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for keeping my 7 month DD in baby grows?

204 replies

fishybits · 06/08/2012 10:18

MIL and SIL have both said that I shouldn't keep dressing DD in "pyjamas" during the day. MIL has bought her "proper clothes" and pointedly said they are for nursery and SIL took DD upstairs and changed her.

DD is in baby grows for a number of reasons
they are cheap in baby bundles off eBay, her feet stay warm, she sleeps a lot so is comfortable, she's quick to dress/undress,
I don't mind when they get covered in paint etc at nursery etc.

Obviously for smart occasions she has a couple of dresses she wears but I intend to keep her in baby grows till she's about a year old. I said to SIL that when she had children of her own she could dress them in whatever she liked but that DD was my child and that I could dress her however I liked and would continue to dress her in baby grows for as long as I felt like it.

I'm curious to know if I am a bit odd or not. DD is my PFB so I don't know any different.

OP posts:
forevergreek · 06/08/2012 14:45

Btw people saying how lazy and gross...
You can change a babygro!
One at night and clean in the day. Easy

Fuzzy- 15 months is still little to me. Toddling round park in babygro I can't see the horror there. They are warm/ clean/ and aren't going to get dirt/ sand down back

I am more judgy when I see babies in jeans up to chin, shoes on at 3 months and dried food down them

A social worker would never critise somewone for choice of clothes but would if they were inappropriate to weather or dirty

I hate seeing babies in winter sitting in buggy with huge gap of bare skin between socks and trousers, no hat, no blanket of some sort, all the while an adult with them is dressed for an artic expedition

DumSpiroSpero · 06/08/2012 14:45

I would put a child of that age in 'proper' clothes for nursery, but otherwise I don't see why they have such an issue.

Either way they've got a bloody cheek carting your baby off and changing her because they don't approve of what she's wearing Shock.

My DD is nearly 8 now and I always got her washed and dressed in 'proper' clothes right from the word go. I think part of that was connected with me having PND and it was one of the few things I felt I was actually capable of achieving on a daily basis.

I love seeing babies in babygro's now and certainly wouldn't bother if I had another one. I have just talked DD into getting 'onesies' instead of winter PJ's as I miss them so much Blush Grin!

5madthings · 06/08/2012 14:45

rawshark i have no such excuse today...looks at 19mth old dd who is STILL wearing her pj's they are stripey and cute and just look like leggins and a top, she is comfy and happy, shrug!

AWomanCalledHorse · 06/08/2012 14:46

DS is 7 & half months; if we're not going out he spends his days crawling about in a nappy, if we're going out he gets put in a babygrows (and covered by a blanket, cardi or jacket, so he's not going to be seen unless he's eating), if we're going out & it's hot he's in a vest or romper suit.

He's been in 'people' clothes twice, both times he was dressed by MIL, who thinks I'm odd for not having him in little outfits.

I think we'll start dressing him properly when it gets colder, I don't 'get' why people dress their babies in real clothes (other than it can look cute!) but I wouldn't judge someone for it.

YANBU

JennerOSity · 06/08/2012 14:57

FuzzzyDuck It is a matter of opinion whether you consider babygro's to be nightwear only, or not.
But if, as someone said upthread, you see a baby in a babygro in the day and arrive at the conclusion the parent didn't make the effort that day - that is judgement not opinion.
I don't consider a babygro to be nightwear, so if my baby wears this while we are out it is naff all to do any effort I have or haven't made and everything to do with me just having a different opinion to babywear.
My comment was a response to whoever said upthread that they see a baby in a babygro and think the parent couldn't be bothered that day . I don't expect people not to see babygro's as nightwear but they shouldn't jump to conclusions about others who don't, as it is facile.

RawShark · 06/08/2012 14:58

boffinmum there must someting ou can get away with on here

www.the-all-in-one-company.co.uk/adult_onesies.php

TeWiDoesTheHulaInHawaii · 06/08/2012 15:07

I can't imagine my 7mo in sleepsuits all day.

The cut of them was terrible on my PFB short legged, long bodied DD (she can't have been the only child to just not fit sleepsuits?!) so I don't have many, and now he is crawling at speed they are totally impractical anyway.

PineappleBed · 06/08/2012 15:18

Do whatever you want! Personally I found babygrows a hassle to put on and dd was forever getting two legs down one leg. But I never think anything of babies in them on the day. Two women always have their kids in them at swimming and noone has blinked an eye or commented negatively.

tomverlaine · 06/08/2012 15:23

I kept DS in rompers as much as possible - they are babies for such a short time why rush to put in adult style clothes.

