do not like being called first name by my friends kids

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well....

I was trying to puzzle where dogs fitted in!
When I was a DC we called all adults Mr and Mrs , it was the norm, but things have changed.

Ha ha! I can't imagine ever being called Mrs..... by dc's friends, that would be ludicrous.

Nieces and nephews all use first names too. Not keen on Aunty..... so old-fashioned.

I remember calling my mum's friends 'Mrs' until about age 10-12' which was usually about the time they told me to stop it.

My mum's neurotic BF wasn't the least bit interested im me (which is fine), but always wanted to be "Auntie" and used to get really peeved when I would say she wasn't my auntie because I was a bright wee thing precocious little shit

Weirdly I had a cousin 20yrs older than me and my aunt used to insist I called her "Auntie CousinsName" which I thought was ridiculous even then (and so did my mother).

I never it was odd for people to be Mr / Mrs / Dr and still don't but even as a kid I thought it was really off when adults tried to impose a relationship (auntie or granny / nanny whoever) that wasn't there.

IMO it's down to the adult to let people know how whether it's first name, Miss firetname or Mrs Lastname & kids should adhere. as long as you don't want to be everyone's bloody auntie but don't be surprised if people thing you have a pole up your arse if you still insist on Mrs when they're well into their teens

Now don't get me started on cold callers who say 'Hi, is that Queen?' or worse, shop assistants who read your name off the card and say 'Have a nice day, Queen'. I have an easily shortened name IRL so I sometimes get that from randoms as well

I can't stand being called by my first name by children either.

A couple of people have said how would they have known what your name was - what bugs me is that I've introduced myself to the parent, who then insists on refering to me to the child by my first name.

I suppose it doesn't help that I don't like my first name, plus I was brought up to call adults auntie.

Can I stick my head back in and ask a question.

Am in no way being rude or confrontational. I am just wanting to know.

Does a person not have the right to be addressed how they want? Shouldn't we use the name someone wants us to use? can people really say someone is being unreasonable to want to be addressed in a particular way? Shouldn't people call you what you want them to call you?

I teach most of my children's friends and they call me Mrs Please at school and just plain Rose at home. No problem with this. But it is your choice.

You should call a person what they ask to be called. Therefore if they don't want auntie you don't get your DC to do it.

Of course they do, HHP. Surely it shouldn't really matter if the other person thinks calling someone, Mrs X is overly formal or a symptom of some personality defect (as many posters seem to think) - it takes no time, effort or money to call someone by their title if that's how they like to be addressed.

I used to get Xs mummy and then sometimes Mrs or my name I dont mind we used to have to call people MRs X when i was younger it was disrespectful apparently , but my DH had it much worse my MIl insisted he called her friends AUnty or Uncle ,

well, I don't want to be 'auntie' to unrelated children, but I do want to be Mrs X.

Well, not Mrs X (but wouldn't THAT be cool )

I also make my doctor call me Mrs. After he introduced himself as DrX and said so, Hec, what can I do for you...

Oh no, buster. I don't think so

I am not 70 (although I feel like it ) but maybe I do belong in the 50s I have very old fashioned manners, I think.

well, I don't want to be 'auntie' to unrelated children, but I do want to be Mrs X.

sounds like you are a spy

The Auntie thing got right on my nerves when we were getting married cos auntie thingy (not her real name ) or uncle so n so (again not real name ) had to be invited was all very tiresome

sooo many smilies my eyes, my eyes...

I REALLY need to wean myself off those things.

oh yes, Mrsjay. I feel a namechange coming on...

MrsX, secret agent

maryz. ahhh, the "Ug" years. Lovely. I swear they actually lose the ability to speak for about 6 whole years.

ach I really want to tell a funny teen boy story but i dont want to say my second name {sigh}

oh, you can't tease us like that! That's just mean.

Or PM us!

YABU unless you are their teacher.

I much prefer children calling their friends' mums by their first names, rather than the antiquated 'Aunty Doreen' that I grew up with - everyone was an Aunty, apart from the few friends' parents that said 'ffs I'm not their aunty, use my first name!'.

The only exception is one of our friends who actually IS their teacher, we perpetuate the 'Mrs X' and will do until they've left primary, and then she can be by first name.

lol, xpost everlong!

as an aside - Is it auntie or aunty?

I've always thought it was auntie, but thinking about it, it's probably aunty (single) and auntie S plural. Isn't it?

It's a funny looking word, isn't it? aunty auntie aunty auntie

Doesn't even look like a real one