To be annoyed by these parents at dd's school

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Setting myself up for another school run here. DD started primary school five days ago, and since then i've witnessed the following:

One mum has been late every day with her primary one child. She gets into the yard just as the last child in the line is going through the door. Her excuse? She was busy doing her makeup and tan, but LO's been ready since 8.00am.

Another mum works at a shop literally a one minute walk from the school. Her child is also in dd's class. She gets to the yard at approx 8.50am, deposits her child there and leaves him standing there hysterical, calling over at him, "I'm sorry X, but mummy has to go to work!"
Twice, i've seen her approach random mums in the yard saying, "Excuse me. Do you mind watching him for a few minutes 'til the bell goes? I can't be late for work."
One of the mums recommended a breakfast club her own child used to attend, but the mum laughed and said she's not paying for 2 hours care when she only needs someone to mind him for a few minutes.

And finally, another mum told me she uses the breakfast club twice a week to give her a 'break.' She is a SAHM, has no other children, but early mornings don't agree with her apparantly. So she gets her husband to drop LO off at breakfast club (also a newstart primary one) on a Thursday and Friday at 7am so she can stay in bed. She's thinking of putting him in after school club too because she lives a twenty minute walk away and can't be arsed traipsing out in the rain to get him. so then her husband can just pick him up after work instead (her words).

I'm shocked! Really shocked. I'm new to the playground stuff, but is this normal?

I feel like the abnormal one by turning up with dd on time each morning.

WTF has any of this to do with you?

Don't worry about it.

None of these things you describe affect you in any way.

Just enjoy your own life and your own family and don't disturb yourself judging people about trivial things that don't impact on you at all.

Can I suggest smiling and talking to some other parents rather than spending your time judging others?

You have no idea what these other parents' lives are really like. You will meet all sorts of people with different backgrounds, experiences, attitudes over the next few years and you might even like them if you give them a chance.

There is a very well known theory of inertia regarding children who live very close the school - they will always be late because it's easy to put off leaving for just one more minute because it's not far whereas people further away who perhaps drive have more to consider so have more reasons to get ready and go.

But you really need to get over these things. The thing about the school yard is it's there for education of mums (and dads) in the wide variety of parenting styles.

And you are only going to be known as 'hoity toity unfriendly mum' at this rate.

I don't suggest offering to take care of other peoples children - that way you become 'doormat' mum.

See if you can aim for sanguine mummy instead.

Oh okay Fallen. Must be a more slovenly lot near me . She wasn't late though, she got there when the last LO was just going through.

YABVU and should mind your own frigging business!

You have no idea what goes on in other people's lives/houses. I am a SAHM. DH used to get my 2 ready for school because mornings don't agree with me. Shall I tell you why? I am disabled and in chronic pain, I take strong pain killers but am awake a lot in the night and in the morning I have difficulty waking. That SAHM might be an insomniac, she might take medication that makes it hard for her to wake up! You don't know!

Pull your judgey knickers down and look after your own kids!

Yabu

So a woman is late but the door still open, sorry not late then.

Heaven forbid someone might not want to spend every waking moment with their child and let's them go to breakfast club. Terrible behaviour, quick shoot her

And as for the mum who doesn't want to pay for two hours care, i wouldn't either! A few mins in playground surrounded by parents and children is hardly dangerous!

Toughen up, stop judging and be prepared it gets worse as kids get older

Bloody hell, do you keep a notebook?

Yabu, some of the situations are not ideal but not worth more than an eye roll.

Unless you're about to drip feed?

Anyone else wondering what the other parents think of OP. Those that have the leisure to stand and observe?
I think I'll have to watch out for her posts over the next few years and see which of my pigeonhole she fits in as a parent. At the moment she's in smug and virtuous.

Our children have been in nursery and school 8.00 - 5.00 every day since age 2 because we work at home and they enjoy it.

I'm a terrible sahm (apart from three hours a week work), and I was awful, I put dd2 into nursery four extra mornings a week!! Do you know why?? Because she has SN, her sister has SN, and dh has cancer. Maybe just maybe this terrible breakfast club mum is dealing with more crap than you know and those extra hours help her get though the week.

You're just not playing the game, MoreBeta, there needs to be guilt and paranoia and justification for one's actions.
Oh.
Hang on.
Are you a bloke?
As you were then.

I feel sorry for the working mum - I doubt very much that she wants to leave her child in the yard and go to work before school has started, but she is under pressure to be at work on time, so she can do little things like, I dunno, buy food? Pay the rent? Also breakfast clubs are expensive - she might not be able to afford it.

I would probably judge the sahm who is using the breakfast club (unless she was ill, or caring for a sick person). Surely the point of being a sahp, is to actually look after your child yourself.

As for the woman who gets to school at 8.50 - that's sensible to me. Who wants to get their early?

I expect people judge me too, when I am doing the school run - I think it's natural. People can be right bitches

Mind your own business and you will be fine. Just concentrate on yorself

Just checked your profile MB, you are a man, and you have no children
Outsourcing really works for you!

jimmenycricket - that's me unfortunately! Glad there's a theory for it as just thought it was me being un-organised in the morning. We live next to the school and often hear the bell as I'm locking the front door but luckily as there's 5 lines of kids to go in DS manages to get in before they lock the doors.

Never had this problem before we moved a year ago as had to drive so always got there early to make sure we would be able to park.

You're getting a very good view of all those people's private lives from that high horse.

How do you know about the makeup and tanning?

How do you know about the woman wanting to stay in bed?

Sticking your neb in and half-hearing conversations is never a good basis for assessing others' choices.

Lisad. That's a lot on your plate!

Had a nosy at your profile, your girls are so cute! (and your husband is tasty!)

I don't even understand why any of those things affect you?
Yabu

Mine loved breakfast club. I'm a terrible mother, I don't even bother getting off the bus with ds2! Bus stops outside school, ds2 gets off I stay on and go back home. He's usually 10-15 mins early as well, plenty of children allready in the playground. No parents in sight, they've probably dropped them off early on their way to work. There at junior school though, it's very rare you see another parent, thank god

They're even

FallenCaryatid - oh I am tortured with guilt.

My DSs told me yesterday they want me to send them to breakfast club at their new school rather than giving them breakfast at home and getting them there for 8.30.

I asked if they really wanted to spend even more time at school form 8.00 to 5.30? They said YES in a very adamant way!

They have said they want to go to baording school on several occassions.

What have I done?

Now it appears my children want to spend as little time with me as possible.

OK you are serious right ? what other people do is none of your business maybe the late mum maybe is just getting used to the whole school thing who cares if a kid is in breakfast club SAHM doesnt mean you are a martyr to your child , please just drop your child off at school say hi to people and go home , and keep your nose out of their life ,