to be lonely....?

[WoodlandHills]

I can't be the only one....can I?

I feel like a real sad case writing this, and I really don't want this post to come across as self pitying - but I hardly have any real friends.

Up till early this year I had a close friend who lived near me, she was probably the nearest thing I had to a "best friend" our DC were close too....but we had a big falling out, it turned out she was not the person I thought she was, and she moved away (not because of the fall out). There was no going back anyway after what happened. I was pretty traumatised tbh and spent many weeks very upset, it was awful.

I also have a long term childhood friend, we were very close growing up and into our 20's, she was probably also another "best friend" ...but the last few years we have really grown apart, not sure why. But I am always the one doing the organising meet ups etc, and she often lets me down. It's quite soul destroying making all the effort as I feel if I didn't, I would never see her.

I then have 3 or 4 casual friends, but I just don't really click with them. I like to see them, but often feel awkward around them, run out of things to say etc. I would say they are "mum friends" - and I don't think I would be friends with them if it wasn't for having DC the same age.

I also feel I am quite a walkover, almost as if to get people to like me - for example one of these "friends" I was seeing quite a lot, but I realised whenever she wanted to meet, she was asking me to take her places all the time (I have a car, she didn't) but recently she has bought a car I never hear from her. god writing this down makes me embarassed tbh.

The summer holidays have brought it home to me even more, particularly this year as last summer hols I spent a lot of time with my ex friend. I do work, but only 2 days a week, and my job is not sociable at all so have not made any friends through work. So whenever I am not at work I am home with the DC, I make the effort and take them out, swimming, park, soft play etc but I feel so lonely even though I am with them. They are 6 and 3.

I have even tried netmums "meet a mum" service but not really had much joy.

Hi 'Anne' sorry this is taking up so much of your time. I'm teally grateful and I'm certain I'm not the only one. Off to de-friend you now!

Really, that's really. Letters are rubbing off my keyboard

I am in north west and joined the group when it was set up. I've been looking at the group posts all week and want to post but am too worried about people from rl seeing me on there- tis a small world and all that.

I used to be ok ish at meeting people but am getting worse all the time

Just off to hunt out Anne if that's ok. Also crap at making friends.

Cagney, surely if you are on the group and can read posts you can also see who the other members are? I had a quick run through the list to check for familiar names and faces before getting too involved. And Anne said she checks for mutual friends before new people join.

I added Anne Smith yesterday, waited for the group invite, just checked and AS had defriended me. Have sent request again, but seems am incapable of even making online pals .

I know there has been a massive response to this thread and "anne smith" has been trying to have a clear out of people she has already added to the group, so it was probably accidental. Try again, and send a message, or alternatively, I have PM'd you my fb name if you want to add me, and I will invite you x

I can't find Anne

www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=100004230491780

Another lonely one here. CagneyNLacey where are you? You say north west, I am in Cumbria and would love to meet up for a chat. I have friend requested Anne Smith on FB also.

Could I join too. I previously joined a LP page, but felt much too shy to participate in the chat, but it would be nice to see if anyone close to me

Ive just sent a friends request to the FB after reading another thread about this.

I would love to have some RL friends that I'm not also related to. Which seems to the case at the moment

Have just read through the full thread now and I'm amazed that there is so many of us out there feeling like this.

I seem to really crap at making friends which makes me sad.

I'm in Glasgow and would just like to be able to meet some i could just have a chat with.

I could have written this. Anyone near or in Glasgow?

oh hi vodka waves

Hi bionic

Looks like there is a few of us from Glasgow feeling the same way.

Hopefully we will all be able to get something good out of this

Im in the sw close ish to bath.

Have sent a f request. :)

I've sent a friend request too - I am in Somerset, is there anyone else in the area?

Hi, I just sent a friend request too. I'm in the se area of London if anyone is around?

Glued Pm'd you :)

Quick question re Anne Smith.

Will my fb friends be able to see that I'm friends with Anne Smith even if I get into the group and then defriend her??? CBA with the inevitable 'who's Anne Smith? from my ds who seems to stalk my profile.

Hi teenage, yes it will show you are friends with Anne Smith, but you could delete that pretty quick when you're in the group, tell ds or whoever its someone from work/old friend/woman from the super market.

hi, ive just sent a friend request too, hope no one minds.

ive been watching this thread with interest

Im in North Wales

are groups being set up on Facebook? Is there a glasgow one? I'm near Glasgow