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AIBU?

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To think this is a massive overreaction?

335 replies

Justme23 · 18/08/2012 09:36

A friend of mine was in tears last night (at a bloody barbecue of all places) because she is having doubts about her almost one year marriage.

Basically her husband suggested recently that she ahem, trim her pubic hair and start taking care of herself a bit more.

She feels he is completely out of order for asking this, he has also said he is struggling to find her attractive any more, that she has completely let herself go since the wedding.

It is true, without sounding like a bitch, she has.
She has put on a lot of weight, no longer wears makeup unless it's a formal do, her hair is never styled and she does tend to live in polo shirts and the same pair of jeans and trainers. She admitted to me not long ago that she hasn't shaved her legs in months and we all could see yesterday that her armpits were well and truly neglected.

She used to be so well turned out and her husband used to be the first to say how beautiful she was and how proud he was to have her.

Their sex life used to be crazy but now is pretty non existent, she said he isn't interested any more.

Yesterday she (hysterically crying) told me she felt he was being disrespectful, nasty, cruel and evil and that she thinks she wants a divorce...

AIBU for thinking she is being very short sighted.

I certainly wouldn't be happy if DP married me and then turned Into a slob and after telling DP last night he agreed and said he could completely see her husbands point of view and would probably feel the same.

???

OP posts:
LineRunner · 21/08/2012 19:37

Loving the OP's doctorates. Grin

mellen · 21/08/2012 20:12

Especially the secret one. I didnt know that MI5 offered higher education Grin

LineRunner · 21/08/2012 20:13

And the Advanced Winking. There must be special diplomatic certificates.

TheLightPassenger · 21/08/2012 21:57

sounds like an unusual approach to OCD support to endorse a sufferer controlling aspects of another's appearance Hmm. this thread gets stranger and stranger.

bigkidsdidit · 21/08/2012 22:39

I am adoring this thread :)

msnaughty · 21/08/2012 22:51

have you asked your friend why she has changed how she looks after herself? is there anything thats been upsetting her that kead up to it.

is she unhappy with how she looks,the weight gain.

maybe she does not feel good about herself. mayeb ask her how she would like to be, what would make her happy.

cerealqueen · 21/08/2012 23:09

After a year of marriage he is refusing sex because she hasn't been as groomed as she once was and has recently had an injury where she is confined to the house more than usual?

I'd be bloody livid if i were her and so should you be on her behalf.

cerealqueen · 21/08/2012 23:11

And not shaving does not make you a slob, FFs. Does he shave his pubes???

LurkingAndLearningLovesCats · 22/08/2012 02:05

OP, please keep posting!

The hole you're digging that just keeps getting deeper and deeper is really entertaining me on a rough day pain-wise.

perceptionreality · 22/08/2012 02:55

he sounds shallow and you sound catty. HTH

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