AIBU to think it's odd to ask for cash towards honeymoon as a wedding gift?

[Vagabond]

With a registered company who takes the money. I suppose it takes the pressure off but it does feel a bit odd to me. Second marriages - they have all the toasters they need so I guess it makes sense. How much to give?

I don't see why a honeymoon had to be expensive or abroad. We were short of money so went camping for a week. I think it cost £50 plus petrol

Is mini-moon a new trend? Lordy.

I think it is. I've just googled it. Apparently, less than two weeks in somewhere like Venice or Turkey counts as a mini-moon.

A mini-moon? WTAF?

If a friend invited me to a wedding in the UK that cost that much to attend, even if I could afford it, I would say no. It's too much money. When you add up how much all of their guests had spent, it must have made their weekday saving look like pennies.

Chocca - my dh istalian and we had to have a blessing there - it was all money gifts (and my fil gave us something equating to £10 for him and to cover about 10 mates he invited) dm's community weddings in UK are money gifts (much more than italian weddings as you can all see what you're giving), and my english friends a variety of stuff from money towards a honeymoon to the awful but expensive gifts I'd buy them in good faith.

A whole range of stuff you can do - all acceptable in my view.

expatinscotland Tue 28-Aug-12 08:53:57
It's the same thing, making an assumption about gifts when you issue an invitation. 'Come on over for dinner, but since it's the norm to bring something, I'd like some money, I already have plates, napkins, wine glasses and cutlery.'

^ This made me giggle. It's the same line of thought though.

You might love the couple and wish them the best in marriage, but how on earth does that equate to paying for their holiday?

Yes, the wedding I am going to next weekend costs nearly £300 for me and DD to attend. We were all invited but can't afford for all of us to go as both DCs are over 2 so have to pay for 4 plane tickets, it's just too much money. Luckily we have a wedding to go to later on in the year which requires just walking into the city centre and then they are providing a free coach to get to the reception, so no money spent on tranportation (well perhaps a cab back from the reception), so we can be much more generous with a present (From the gift list) for that wedding.

Here here!!

I declined the one invitation I got with the poem in it asking for.money for a holiday. I had just graduated and cash was a real problem for me.

Not that much has changed now. with student loans, bills, mortgage etc our holiday this year involved looking for £29 premier inn hotel deals and searching for the cheapest train tickets possible to.get there. it'll be great and having quality time away with DP is all that matters.

I'm not funding peoples honeymoons when I can't afford such holidays myself.

What a lovely person. How lucky your friends are.

If i can't go, no one goes. If I don't have it ,no one has it.

I saw an episode of superscrimpers where the couple couldn't afford catering for their wedding and so every guest brought a dish with them instead of a present. Now that was a lovely idea. I think people should be much less mercenary about weddings.

Everyone bringing a dish is a lovely idea, makes everyone feel involved, bet they had a great day. No-one is forcing the complainers to go to these weddings. Pfft I dont even believe in marriage but believe less in such bad feeling towards friends and family