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for keeping my 7 month DD in baby grows?

204 replies

fishybits · 06/08/2012 10:18

MIL and SIL have both said that I shouldn't keep dressing DD in "pyjamas" during the day. MIL has bought her "proper clothes" and pointedly said they are for nursery and SIL took DD upstairs and changed her.

DD is in baby grows for a number of reasons
they are cheap in baby bundles off eBay, her feet stay warm, she sleeps a lot so is comfortable, she's quick to dress/undress,
I don't mind when they get covered in paint etc at nursery etc.

Obviously for smart occasions she has a couple of dresses she wears but I intend to keep her in baby grows till she's about a year old. I said to SIL that when she had children of her own she could dress them in whatever she liked but that DD was my child and that I could dress her however I liked and would continue to dress her in baby grows for as long as I felt like it.

I'm curious to know if I am a bit odd or not. DD is my PFB so I don't know any different.

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vodkaanddietirnbru · 06/08/2012 10:21

at that age mine would be in clothes during the day and babygrows at night.

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fishybits · 06/08/2012 10:22

Why though

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usualsuspect · 06/08/2012 10:23

It wouldn't be my choice, but if you want to thats fine.

RaisinDEritrea · 06/08/2012 10:24

perhaps get some unfooted ones so that DD can feel her feet, she can get some purchase on the ground for pre crawling with her bare feet, we used to call them Romper Suits

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KickTheGuru · 06/08/2012 10:24

Your baby, your choice.

Don't let anyone change what YOU want to do with your baby

Flobbadobs · 06/08/2012 10:25

Your baby your rules. I dressed all of mine mainly because we were bought or given so many clothes when they were born it would be a shame not to, plus I always think of babygrows as pj's. Thats my baby and my rules though!
You're not hurting her by keeping her in babygrows, keep being firm with your in laws x

Spuddybean · 06/08/2012 10:25

Not sure what is unreasonable. I am pregnant with our first and we have discussed keeping it in baby grows (unless for special occasions) for the 1st 9month/year. The just look so much more comfortable for the baby and practical for us.

I don't see the problem altho i can imagine my mum wanting lots of little uncomfortable outfits so they look like a doll!

CMOTDibbler · 06/08/2012 10:25

Not unreasonable at all - shes comfy and happy, and so are you. Babies don't care what they are wearing.

Moshlingmummy · 06/08/2012 10:25

Personally at that age mine would have been in comfy clothes (leggings, jogging bottoms etc) during the day when at home, dressed up a bit more if we were seeing people etc. Mine didn't do preschool til 3 but I did have special pre school clothes for getting grubby in.

I kept ds in baby grows longer than dd, but prob only the first couple of months really. After that they were for sleeping.

Your baby, your choice but if I saw you out with a baby of that age in a baby grow I would prob think you hadn't bothered to get them dressed yet.

fatmummy35 · 06/08/2012 10:26

Odd Confused Do you take her out and about during the day in them? My DS stopped wearing them in the day at a few weeks old and just has them for night time.

TheLaminator · 06/08/2012 10:26

Both mine spent most of the time in comfy pyjama type clothes & baby gros/rompers for as long as possible, for exactly the samr reasons as you. I cant bear babies all trussed up in clothes with belts & bows & buttons, completley pointless and probably uncomfotable for baby.

You are not being U at all.

RaisinDEritrea · 06/08/2012 10:27

The why is part of social mores, night wear for night time, day wear for daytime

It kinda fits in with bright and breezy daytimes and quiet calm nights, day for play, night for sleep, and jammies/babygrows/night wear can help to delineate day and night for the baby. Possibly.

SophieLeGiraffe · 06/08/2012 10:27

I preferred babygros but bowed to societal pressure and largely dressed him in clothes once he went to nursery at 6mo. But usually things like joggers and comfy t-shirts. I liked romper suits a lot as they're basically babygros but look like clothes. I did send him in in babygros when he was teething though - explosive and frequest nappies - easier to deal with in every sense when in a babygro than clothes.

You do whatever makes you happy and whatever DD is comfy in. You could go a step up from babygros and do leggings and tunics once she starts to sleep less and move a bit more?

Wait - SIL took your baby upstairs and changed her!?

StopEatingThatMud · 06/08/2012 10:27

At that age DD was probably just going into clothes during the day. Why? Probably because I care far too much what other people think!

All your points about why sleepsuits are fab are totally right!

I kept DD in them for trips to the swimming pool, lazy days etc until she was about 1 and getting more mobile. She didn't start nursery til then so not sure what I would of done on that front.

Don't tell your DM but I sometimes keep DD in the same vest she's slept in, the next day, under her clothes (assuming she's not covered it in porridge at breakfast time).

