to want another child although strictly speaking we can't afford it?

[melonandpapayaandmango]

If we had a fourth, no one would starve, no one would go barefoot and no one would be homeless.

DD is 5, DS1 is 3 and DS2 is only 3 months. I've always wanted a big family, DH was happy with 2 children but I persuaded him to have a 3rd - he agreed and now he has said he likes the idea of an even number.

at the moment my two older children share a room (DS2 is in with us) but we hope to move house in the next 2 years but it would probably be a 3 bedroom property meaning the two boys would still have to share - a third DS would go in with them, a daughter would share with DD.

it's mainly the living space - any thoughts?

What if you aren't there in 10 years. What if your DH gets a headship in an area where things are entirely different?

I'm not determined to think you are scuppering the chances of your dc, I am just trying to say that life sometimes goes off at a tangent and serves you a googly

The kids all go to the local comp. Where do you live, Melon?
That state of affairs is not guaranteed to last, you know?

Are you in scotland op? We all went to the local secondary, regardless of test results.