Husband problem-Wedding photography

[Moony33]

We've just got married and the whole thing had been a total nightmare. I've done virtually all the planning(though 90% of the cost was paid for by hubby) My husband has a brother who's a very experienced wedding photographer, but whom hubby also wanted as best man. My husbands brother has had a bad time of it lately so he thought it a good idea for him to do both roles and was told by a close family member that it "would break his heart" if he couldn't do both. I thought this was a terrible idea. When the photos arrived, despite a few good images, the quality was nowhere as near as good as I expected with a lot of the classic images missing and some bad quality shots I've now gone absolutly ape for days at my husband blaming him completly and have said the "marriage is deteriorating before our eyes". I've more or less demanded that he pay to get additional photos done and how he should have hired an external photographer but what makes me the most upset is that he took his brothers feelings over mine. I'm not sure I can forgive and forget until he pays for another photoshot. The photography was a wedding present but i'm so very upset.

Oh dear, not a good start to married life.

Our photo album is in the loft and hasn't been looked at in years. Forget about it, focus on the day, enjoy being newly wed. You need to find a more adult way of dealing with issues that arise if you hope to have a long and happy marriage!!

It is tradition for the bride and groom to sleep apart the night before the wedding!

I've done a quick tally and the consensus seems to be.....tada!... Get A Grip. HTH.

l think l will go to another thread as l have already had to look up two words 'disingenious' and 'impugning' and am now trying to work out what LTB stands for

Mehinks me is out of my depth so will stick to my forte - doctoring editing photos.

Leave the bastard!

LTB is leave the bastard.

HTH

LTB = Leave The Bastard

Or even leave the bitch.

I predict a drip-feed.

I've been married nearly 8 years. And still haven't got round to putting a wedding album together. I think the marriage is more important than the pics.

A reverse thread surely? They're photos ffs - the marriage is important, not the pics!

You are controlling and emotionally abusive.

He should leave the bastardyou.

Hth.

Something fishy here. The thread not my house. :)

I think you should get some extra shots done in wedding outfits.

I read down expecting to find that the OP is doing a reverse Thread or that she was doing an extreme drip feed thread. Maybe, it's coming later.....

In the meantime, of course YABU

I am glad you got some good shots though, consentrate on those, apologise to you DH and get on with your new life.

hoping the DH starts a thread

Well if your marriage is breaking down you won't need to get new photos done anyway! HTH.

What are you interested in OP? The wedding or the marriage?
The wedding is simply the first day of your marriage.
When that day is over you get on with marriage. It seems you were/are not ready for that.

Mr. Moony33: please divorce Moony33. She'll make the rest of your life he'll.

I'm just imagining the retaken wedding photos, the weary and downtrodden look to the grooms eyes

Never mind, you can have nice photos from your next wedding since this one won't last long

OP please can you hurry up and just admit reverse AIBU so we can have a nice honest-to-goodness wedding photography gripe thread?

Whilst I can understand why you are upset but you DO have a few good images. Relatives of my husband have no wedding photos at all due to the photographer forgetting to take the lens cap off, they laugh about it now. Not sure how long it took them to start laughing about it but they have been married 41 years. I would imagine that, unlike them, you had guests taking snaps too.
I would just concentrate on enjoying your first year of marriage, and take some photos of that.

Is anyone trying to imagine what extenuating circumstances there could be for this?

Overseas relatives? A conviction that bad photographs steal one's soul?

TheBigJessie I am.

I think if maybe several of the guests had died since the ceremony, then YANBU.

Otherwise YABU. Chill out a bit. I got married 4 years ago & still haven't printed my photos off. I'm not entirely sure I know where the disc is either...

M'Kay.

In the interests of the sanity of all of AIBU, I shall write the post you meant to, OP.

AIBU? My wife thinks I am...

We've just got married and it's now turning into a nightmare. My wife did virtually all the planning, as I work very long hours as the sole breadwinner (roles DW and I both decided upon together and I thought were happy with)

My brother was my best man, but is also a very experienced wedding photographer. He's had a bad time lately and a relative told us it would break his heart if he wasn't asked to provide our wedding photography as a gift so I agreed, although my wife was very unsure.

When the photos arrived, despite a few good images, the quality was not as we had hoped with a lot of the classic images missing and some poor shots. DW went absolutely ape for days, blaming me completly and said our "marriage is deteriorating before our eyes". She has more or less demanded that I pay to get additional photos done and how I should have hired an external photographer. She seems to think that I took my brothers feelings over hers, and says she's not sure she can forgive and forget until I pay for another photoshoot.

I felt that I was over a barrel at the time, and having him do our photos would not only make him happy, but save him from buying us a gift while saving us additional cost over and above the already high wedding expenditure. DW is bringing lots of other issues into it now too, including me staying over at his house the night before, which I thought was traditional?

AIBU as she says I am?