Flobbadobs · 06/08/2012 10:31

Another reason DD wears 'proper' clothes is because she chews her toes all the time, soggy babygro feet can't be comfortable!

gladders · 06/08/2012 10:31

your baby your choice.

with ds he wore babygrows for about 3 months as it was easier - he lso wore them after each swimming lesson as it was easier than fighting with jeans/t'shirts etc.

with dd -it was summer time and girls clothes were more fun and I knew what I was doing - so she was in proper clothes for daytime from the beginning.

do whatever works for you

JennerOSity · 06/08/2012 10:32

Personally I think that is fine, and did the same with mine. :)

Babygrows are well suited to all the stuff a baby gets up to and as they grow so quick is a very practical option. Some are very cute indeed too.

When I see little babies dressed like an adult I think that is odd myself, I think it is lovely to see a baby dressed in baby clothes. I see mums with babies in little jeans or dresses who seem to be constantly adjusting and pulling the clothes back into place as a baby is held or rolls around lots, their clothes are constantly riding up etc. Too faffy for me. :)

Also my ds had bad reflux so babygrows which have no wasitband and put no pressure at all on his tummy were perfect.

We progressed to dungarees type stuff once he was crawling as the knees on a babygrow aren't tough enough.

YANBU

WilsonFrickett · 06/08/2012 10:32

I think DS spent most of his time in babygros up till he was around 3 months, then I started putting him in 'normal' clothes but tbh that was more to do with the huge amount of stuff we'd been given for him - I didn't want them to go to waste IYSWIM. If it had purely been down to my taste, I would have kept him in babygros longer because they were snuggly and comfy.

It's your choice really. I think a lot of baby girls' clothes are uncomfy, have seen loads of dresses with buttons down the back for example. It was probably easy to keep DS in little tops/soft trousers for the first year, which essentially is the same as a babygro.

Herrena · 06/08/2012 10:33

You can dress your baby however you like.... she will probably be the only one who's still routinely in babygrows during the day at a year old though (if that makes any difference to you).

One thing I would say is that as she gets more mobile, it may be easier to change to two-part outfits; you can just remove the bottom bit and that way if she gets up and crawls/walks/runs off during a nappy change she won't be tripping over half of an unfastened babygrow! Also with two-part outfits, poo/wee explosions only affect the lower half and you don't have to change both bits Wink

Some0ne · 06/08/2012 10:35

DD was dressed in clothes every day from about a month old.

DS is 6 months now and has worn clothes 4 times. He's comfy and happy in his babygros and I don't have to think out a whole outfit Blush

I do try to go for footless ones at this stage though as his feet are his favourite plaything.

I think you should tell your ILs that she's your baby, not theirs, and it's not up to them to decide what she wears.

PoppyAmex · 06/08/2012 10:36

YANBU I absolutely loathe being uncomfy in bed or wearing man made fibres, so I would never do that to DD, especially considering she sleeps a huge chunk of the day.

She's 5 months now and the only change I introduced was romper suits just so she can get some traction (she's trying to crawl) and can discover her feet.

I think babies in jeans, zippers, buttons and "outfits" (ugh) look uncomfortable and there's plenty of time for proper clothes.

Bunbaker · 06/08/2012 10:37

I don't "get" why anyone would think this odd. DD was in babygros until about 9 months because she had health issues and we were housebound all the time, plus she wasn't sitting up until she was 10 months so putting pretty clothes on her would have been a waste of time and money. When the weather started to warm up and she started sitting I got her some proper outfits.

Babygros are so practical and I admit that I hate to see tiny babies in anything other than babygros.

DoIgetastickerforthat · 06/08/2012 10:37

I used a combination of babygro's, romper suits and playsuits for the first year of my three's life. I just think 'proper clothes' on a child who is not walking, look really uncomfortable/restrictive but accept that that is just my opinion.

I would have bitch slapped SIL for changing my baby - who the hell does she think she is? As long as your DD is warm, clean and comfortable then it's not anybody else's business what she wears.

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fishybits · 06/08/2012 10:37

I didn't know about footless ones, I'll have a look for them.

I do take DD out to meet her public in her baby grows, it's probably the third or fourth of the day due to most of meal down her front or a poonami but it wouldn't have occurred to me that was in anyway odd till the in laws started.

Yep SIL took DD upstairs to change her into proper clothes Smile, I pick and choose my battles and let that one slid, she's great with DD and it made me laugh rather than piss me off.

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pinkdelight · 06/08/2012 10:38

agree with the need for comfort and ease, but would go for soft separates myself. i think older ones look a bit strange in babygro's during the day, like giant babies. not that they need to look like little adults, so no need for fancy stuff.