do not like being called first name by my friends kids

[dafi]

well....

Good point epees, but I've noticed a correlation between the visiting children that address me by my first name and the use of such phrases as "hurry up" when they've knocked over juice and "I don't want any" when they wish to decline something offered to them...

I agree that we should act respectful to expect children to

Absolutely

I really don't get why you're offended at being called your name. If DD's friends called me Mrs GoofyMum I would immediately say please call me X, but that has never happened. This has never crossed my mind.

As a child I was taught that adults, even friends parents, were Mr or Mrs X unless they told us to call them otherwise. I will be teaching my DD the same. I personally think YANBU.

My preference would be for DD's friends when she's older (only 12weeks old!) to call me "Mrs Chocolate"instead of "Gimmie".

Just out of curiosity OP, How would they know your Christian name unless you had been introduced as it though?

What would you like to be called?
I bet most of the kids round my street don't even know what my surname is as it's not the same as my daughters.

yabu get a grip!

I make sure they know it's "your majesty" the first time, then "ma'am" to rhyme with jam thereafter. So much easier if everyone understands the protocol.......

Some people have huge issues about their names. My parents named me with a name so people could use it.

I'm not liberal middle-class.

I'm working class, and had many aunties growing up. But only teachers and grandmas friends were mrs x

Most of my DS1's friends call me "DS1's mum". I prefer to be called Ellie but answer to DS1's mum as well. I feel a bit sorry for my friend though. Her DS2 has the same name as my DS2 so my DS1 calls her "the other DS2's mummy".

Gosh you would hate us then not only do we use first names but we like to change them, twist them even to an abmination of what the name really is.
My Mohter called her neighbours by their Mrs name for over 20 years...

My mum made my friends call her Mrs. Gal. It was embarrassing and I felt laughed at.

I don't find it strange at all. My Mum insisted the neighbours should be Mrs & Mr to me even though they told me to call them by their Christian names. I think the Christian names is much better.

That US custom or whatever country of saying Miss then Christian name is quite nice. Miss Vivienne. Now I wouldn't object to that!

It's complicated now, I wouldn't assume someone was 'Mrs' or had the same surname as their child.

One of my closest friends insists her children call me Auntie Blondie (ie diminutive of my real name) which I find excruciating but she doesn't have any siblings. I'm now pg and don't want to make my child call her Auntie BestFriend but will she find it rude if they don't?

Yabvu.

OP, YANBU.

Yes it's meaningless and pointless, but it's polite. Just the same as please and thankyou.

I will be teaching DD to speak to non-family adults in a polite/formal manner.

Manners and politeness are important, yes there are other ways to show respect, but manners cost nothing.

I agree Viviennemary...Our DDs are introduced to work colleagues/other adult acquaintances etc as Miss /Mr then Christian name. They call our closest, part of the family type adult friends Aunt and Uncle, sign of respect. Christian names all round when it comes to their school friends.

So, OP, you haven't come back to tell us what you would like.

My niece and nephew don't call me auntie, they call me by my first name - I know they love and respect me though. So it'd feel very weird if other kids called me auntie.

One of my friends, now 40, was brought up to think it was impolite to call adults by their first names, and called everyone auntie and uncle. She has been with her dp for over 10 years and is literally incapable of calling his parents by their first names. She can't make herself do it - she says it just feels too wrong. But she doesn't want to call them mum and dad, as she's got some of those already. So she calls them nothing. His parents know this and find it amusing, but it's actually a bit stressful for her. Last birthday her card from them was signed 'from the people with no name'!

Itsallgoingtobefine. Why is it polite? It is formal yes but it's is not necessarily polite. Whst is impolite about your own name?

I'm Prof, used to be Dr. Have never used 'Mrs' for anything and don't have the same surname as my dp and dc. You seriously think I should make visiting kids call me Professor Myname when asking for a biscuit? And what about military families? Please, Wing-Commander, may I have some squash?

i have genuinely LOLed at 'please, wing-commander, may i have some squash'

Would be simple if we had the US system of Sir/Ma'am (though I really can't imagine being Ma'am!)

i would find it odd if ds friends called me mrs freudian (even stranger as i am not married) the tend to call me master freudian's mummy :)

i have been called auntie since i was about 18. its an asian thing once you reach 18ish you become an auntie to anyone who is about 5 years younger related or not. friends, neighbours, friends of neighbours friends

oh yes, let's have a sharp salute, and perhaps a click of the heels too