do not like being called first name by my friends kids

[dafi]

well....

My own kids call me by my first name and I don't have a problem with that so other children can call me by it too.

One of our friends is a teacher at DD2's school and at school she is Mrs N and outside school she is called by her first name.

First name fine with me too, I don't mind shop assistants etc calling me by it either, far rather they did that than called me Mrs which I detest.

Although that 's not the question is it, YANBU to want to be addressed the way you prefer, that is your choice.

I hate my kids friends calling me Mrs - makes me feel 103, although I am impressed that they called me Mrs the first time until invited to use my first name.

I was a bit surprised when DD's 5 yr old friend called me by my first name but then quickly realised I'd rather she did that than call me Mrs Malfi - far too formal.

There's a difference between wanting to be called, 'Mrs X' by children and not wanting to be called by your first name by children.

Exoticfruits the children that call me Teacher come from cultures where that is used as an honorific/title like Doctor or Sensei. They are being respectful in the context of their own culture.

I'm not sure, my first reaction is anyone who feels like this needs to pull the stick out of their arse. But I guess then thinking about teachers, it would be nice for children to be able to be on first name terms, but I think calling teachers Mr or Mrs whatever seperates them from other adults, and formalises them more in a situation where a teacher has to keep a grip on 30 kids every little helps.

I also remember back to the days of calling neighbours Mr and Mrs whatever, they were still lovely and kind but it kind of seperated them from friends and family. It wasn't just kids that called teachers and neighbours by their title it was my parents too. I quite like being called Miss Itwasall it make me sounds all important and gives me a feeling of mystery! Although I would never ever insist on it or even give it much of a thought. I also think calling everyone aunty is just a bit ridiculous unless you are their actual aunt.

My friend's children, and DD's friends call me Pavlov. Sometimes her friends call me LittlePavlovsMummy and i tell them they can call me Pavlov if they want to, sometimes they do, sometimes they don't, I don't mind either way. I do not want to be MrsPavlov to them, it makes me feel old.

DD and DS call very close friends Aunty and Uncle, those she refers to as that are those who are in fact aunt/uncle like in their relationship, rather than everyone we are friends with, everyone else they call by their first name. Some friends who are not so close want the children to call them aunty (for some reason, it is more the females that want this than the males wanting to be known as uncle), and if that floats their boat then I dont mind the children calling them that, but when we talk about those adults we just refer to them as their first name.

But, YANBU to not want it if you dont like it. But, in that case you have to make it very clear that they must call you by our surname. But it is very stuffy.

but this is in relation to friends, neighbours etc. Not teachers and other professionals. Teachers should be Mrs/Mr as this denotes a professional relationship.

In my job I get called Pavlov by a lot of my clients, and at first I don't always like it. And there are some clients who use it in an overfamiliar way so I have started introducing myself as MrsPavlov and then once I have established the barrier/groundrules to our working relationship I relax it, or not if I don't like their manner in using my name.

I always want companies who call me, such as water/gas/electric/the bank to call me Mrs Pavlov.

It maybe part of their culture, in which case I would explain that we don't do it here rather than respond with 'child'.
Half the problem is that if you insist on your DC calling them Mrs to start with they maybe Ms or Dr or in my my case a different surname from my DC. I don't want to explain my circumstances to visiting children and I'm not sure my DCs would either.

It's a complicated matter :)

The school would ring me up and call me 'Mrs DCs name' -I just used to say 'Yes' and it was a lot simpler. I certainly wasn't going to explain being widowed to parents and DCs that I didn't know well.

I used to call all my parents friends auntie and uncle. Patents of my friends were mr or mrs. I think the bit my patents should have added was "unless they tell you otherwise". People should be addressed how they would like. But they do need to tell you what they would l

Sorry, what they would like to be called. No one, least of all a small child, is a mind reader. These days I think first names for adults is the accepted norm in my circles. I'm embarrassed to say that I didn't stick with my children addressing our close friends as auntie and uncle. It felt very weird and so I broke my own rule. If they had said "actually we prefer uncle x and auntie y" we'd have grinned and borne it but it just seems to have died out.

"YABU unless you are their teacher."

Why? If it's perfectly fine to call adults "Sally" or "Fred" why should it be any different for teachers?

I insist my children's friends call me ma'am and back out of the room when leaving.

Mrs Moln is what DH's friends must call me.

I hope they all curtsey, Moln.

If my kids teacher called them ''child' in response to being called 'teacher' I would question their abilities.

Teacher .... Pupil

Adult .... Child

Some people are so far up.their star its unbelievable!

Love "wing commander, may I.have some squash?"

Op, yabvu! What on earth is wrong with people, big or small using your name to address you?!

Ha ha, star = arse!

You would be unlikely to know Jeezy. I only ever had to do it once- children are quick on the uptake. (unfortunately they get it from parents who think it is acceptable).

I didn't use pupil because at that age many wouldn't have understood. Older DCs don't do it.