Rhubarbgarden · 06/08/2012 15:25

But why would you change your baby out of a clean babygrow just because it's morning? If it's clean it's still good for the day, surely? Don't you have enough laundry already? [c

Rhubarbgarden · 06/08/2012 15:26

[c was going to be Confused but ds wriggled.

Pooka · 06/08/2012 15:29

Mine were all in baby grows until about a year or so. They are comfortable. They look lovely. They are practical.

Ideal baby wear.

changeforthebetter · 06/08/2012 15:31

I was at a baby massage class when DD1 was tiny. Some stupid cow said "oh yes, I dress my baby in proper clothes, you know.She only wears babygros at night". All the babies were about 4 months old.

Anyhoo, this stupid cow went on to have another baby while the first was still very small. Less smug, more knackered and much busier, the second wore babygros a great deal of the time.

I was that stupid cow Blush and hugely regret that ridiculous comment. Comfort is far more important than anything to a baby. As long as she is happy, I really wouldn't worry what other numpties people think/say.

booomy · 06/08/2012 15:31

My 11mo DS hasn't worn baby grows since he was 6 months! I find them such a faff! as soon as they start crawling it is impossible to get all limbs in. He wears proper pj's at night, so much easier!

My friend has a 11mo who is always in babygrows and looks like a giant baby is bizaare!

Agree that she might want to find her feet a bit, but like all MIL related problems, if it's trivial smile and let it go, then re-dress her when she's gone :)

Molehillmountain · 06/08/2012 15:43

I love babygrows as daywear for babies. Mine had a gentle transition at six months, to me that felt like the right time. With a coordinating cardigan it looked like an outfit to me. And I'm afraid that if the babygrow was clean in the morning they stayed in it. When they could sit to be dressed it suddenly felt easier to do clothes. But people should do what feels right for them.

forevergreek · 06/08/2012 15:45

Looks like a giant baby- wow, that's because erm they are a big baby. Nothing wrong with that

I mentioned that you can change babygros morning and eve if you have day and night ones but personally don't if clean. Otherwise I would change babygro at 8am, then 2hrs later an explosive poo and new babygro, so will need a new one anyway. Baby gets clean one when dirty which is prob twice a day but at no particular time

I now feel like making a giant range if babygros for adults to wear all year around :) cosy

TheQueenOfDiamonds · 06/08/2012 15:50

I think the time of year your baby is born makes a difference too.

My daughter was born in april, and wore babygros more in the first few weeks, then not so much until 6 months, because of the weather. She was about a year old when I stopped putting babygros on her - as the weather was coming warmer again.

My son was born in october and wears babygros. He will probably wear them until 18 months when the weather comes warm again next spring as they're convenient for me to pop him in when he needs keeping warm.

Kayano · 06/08/2012 15:55

I get twitchy when a baby older than 3 months is in a baby grow in the day.

RawShark · 06/08/2012 16:06

forevergreek did you see my link above, someone beat you to it!

Kayano - you should probably get help with that Smile

Kayano · 06/08/2012 16:13

I know it's irrational but my inner hyacinth bucket says 'oh dear, how lazy and not together.'

Even though it's bloody harder to get them into baby grows!

I'm just a mean Internet bitch though

RawShark · 06/08/2012 16:19

But as Jennerosity has pointed out, they may regard as day wear. So have changed it and you are just assuming.

ALthough to be fair in my case it was just laziness.

Would like to point to that news item not long ago which said that people who bathe/shower everyday are harming their health.

Littleplasticpeople · 06/08/2012 16:25

Yanbu in the sense that it obviously is totally up to you what you dress your baby in. However, personally I prefer to dress mine in a variety of clothes for no particular reason other than baby clothes are cute!

I don't dress a 3 week old in shirt & trousers- but there is a happy medium, soft dungarees, leggings etc are comfy, obv day clothes but not 'mini adult'.

Lueji · 06/08/2012 16:39

Night time and day time clothes are just conventions. And are mostly relevant for adults.

Plus, even 7 month old babies sleep during the day.

I kept DS mostly in babygrows. Much more comfortable than clothes with waists.
At least until he walked.

TooManyDaisies · 06/08/2012 16:50

Agree that YANBU

LackingNameChangeInspiration · 06/08/2012 17:29

"But why would you change your baby out of a clean babygrow just because it's morning? If it's clean it's still good for the day, surely? Don't you have enough laundry already?"

same reason as you change out of your PJs and air them before the next night: cause you sweat etc at night, you would in our home anyway its always baking! (don't have our heating on but our neighbours ALWAYS do so the builiding has the overall atmosphere of an over heated nursing home!)