To think this is a massive overreaction?

[Justme23]

A friend of mine was in tears last night (at a bloody barbecue of all places) because she is having doubts about her almost one year marriage.

Basically her husband suggested recently that she ahem, trim her pubic hair and start taking care of herself a bit more.

She feels he is completely out of order for asking this, he has also said he is struggling to find her attractive any more, that she has completely let herself go since the wedding.

It is true, without sounding like a bitch, she has.
She has put on a lot of weight, no longer wears makeup unless it's a formal do, her hair is never styled and she does tend to live in polo shirts and the same pair of jeans and trainers. She admitted to me not long ago that she hasn't shaved her legs in months and we all could see yesterday that her armpits were well and truly neglected.

She used to be so well turned out and her husband used to be the first to say how beautiful she was and how proud he was to have her.

Their sex life used to be crazy but now is pretty non existent, she said he isn't interested any more.

Yesterday she (hysterically crying) told me she felt he was being disrespectful, nasty, cruel and evil and that she thinks she wants a divorce...

AIBU for thinking she is being very short sighted.

I certainly wouldn't be happy if DP married me and then turned Into a slob and after telling DP last night he agreed and said he could completely see her husbands point of view and would probably feel the same.

???

The outer moons of Planet Zog.

If you didn't want more than one person with the same view to comment on your bullshit situation you didn't need to post about it on a discussion board did you? So sorry agreeing with others who disagree with you and your bile is apparently using playground tactics

I've always wondered something about people who claim to move in circles.

Why don't they move by putting one foot in front of the other, like normal folks?

It might have been like the Haribo advert -'Sign the confession!'

To be fair to the OP, flippinada, s/he could well be moving in mysterious ways.

My best friend told me the other day apropos of nothing that she hadn't shaved her pits for a couple of days.

I was so enraged I had to beat her to death with a bag of disposable razors.

That's true LineRunner.

Wonders if the OP has ever met stranded bear they are scarily similar in their judgey outlook.
(But not identical obvs)

flippinada

Why is wearing jeans and a polo shirt with no make up being a slob?

I was more when I gradually found out all my best friends have all been waxing off all their pubes for years!
I am the last bush standing!
They haven't told me to pull myself together in case my man leaves me though, which is nice.

I'm an Armpit Neglecter
My pubes are...... STILL THERE and all....HAIRY and.....UNNATURAL!!

Not surprised there is a lack of sex drive, I wouldn't want to shag an insensitive twat like her dh either tbh.

Got half way through this thread and judt thought oh my fucking gosh. How on earth do some people manage to interpret unshaven, put on weight, comfy clothes and no make to dirty, fat, smelly slob?

Not having a srict beauty regime isn't the same as being filthy and depressed. I've known someone who is depressed and doesn't wash for brush his teeth or a week, I've also known people who a few years into a relationship start being a bit more practical about their appearance and dont do themselves up as much but are definitely not depressed.

Bloody hell my boyfriend and I have both put on a stone since we met but neither of us are fat. My poor boyfriend suffers from bo no matter how much washing or deodorant he uses perhaps I should dump him for that the smelly bastard?

The op is Samanthas Brick

Samantha Brick thinks we are all after her husband.

Not read the whole thread, but I would be pissed of if my husband said that to me.

He feel in love with me, over the years my appearance will change. I will get older perhaps have white/grey hair will have wrinkles ect but inside I will always be the same.

Justme, imo YANBU. Maybe your friend has depression, maybe she hasn't. I guess you wouldn't really know unless your friend went to the docs. But her wanting a divorce seems a bt OTT. Its all very well saying that we should fancy our OH no matter what, but imo thats not the reality. If my dp put on weight/let himself go I don't think I could honestly say that I would be sexually turned on by him regardless. Maybe your friends dh could have been more tactful.

I didn't read where the op said her friend's dp didn't love her, only that he wasn't finding her as attractive. Did i miss something?

You missed the bit where the OP called me 'ignorant and ridiculous' for referring the 'the lifetime of a mortgage', because s/he says that a mortage doesn't last a lifetime. That was a special moment.

She does not have depression. I do know this for a fact.

She's fallen into a bit of a rut, so to speak, less hours at work because she is now free of debt and more time for lounging about the house.

She isn't obese or a slob, her weight gain was because of an injury and three months non weight bearing on her leg and since then she hasn't been back to the gym. She has come riding with me a couple of times and it is such an effort to get her out for activities.

Her husband misses the sexy woman he married, and that doesn't make him a terrible person.

I'm starting to think 'Justme' is the husband

Now, I can only speak for myself here but if I was a "friend" (and by friend I mean an object of ridicule, mockery and scorn) of op and her circle coven of
plain speaking obnoxious friends dimwits....

Well, I'd probably be depressed too.