do not like being called first name by my friends kids

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well....

I make people refer to me as 'her royal highness', i find it comands respect

Besides which I would then be called mrs ex bf surname iyswim which just sets my teeth on edge grr.

YABU.

I had a neighbour who i called mrs x however i called her dh by his first name. Have no idea why.

I get called Tia (Spanish for aunt) standard practice here. Took me a while to get accustomed though.

If I were living in UK I'd prefer to adrdresed as Adorabell rather than Mrs Wossaname, mainly because I'm double barrelled and people who don't know me just use OH's part of my name. Which isn't me iykwim.

I didn't grow up using Auntie/Uncle for adults despite being mid-forties now. My OH (mid-fifties) still refers to his parent's friends as Auntie/Uncle. He wasn't allowed to say Mum/Dad until he reached 18. It had to be Mummy/Daddy

YABU, just a little bit.

We have a lot of traveller kids round here. They're all very respectful.

If my dd was called Sarah, I would be known as "mrs Sarah's mammy"

" good morning mrs Sarah's mammy"
Makes me smile.

I'm another on who had to call non relatives Aunty and Uncle. Even as a kid I thought it was weird.

I like to be called Maddie but some of ds1's friends call me Mrs Mostmerry. They are 19 and I find it funny when they come downstairs with their beer bottles and say "Where shall we put our bottles, Mrs Mostmerry". It sounds wrong.

my dd's have a different surname to me and I hate being called 'Mrs dd's surname'

I have a perfectly good first name so would prefer children use it

my best friend's DD has started calling me Auntie workshy, no one asked her to, she just does and I quite like it :)

I'm Dr - having DS's friends call me Dr Kids instead of my first name would be so bizarre there's no way I'm doing it

I love it. I like seeing my DCs looking a bit bewildered too when my first name is used and they try it out too and it sounds all strange.

I love being called "DC's mummy" too.

I've just asked DH what he likes being called by other DCs and he's said "Sir"

I don't like it either OP. But I don't have an answer.

'Auntie AllPast' (my parents' solution for me and my brother's to use with family friends) - no-one does that these days.

Plain 'AllPast' - too familiar. I am not their friend. (Neither am I the friend of the idiots who call me from Orange or whatever. and address me as 'All' .)

Mrs Years - horrible. I never go by Mrs anyway. I'm a Dr professionally, but wouldn't ask kids to call me that, they'd think I was a loon. The father of a friend of my brother's was a doctor (medical, not academic like me) and insisted on being called Dr X socially rather than say Mr X by younger people, or Fred by contemporaries. Everyone thought he was a loon!

'Ms Years' - weird when I'm not their teacher.

I've got used to them calling me 'Allpast' but don't really like it.

YABU

family and close colleagues should use my first name. everyone else should call me 'mrs lovebunny'.

I went to an informal interview/meeting to do some casual babysitting during the day. The mother introduced me to her children as Miss Crash. It was awkward. I declined in the end for various reasons.

Oh and YABvU!

I insist my children always use Mr./Mrs. unless they've been invited to address someone by their first name. It's polite and respectful and just a nice thing to do .

YANBU, each to their own.
I much prefer being addressed by my first name.

YABU. All my children's friends call me by my first name. Respect doesn't even come into it. That gets shown in many other ways.

I'd hate things to be so formal that I was called Mrs 2cats. It would feel bizarre and contrived.

I sort of know what you mean, OP, but I don't like any of the alternatives eitherreally.

My DS calls close family friends 'aunty' and 'uncle' but everyone else is just first name, or occasionally 'Fred's mum' if he can't remember their name.

I know a childminder who's 3yo calls everyone 'Mummy-firstname' (MummyKaty, MummyRachael). I thought it was quite a good solution at first but now I just find it a bit bleurgh/cutesy

YANBU it's completely disrespectful to your husband to completely ignore his name and just use some familial ahead of it. (you did change it of course)

Yanbu

It's about respect for your elders something that's dying out in thus country thanks to middle class bloody liberals

I have lots of aunties and I'm 45 and as I did not have a real aunt I thought it was nice

My auntie Jackie my late mums best friend is still my auntie Jackie and I know she loves that too

But don't expect to find many that agree here op as i have always found mn to be full of middle class liberals and dont understand why anyone would want there child calling them by there own name when mummy is the nicest thing you can hear

But that's just MY opinion and I will go and crawl back into my 1950s cupboard....

I teach my children to go by what the addressee wishes - so 'Mrs Fillintheblank' for some, 'Fill' or 'Auntie Fill' for others.

I would much rather my DDs' friends called me by my name (and then behaved beautifully and respectfully, which they do) than that they called me Mrs Pointy and were little shits. Substance over style,. every time.

And for all those talking about respect - have we forgotten that it's a two way street? I've known some elders (and I'm 44) who behaved like entitled twats.

I'm freeeeeeeezingly polite to them - it usually makes my feelings perfectly clear.

I find it a bit uncomfortable being called by my first name by small children but Mrs Viper is too formal.

My American friend had a system where Auntie and Uncle were used for family only, Mr and Mrs (or Sir or Ma'am) for authority figures and adults who were not known closely, while adults who were too close for formality but not family were Miss Name or Mr Name so e.g. I would be Miss Viper. It took a bit of getting used to but it seemed like a good compromise once I did.