To want to stand in the middle of the shops and scream 'stop fucking staring at him'

[DozyDuck]

I won't. I've just had enough. DS has ASD. He has a regression at 3.5 he lost all his skills. He's now losing skills again at a rapid pace. I'm worried sick.

In McDonald's today after riding lesson he was making his autistic noises and two teenage girls were staring at him, pointing and laughing . I know they're just kids but it hurt. I opted for a hard state but they just laughed more so I ignored them.

Then on the way home I nipped into the corner shop, where all the shop assistants know us, he's usually fine there but now in the midst of another fucking horrible regression he can't seem to handle it there at all. He was shrieking and pulled a tin off the shelf and I was holding his hands in the queue to stop him (we had run out of milk I had no choice but to go) and some older woman was staring at him and shaking her head.

I wanted to shout at her 'what the actual fuck do you want me to do? He doesn't understand words, doesn't feel pain, I'm trying my hardest!'

I opted for standing in the queu and breaking down in tears.

Luckily the shop assistants came over and said I should ignore them not let people like that bother me etc etc.

I feel like i am now at breaking point and I had better not even leave the house because I just want to shout at them all to get on with it and leaVe us alone. Which will only make them think I'm someone who can't even control myself.

Just leave me alone.

First SN = an, luck = lick. Bloody Autocorrect.

Hi DozyDuck, sorry to hear what you have been going through. I totally understand about not wanting to have to tell random strangers about your son's condition, but I've found these cards from NAS very helpful www.autism.org.uk/Products/Core-NAS-publications/Autism-Cards.aspx. It saves you having to say anything at all really - just hand over a card along with your best "death stare" x

I'm quite happy to calmly educate when DS is doing something that's calm and just autistic, like repeating phrases, doing the same thing over and over.

But who in their right minds thinks NT children of that age make that noise?

I can't calmly inform when ds1 is kicking off as he needs my full attention or someone (probably him tbh) will get hurt.

Plus I've found that people who tut etc don't actually want to be educated.

And I'm not calmly informing anyone who screams or swears at a child.

Some people have no self-awareness, OP. They are utterly ignorant and lack very basic manners.

Anyone with half a brain cell and an ounce of compassion, and indeed, class, does not stare at other people, and certainly does not laugh or shake their head at other people.

I wonder where these people actually come from, which hole they crawl from, because I don't know anyone who would do this to another human being. They are to be pitied, really.

Although I must admit if I have another adult with me I do enjoy a bit of passive aggressive commenting on the tut tut brigade.

My friend has a good line she uses 'oh DS do stop being so autistic you're scaring that lady'

I tend to ignore nine times out of ten but one of my PA's gets really upset by it. I found her shaking with anger after the first time someone had a go at ds1. She kept saying 'but he wasn't even doing anything'.

I quite like the other adult conversation about the tutters bit

There's rarely another adult with me tbh.

Today while out I realised I am so focused on DS I rarely notice what anyone's doing. Like today I wouldn't have known if someone was staring at him or not, so I thing starers/ tutters would have to be ridiculously obvious before I noticed. Which is very