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do not like being called first name by my friends kids

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dafi · 18/08/2012 20:55

well....

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Baskets45 · 20/08/2012 20:43

WellBlowMe, no i wasn't being totally serious. My tongue was partly in my cheek. I often think of various professionals as 'like schoolboys' ( I think it's called getting older - you know what 'they' say about policemen?).

Re my dad's last weekend, i have several regrets about his care, and that I was so pollaxed by the whole situation that i wasn't his best advocate despite being a health professional myself (and actually knowing more about what dad needed at that time than the 'schoolboy with a med degree'), and being desperate not to pull rank. I don't think you can pull rank actually if you're a nurse with 20 yrs experience (as I was then) and you are talking to a very junior doctor (health care hierarchy is a funny thing), but there you go - that's the term i choose to use. Thing was dad was dying from a major stroke, he was desperately uncomfortable, i knew his catheter was blocked (I was looking at the lack of output)- anyone else's dad i'd have pulled screens round and said 'Excuse me, Mr so and so, do you mind if I feel your tummy?' and then explained POLITELY BUT FIRMLY to the very young looking (and slightly inexperienced) doctor what he needed to do about it. And that'sa teensy bit of the tale. And what the nice but very young and experienced doc called him is neither here nor there. He died anyway. There, got that off my ample bosom.

Baskets45 · 20/08/2012 20:45

PS Some of them, about half in med profession, are like school girls. There!! (some of them are my best friends!)

Baskets45 · 20/08/2012 20:52

When working as a nurse, I also would get a laugh when a pompous and not very nice (male) junior doc got called 'son' by a very old man. And in those cases, i am sure the older man would not mean any disrespect at all, and would possibly not be aware the dr in question was pompous. 'son' is just a term of address in some parts of world eg Scotland - older man to younger man, generally. Scotland, where I am now and was then! I must leave you now, some mothering to do ....

LookBehindYou · 20/08/2012 20:54

I'm sorry Baskets. The thing I dread most is my confused and elderly dad dying in hospital.
Please don't tell me that you've crossed your arms underneath your ample bosom. You'd have to change your name to Mrs Batty.

Btw, I don't think referring to policemen has helped your case Wink

Baskets45 · 20/08/2012 22:18

LookBehindYou, it's possible I have! At times of my life I've been very self conscious about said ample bosom and sometimes find myself with arms folded across chest. With no awareness of how arms got there. Sorry!

On a serious note, i think lots of people worry about relatives/selves dying in hospital. I do feel relieved that my mum, who died the year before my dad, was able to die at home in her own bed with just my dad there. It's what she wanted and in the time after she died it was the only positive I could find in the whole thing - that she died at home. As a nurse, i've seen all sorts of deaths in hospital, good, bad, and somewhere in the middle. Dying isn't nice but it is handled better than it was a generation or so ago. This is a whole other thread really.

Baskets45 · 20/08/2012 22:22

PS there was a very young policeman in Aberdeen airport on Friday - i know cos I was talking to him - he looked like a schoolboy in police uniform :-).

Baskets45 · 20/08/2012 22:23

I was very polite to him :-).

DizzyBeeisSchoolShoeShopping · 21/08/2012 16:26

I used to work for somebody who had a military title, he insisted I call him by his title but then tried calling me by my first name. He was corrected very quickly.

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