension).
B) sucked it up and told your family you were all going, regardless of how tired they were, as your friend had gone out of her way to ensure you attended one of the most important days of her life.

OP, you cannot be serious so I am joining those who say this is a wind-up.

Goodnight.