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AIBU?

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Husband problem-Wedding photography

209 replies

Moony33 · 19/07/2012 15:54

We've just got married and the whole thing had been a total nightmare. I've done virtually all the planning(though 90% of the cost was paid for by hubby) My husband has a brother who's a very experienced wedding photographer, but whom hubby also wanted as best man. My husbands brother has had a bad time of it lately so he thought it a good idea for him to do both roles and was told by a close family member that it "would break his heart" if he couldn't do both. I thought this was a terrible idea. When the photos arrived, despite a few good images, the quality was nowhere as near as good as I expected with a lot of the classic images missing and some bad quality shots I've now gone absolutly ape for days at my husband blaming him completly and have said the "marriage is deteriorating before our eyes". I've more or less demanded that he pay to get additional photos done and how he should have hired an external photographer but what makes me the most upset is that he took his brothers feelings over mine. I'm not sure I can forgive and forget until he pays for another photoshot. The photography was a wedding present but i'm so very upset.

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ninja · 19/07/2012 22:25

Maybe her 'D'H could be laughing at how awful she looks in the un airbrushed photos, and saying that the angle of taking them made her bum look big. Could that make her look reasonable?

Now the night before ..... her brother shares a room with a stripper, I'm clutching at straws here

BoulevardOfBrokenSleep · 19/07/2012 22:28

Not bad, TheBigJessie, you're too good at this! If you ever start your own AIBU thread, we'll all have to be massively suspicious of you now, and wonder what really happened.

ninja, only if he was getting the photos out every day to laugh; not if they were following the ancient tradition of laughing once, then shoving the photos in the attic and never looking at them again!

TheBigJessie · 19/07/2012 22:32

"To add insult to injury, my husband has tried to divert blame from his brother, by claiming I really look like that, and he can't see the problem. I went ape then. I don't normally have trees growing out of my head!"

cocolepew · 19/07/2012 22:39

I appear to have married a lunatic. Would IBU to run for the hills.
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WicketyPitch · 19/07/2012 22:58

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biddysmama · 20/07/2012 01:00

yabu, the complete shambolic fuck up that was our 'happy day' gives me and dh something to laugh about .... a year later tho

GiserableMitt · 20/07/2012 06:00

And how will the marriage do when you have a REAL issue to deal with?

Moony33 · 20/07/2012 06:57

Thank you for all your comments.

I don't think calling him a "bastard" is in anyway constructive.

Normally a good communicator he's been quiet and has been very apologetic throughout.

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ViviPru · 20/07/2012 07:14

Confused x100

stuffitunderthebed · 20/07/2012 07:20

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BoulevardOfBrokenSleep · 20/07/2012 07:57

The people who posted 'Leave the Bastard' were responding to your perceived over-reaction by over-reacting themselves, for comedy purposes.

I hope it's not in breach of our sacred Talk Guidelines to mention that occasionally regulars name-change to post weird things, also for comedy purposes.

But, er, yeah, thread summary; marriage important, wedding itself less so, wedding photos not at all.

sugarice · 20/07/2012 08:05

Moony, are you now prepared to forgive and forget about the photographs?

DreamingofSummer · 20/07/2012 10:05
DreamingofSummer · 20/07/2012 10:05

Bollocks "Cowering submission"

kim147 · 20/07/2012 10:33

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CinnabarRed · 20/07/2012 10:39

So he's apologetic and you still can't move on?

Christ on a bike.

cocolepew · 20/07/2012 11:08

poor man.

Maryz · 20/07/2012 11:27

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Dprince · 20/07/2012 11:28

No one has called him a bastard. Those that have said leave the bastard are Ing a mn almost motto (can't think of the right word).
What they actually mean is either leave him for his sake or are being sarcastic.
Quite interesting though that the only bit you picked up on was the bits you think were negative about him and not the bits about you.
Of course he was apologetic. You went ape for days and have told him your marriage may not recover. He is, imo, brow beaten into apologising or getting divorced.
Shame you don't apologise for being so dramatic and downright awful to him.

Proudnscary · 20/07/2012 11:29

YABU for repeated use of the word 'hubby'

gordyslovesheep · 20/07/2012 11:37

he seems to have captured the mood quiet well here

TheBigJessie · 20/07/2012 12:17

That's not the response I expected from the OP, at all. Maryz may have hit the nail on the head with precision, I fear.

PomBearWithAnOFRS · 20/07/2012 12:25

Without wading through all 8 pages of the thread, in response to your OP, can I just say, oh grow up you silly cow foolish woman.

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Mugofteaforme · 05/01/2013 10:20

Poor, kind man.